Adolescent Sexuality Sexual ______, _____________, and ___________ Learning how to _____________manage sexual arousal and attraction Early initiation of sexual activity linked with affiliation with __________and _____________ Need for sexuality education-what do we know about abstinence-only education?

Behavioral Changes Drug and _______ use High risk ________ behavior Binge drinking Abuse=causes problems ________ ________=causes ________ High risk ________ behavior adolescent ________ incidence of sexually transmitted diseases (sexually transmitted infections-STIs)

Cognitive Changes ________operational thought (Piaget)- ________ Adopting new ways of ________, codes of conduct and clarifying ________. ________operational thought (Piaget)- ________ Abstract thinking Idealistic ________ Deductive= ________ conclusions based on general premises

Criteria for Mate Selection… ________ Values Educational level Socioeconomic level Extended family Age Dr. Fox’s presentation: educated women

Partner relationships/control Principle of Least Interest Individual ________ interested or ________ dependent upon the relationship has the ________ control examples

Conflict & Violence in Dating Causes of conflict/issues ________ Differences in commitment level Insufficient time to be together Differences in background The balance of ________ in the relationships Sexual denial

Conflict & Violence in ________ (IPV) Rates of physical aggression ________ in couples who were ________ low socioeconomic level reported ________

Violence in Dating… Pay attention to behavior during dating stage 51% of abused wives reported that they were physically abused during the dating stage Warning Signs ____________________________________________________________________

Living Together Cohabitation: Defined by government as ____________ sharing same living quarters in a partnership-type arrangement Broader definition includes same-sex Dramatic increases since 1970s due to less social stigma, sexual revolution Higher rates among people from divorced parents ________ influences decision to cohabitate Discuss reasons given for cohabitation

Considerations of Cohabitation Cohabitation is often a less committed, more autonomous relationship than a legal marriage, but can be just as complicated… If living together doesn’t work out, couples still have issues to resolve ________ Cohabitation, like marriage, should not be entered into lightly

Sexuality Education Sexuality plays critical role in healthy couple relationships Evidence that sexual attitudes and behaviors differ in other countries US society talks more openly about sex Beliefs Values Behaviors Sexual Identity or Orientation: Heterosexual/Homosexual Bisexual Transgender

Definitions/Goals Sexuality: _____________ concerning sexual activity Sex: the quality by which organisms are ________ on the basis of their reproductive organs and functions; activities _____________ Sexuality education: facts vs. myths; positive self-image; healthier/more satisfying/safe relationships

Sexuality & Early Adult Development ____________—on a ________ : enduring pattern of ________ ___________________or some combination of these to another person Most likely determined by a ________ of genetic, ________, cognitive, & ________ factors An individual’s sexual orientation—same-sex, heterosexual, or bisexual—is determined by a combination of genetic, hormonal, cognitive, and environmental factors

Sexuality… __________________________________ Are you protecting yourself? Viral and bacterial STIs Chart on Bb-you only need to understand the differences between the _________________________

Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) Are you protecting yourself? Viral STIs Genital warts - HPV HIV – AIDS Herpes – genital Hepatitis B Bacterial STIs Chlamydia Gonorrhea Syphilis Gardisil 16

Suggestions for Adults Regarding Sexuality Education Be an ________ Adult Offer ________ Information that is ________ Keep it ________

Suggestions for Adults Regarding Sex Education Enhance ________ and ________ Keep ____________ Channels Open Ask ________

Suggestions for Adults Regarding Sexuality Education (continued) Learn ________ Information Inform About ________ Sexes Build Ability to Set ________ Use Available, ________ ________

Suggestions for Adults Regarding Sex Education (continued) Assist Child in Becoming a Problem-Solver and Decision- Maker Discuss Values/Attitudes Continuing, On-Going Process To build self-esteem and the ability to set clear boundaries. To support young people’s efforts to understand and effectively communicate feelings.

Goals of Sexuality Education To assist in locating reliable resources. To recognize diverse social and family values with respect for cultural contexts.

Sexuality Issues and Communication Sexuality Education Life-long process Family issue Often a difficult communication issue Often no role modeling or positive learning experiences Multi-focus programs generally more successful than abstinence only Alcohol use and risky behavior prevalent

Intimacy What does the word, “intimate” mean to you? Why is intimacy important? What is the relationship between intimacy and a healthy sexual relationship? How can you improve your intimacy with another person? What is the relationship between intimacy and a healthy sexual relationship? The Importance of Communication It Takes Some Learning to Communicate How Women and Men Communicate Theories in Gender Differences The Effects of Sexual Orientation on Communication The Effects of Culture on Communication Types of Communication: More than Words Nonverbal Communication Computer Mediated Communication Communicating More Effectively Self-Disclosure Asking for What You Need Good communication is related to happier, more satisfied couples and increases the probability the relationship will last Communication cultivates emotional intimacy, understanding, love Relationship problems often due to poor communication, creating anger & frustration Poor communication skills Lack of self-disclosure Poor listening skills

Intimacy Familiar; personal; private; close Can you have an intimate relationship with someone without having sexual relations with that person? Self-disclosure=innermost thoughts, feelings, desires, beliefs Critical in a healthy relationship; vulnerable Too much disclosure too soon=risky Share own experiences.

Good lovers are.... Sensitive to their partner’s needs Able to communicate own desires Patient Caring Confident Keep in mind that men and women can have different views of the same sexual behaviors and techniques

I-statements to build intimacy I-statements: way of communicating about a problem that indicates the speaker’s feelings, beliefs, or values to another person without accusing the other person of being the cause of the problem. I feel... ignored when I talk to you but you are still looking at the television. I believe... that you are interested in other people when you “check them out.” an assertion about the feelings, beliefs, values etc. of the person speaking, generally expressed in a non-threatening manner;

Listening Skills When your partner is finished, _______________________ Reduce _________________________ Happy couples have 20 positive interactions for every negative one Set ground rules-avoid: ________ (“always”, “never”) Be specific about complaints ________ Overkill Including too many issues in the talk ______________

The Importance of Communication Communication cultivates emotional ________ understanding, love Relationship problems often ______________ creating anger & frustration Poor communication skills Lack of self-disclosure Poor listening skills