1. Family Life education 8th grade
Coach Staup
Coach Johnson
Coach Cruz

2. Developing healthy relationships
What Does Love Mean?
“ Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.”
“Love is a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.”
“When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouths.”
Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it every day. 
You really shouldn't say "I LOVE YOU” unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot.

3. Healthy relationships
Happiness
Trust
Love
Affection
Equality
Mutual respect
Friendship
Laughter
Common interests
Honesty
Support
Fair fights
Acceptance
Comfort
Kindness
Strong self-esteem
Humor / fun
Can be yourself
Still are independent people
Communicate well

4. Both Partners in a Healthy Relationship are:
Treated with kindness and respect
Honest with each other
Like to spend time together
Take an interest in things that are important to each other
Respect one another’s emotional, physical, and sexual limits
Can speak honestly about their feelings

5. Some relationships will end
DISCUSS:
Why might a friendship end?
Why might you end a romantic relationship?
A difficult but (at times necessary) end to a relationship must be handled with maturity and respect.

6. Breaking up with respect
Communicate about the break up in person.
It may be difficult and uncomfortable but respect each other enough to share your feelings in person.
Honesty is essential - don’t offer excuses or promises that you have no intention of keeping.
Immediate separation is important.
Don’t prolong the inevitable.
Give each other needed space.
Speak with respect to the person and about the person in future conversations.
Avoid gossip and sharing of hurtful information about others.

7. Unhealthy relationship
No trust
No respect
Jealousy
Abuse – emotional, physical, sexual
Bad / no communication
Low self-esteem
Power issues
Alienation of friends, family
Unfair fights
Other person tries to change you
Lies
Manipulation
Lack of understanding
No fun
Fearful
Controlling

8. Red flag alert Being physically hurt Feeling afraid of your partner
Spending time with only one person while feeling isolated from others
Feeling controlled
Being threatened (verbally, emotionally, physically)
A nervous or sick feeling around your partner
Partner is easily angered
Fear to make decisions without your partner
Feeling intimidated by your partner
Not feeling respected
Partner has a constant need to know where you are and with whom you are spending time

9. School Resources for Coping with Unhealthy Relationships
Teachers
Coaches
Counselors
Nurses
Administrators
School Resource Officers

10. Ending An Unhealthy Relationship
If you feel physically unsafe, breakup by phone or , in a public place, or involve a trusted adult.
Be clear that you are ending the relationship.
Make sure family members and friends are aware that you are ending the relationship.
Trust your decision and your instincts to end the relationship and seek help from supportive family and friends when you question your decision
Ask for help, if needed
school counselor
family
friend
local police

11. Important resources for help
9-1-1 – emergency situations
National Teen Dating Violence Hotline –

12. Create Your Contact List: Include #, Availability, When to Use Each Contact
Local Police #
Friend/Family # for Emergency
Friend/Family # for Support
Local # for Professional
Counseling Services if Needed
Faith Leader
Health Department

13. Promoting tolerance
Explain the effects of tolerance and intolerance on individuals in society.

14. Tolerance
Tolerance- a fair and permissive (understanding) attitude towards those individuals race, religion, or nationality differs from ones own.
Intolerance- Unwillingness to acknowledge the views, beliefs, and practices that differ from ones own.
Discriminatory- Behavior that makes a distinction in the way and individual treats someone or shows favor or prejudice and individual or group of people

15. Tolerance terms
“isms”: Beliefs, attitudes, assumptions, and actions that subject individuals or groups to discriminatory behavior: racism, sexism, ageism.
Prejudice: Suspicion, intolerance, or irrational dislike directed at an individual or group of people.
Stereotype: An overly simple picture or opinion of a person, group, or thing.
Example - It is a stereotype to say all old people are forgetful.

16. Group discussion
In groups of 4-5 discuss some stereotypes you have heard about various groups

17. Stereotypes and Intolerance
Think, Pair, and Share at least 5 common stereotypes that exist.
Predict how each of these stereotypes affect individuals and society.
How might stereotypes lead to intolerance?
Identify one example of intolerance that has negatively impacted individuals and society?
Describe the short-term and long-term consequences of that intolerance.

18. What does tolerance look like?
Respecting differences
Avoiding judgmental and alienating actions
Acknowledging, understanding, and looking beyond differences
Attitude of fairness and equality
DISCUSS
“What are the benefits of tolerance?”
…to individuals?
…to society?

19. Communication skills
Passive, Assertive, and Aggressive

20. Types of communication
Passive: offering no opinion or resistance
Aggressive: communicating in a rude or disrespectful way
Assertive: stating opinion in a respectful or positive way

21. Continuum

22. Assertive communication is a win-win

23. Steps for “I” messages Tell the person what bothered you.
Tell the person the effect that his/her behavior had on you.
Tell the person how this behavior made you feel.
Example:
“When you went to the concession stand at halftime and never came back to sit with me, I had to sit alone for the rest of the ballgame. I was embarrassed and angry.”