Preparation For University Life What is My Role as a Parent? By Mrs. Susan Kinyua

What do we want to talk about? Parenting Teenagers / Young Adults Way forward after school What will your sons be doing after school? What will change? TVs, Mobile Phones and the Internet Discipline and independence(New found freedom) Authority and Influence

Study & Preparation for KCSE…Expectations Providing a conducive environment for study at home Home/school work balance Encouraging the young teenager Being there for them Acceptance of the ability and skills of the young person

College Boys “Wish List” I wish I knew exactly what course I am cut out for- What I am good at. Passion. Drawing & Architecture I wish I had more self knowledge- my strengths/weaknesses Peak Performance or equivalent to discover self I wish I had more exposure about careers before I joined University I wish I had known that no one would ask me why I didn’t attend classes, how I spend my free time - % attendance to do exams. I wish I had some information on the social aspects of University life – Exams, Studies, Rules, Friends. You are your person. I wish I knew that no bell would be rang to go to the next activity I wish I knew how much I still needed guidance

What University or Training College? Culture of the University? Is your son strong enough to resist? Location of the University – accessibility transport, security? Abroad or local? Public or Private; Local or Abroad

How are you teaching responsibility in the different areas of his life? Hygiene and taking care of his own things? Sports and exercises? Entertainment – Movies, Music, Books, TV, Internet Purity and marriage Do they have a high opinion of marriage? Respect and work attitude Do they like chores? Are they ready for work? Dress Code

Privileges Come with Responsibility Allow your sons to make own choices with boundaries (choices have consequences) Responsibility is taught by parents Parents make far too many decisions for children on dress, money, food, etc. Sons should become respectively assertive Teach a healthy understanding of authority

Influencing your Son after High School Build strong relationships with your son Be engaged and listen to his plans / fears about relationships and careers It is possible for your son to be your friend and to respect you Schedule regular one-on-one sessions Remain consistent and show that you trust him Be transparent about your life Maintain a healthy marriage!

What are Employers Looking For? Team Players Making Decisions and Solving Problems Prioritizing

Skills & Competencies For the 21st Century Digital literacy Critical thinking Collaboration

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