Student safety & prevention of sexual assault College tutor training 2015 Anaïs Duong-Pedica

Outline O Consent O Alcohol & sexual assault O Q&A O Be an active bystander O Signs of controlling behaviour O Signposting O Q&A

Consent What is consent and why is it important? O Makes sure that all parties involved agree to have sex at the beginning and throughout. O Prevents sexual assault O Concerns all individuals regardless of gender or sexual orientation

Consent The different ways in which a partner might say ‘no’ : O Verbally: ‘no’, ‘I don’t feel like it’, ‘not tonight’, ‘not now’… O Behaviour: crying, pushing you away, looking away, not engaging… ‘No’ doesn’t mean ‘convince me’, do not try to convince someone who says no.

Consent O Make sure your partner(s) consents throughout O Do not do anything when in doubt O Not conscious means no (sleeping, drunk, high, etc.) O An absence of no doesn’t mean yes.

Consent How do you make sure that you have your partner’s consent? O Ask them! O ‘Are you sure?’ O ‘Let me know if you want me to stop’ O ‘Are you ok?’ O ‘Do you want to stop?’ O ‘Do you want to keep going?’

Alcohol & sexual assault O Role of alcohol in cases of sexual assault on campus O Alcohol and drugs often related to acquaintance rape O Compromise one’s ability to make responsible decisions

Alcohol & sexual assault What you need to tell your students: O Drink responsibly O Be able to get yourself home O Do not rely on others (excepts STYCs and head-STYCs or college tutors) to « take care » of you

Consent Questions?

Signs of controlling behaviour O Intimidating stares; O Degrading jokes or language; O Refusal to respond to stated physical limits; O Refusal to accept ‘no’ as an answer; O Seeing a person as a mere sexual object; O Strong belief in gender roles stereotypes.

Be an active bystander Before an event/night out: O Warn them about the risks of drink spiking; O Tell them to carry enough money for a taxi home; O Remind them to charge their phones and keep them on themselves.

Be an active bystander During: O Ask them to stop drinking; O Speak up if someone says something offensive; O Do not laugh at sexist, racist, homophobic jokes; O If you see a student being insistent with another student, don’t let them be on their own and ask the person to leave the student alone.

Be an active bystander During: O If someone looks like they are in trouble, check in with them and make sure they’re ok. O If you see a student doing something sketchy, say something. O Avoid sending drunk students home on their own with other freshers (drunk or sober).

Be an active bystander After: O Remind them to lock their bedroom doors.

Signposting O Do not make any judgement call ✗ O Do not decide whether what they say is true or not ✗ O Use the ‘post-sexual assault/rape procedure’ and what you’ll learn in this workshop to support them ✓ O Get in touch with your head of college or assistant head of college ✓

Any questions?