Developing Healthy Relationships 1

What Does Love Mean? “ Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.” “Love is a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.” “When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different.” Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it every day.  You really shouldn't say "I LOVE YOU” unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.

Healthy Relationships

How would you define a Healthy Relationship?

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 5

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 6

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 7

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 8

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 9

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 10

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 11

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 12

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 13

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 14

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 15

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 16

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 17

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 18

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 19

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 20

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 21

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 22

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 23

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 24

Healthy Relationships Happiness Trust Love Affection Equality Mutual respect Friendship Laughter Common interests Honesty Support Fair fights Acceptance Comfort Kindness Strong self-esteem Humor / fun Can be yourself Still are independent people Communicate well Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 25

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How would you define an unhealthy relationship?

Unhealthy Relationships No trust No respect Jealousy Abuse – emotional, physical, sexual Bad / no communication Low self-esteem Power issues Alienation of friends, family Unfair fights Other person tries to change you Lies Manipulation Lack of understanding No fun Fearful Controlling Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 28

Unhealthy Relationships No trust No respect Jealousy Abuse – emotional, physical, sexual Bad / no communication Low self-esteem Power issues Alienation of friends, family Unfair fights Other person tries to change you Lies Manipulation Lack of understanding No fun Fearful Controlling Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 29

Unhealthy Relationships No trust No respect Jealousy Abuse – emotional, physical, sexual Bad / no communication Low self-esteem Power issues Alienation of friends, family Unfair fights Other person tries to change you Lies Manipulation Lack of understanding No fun Fearful Controlling Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 30

Unhealthy Relationships No trust No respect Jealousy Abuse – emotional, physical, sexual Bad / no communication Low self-esteem Power issues Alienation of friends, family Unfair fights Other person tries to change you Lies Manipulation Lack of understanding No fun Fearful Controlling Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 31

Unhealthy Relationships No trust No respect Jealousy Abuse – emotional, physical, sexual Bad / no communication Low self-esteem Power issues Alienation of friends, family Unfair fights Other person tries to change you Lies Manipulation Lack of understanding No fun Fearful Controlling Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 32

Unhealthy Relationships No trust No respect Jealousy Abuse – emotional, physical, sexual Bad / no communication Low self-esteem Power issues Alienation of friends, family Unfair fights Other person tries to change you Lies Manipulation Lack of understanding No fun Fearful Controlling Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 33

Unhealthy Relationships No trust No respect Jealousy Abuse – emotional, physical, sexual Bad / no communication Low self-esteem Power issues Alienation of friends, family Unfair fights Other person tries to change you Lies Manipulation Lack of understanding No fun Fearful Controlling Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 34

Unhealthy Relationships No trust No respect Jealousy Abuse – emotional, physical, sexual Bad / no communication Low self-esteem Power issues Alienation of friends, family Unfair fights Other person tries to change you Lies Manipulation Lack of understanding No fun Fearful Controlling Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 35

Unhealthy Relationships No trust No respect Jealousy Abuse – emotional, physical, sexual Bad / no communication Low self-esteem Power issues Alienation of friends, family Unfair fights Other person tries to change you Lies Manipulation Lack of understanding No fun Fearful Controlling Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 36

Unhealthy Relationships No trust No respect Jealousy Abuse – emotional, physical, sexual Bad / no communication Low self-esteem Power issues Alienation of friends, family Unfair fights Other person tries to change you Lies Manipulation Lack of understanding No fun Fearful Controlling Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 37

Unhealthy Relationships No trust No respect Jealousy Abuse – emotional, physical, sexual Bad / no communication Low self-esteem Power issues Alienation of friends, family Unfair fights Other person tries to change you Lies Manipulation Lack of understanding No fun Fearful Controlling Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 38

Unhealthy Relationships No trust No respect Jealousy Abuse – emotional, physical, sexual Bad / no communication Low self-esteem Power issues Alienation of friends, family Unfair fights Other person tries to change you Lies Manipulation Lack of understanding No fun Fearful Controlling Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 39

Unhealthy Relationships No trust No respect Jealousy Abuse – emotional, physical, sexual Bad / no communication Low self-esteem Power issues Alienation of friends, family Unfair fights Other person tries to change you Lies Manipulation Lack of understanding No fun Fearful Controlling Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 40

Unhealthy Relationships No trust No respect Jealousy Abuse – emotional, physical, sexual Bad / no communication Low self-esteem Power issues Alienation of friends, family Unfair fights Other person tries to change you Lies Manipulation Lack of understanding No fun Fearful Controlling Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 41

Unhealthy Relationships No trust No respect Jealousy Abuse – emotional, physical, sexual Bad / no communication Low self-esteem Power issues Alienation of friends, family Unfair fights Other person tries to change you Lies Manipulation Lack of understanding No fun Fearful Controlling Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 42

Unhealthy Relationships No trust No respect Jealousy Abuse – emotional, physical, sexual Bad / no communication Low self-esteem Power issues Alienation of friends, family Unfair fights Other person tries to change you Lies Manipulation Lack of understanding No fun Fearful Controlling Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 43

Unhealthy Relationships No trust No respect Jealousy Abuse – emotional, physical, sexual Bad / no communication Low self-esteem Power issues Alienation of friends, family Unfair fights Other person tries to change you Lies Manipulation Lack of understanding No fun Fearful Controlling Healthy Relationship Comparison Activity: possible answers 44

What do you think of this statement about helping teens with relationship decisions? “It is clear that we need to look beyond the goal of managing the health risks of sex to the goal of building healthy relationships. We must also enlist and support parents as teens’ first and most effective teachers.”

Who are you supporters?