1. What Influences Your Values?
Human Sexuality Book Chapter 2 Relationships and Choosing Abstinence Lesson One: Page 16
Values: beliefs and standards of conduct that are important to a person.
What Influences Your Values?
Cultural Heritage
Religious Beliefs
Family Traditions

2. Peer Pressure: the influence that people your own age may have on you
Peer Pressure: the influence that people your own age may have on you. Peer Pressure can be positive or negative.
Adolescents with low self esteem can be particularly influenced by peer pressure
Dating….
Considered an important social activity
Group dating offers teens opportunities to interact with a variety of people while getting to know someone better
May lead to steady dating, which can interfere with developing other healthy relationships

3. Communication
Communication: process through which you send messages and to receive messages from others.
Good communication skills will help you keep relationships healthy and form more mature relationships.

4. Good Communication Skills
Use “I” messages to avoid placing blame.
Maintain a polite tone in your voice.
Speak directly to the person.
Provide a clear, organized message that states the situation.
Body language should match your words.

5. Good Listening Skills Give your full attention to the person talking.
Focus on the speakers message.
Indicate your interest.
Remember what the speaker has said.
Use positive body language.

6. Communicating isn’t as simple as it seems
Communicating isn’t as simple as it seems. Messages can become confusing at any of the following points in an exchange…
What you intend to say
What you actually say
What the other person hears
What the other person intends to say back
What the other person actually says back to you
What you hear

7. When conflicts or disagreements occur rely on the TALK strategy
Conflict: a disagreement, struggle, or fight.
When conflicts or disagreements occur rely on the TALK strategy
T-take time out
A-Allow each person to express his or her opinion uninterrupted
L-let each person take turns asking questions and clarifying any statements
K-keep brainstorming (talking) to find a good solution

8. Conflict and Dating
In any relationship, people must communicate in order to have their feelings known and understood.
Conflict can occur when two people’s expectations are different and are not clearly communicated.
Effective communication will help you maintain healthy mature relationships

9. Lesson 2: Decisions About Sexual Relationships
It is important to recognize that being physically attracted to someone and being in love are not the same thing. Infatuation, or exaggerated feelings of passion for another person, can sometimes be mistaken for love.
Abstinence: a deliberate decision to avoid harmful behaviors, including sexual activity and the use of alcohol, tobacco and other drugs.

10. Influences can be positive or negative!!
Peers
Magazines
Books
Music
Television
Movies
Influences can be positive or negative!!

11. Benefits of Abstinence
Lesson 2 continues…
Intimacy: a closeness between two people that develops over time.
Benefits of Abstinence
Abstinence eliminates both persons’ risk of contracting an STD, including HIV/AIDS
Abstinence is the only 100% effective method to avoid unplanned pregnancy
Abstinence ensures that you will not go against your personal values
Abstinence can allow a couple to build a deeper relationship

12. Practicing Your Decision to be Abstinent
Make a detailed list of your reasons for choosing abstinence
Discuss your feelings, your decision, and your expectations of the relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend
Place your self in situations that reinforce your decision to be abstinent. When dating choose places to go that will encourage conversation, or date in groups
Plan your time together-where you will go, how long you will stay and what time you will go home