1. Unhealthy Relationships
Partners for Youth Inc.

2. What percentage of Canadian women experience at least one incident of physical or sexual violence? (1993)
36%
47%
51%
63%

3. What percentage of sexual offences reported to police involve girls under the age of 18? (1996)
26%
38%
50%
86%

4. What percentage of sexual assaults occur in dating and acquaintance relationships? (1995)
28%
31%
48%
55%

5. 1in 5 males students surveyed said that forced intercourse is ok if… (1996)
He spends money on her
He is stoned or drunk
She is stoned or drunk
They have been dating for a long time

6. A study showed that what percentage of male participants did not consider forcing sex on an acquaintance as rape? (2011)
66%
54%
48%
61%

7. What percentage of college-aged males reported that they would commit sexual assault if they were certain that they would not be caught? (1995)
60%
30%
40%
50%

8. Recap! The Power and Roots of Violence

9. What are early warning signs of a potentially unhealthy relationship?
Among many others…
You never turn to each other for emotional support. You look to other people first
Your partner actively tries to cut you off from your support network of friends and family
Your partner doesn’t respect your answer when you say “no” to something
Your partner doesn’t seem interested when you experience success, or they belittle your success
You blame your partner for your life not being as satisfying as you’d like it to be—or they blame you
You don’t think your partner would make a good parent

10. Why do you think people become abusive?
A person who is abusive may feel entitled to control others, and may use fear to do so
People who are abusive may have low self-esteem
A person who is abusive may not have a healthy view of what love is
A person who is abusive may not have good communication skills
A person who is abusive may believe they own their partner
A person who is abusive may believe the myths (Manly, Macho, Real Man)

11. Why do you think people stay with abusive partners?
“I deserve this”
“Everyone always tells me how lucky I am to be with them”
“They told me they’d kill themselves”
“They only act jealous because they love me so much”
“We broke up before but they convinced me to come back”
“They have a job – I wouldn’t have any money if we broke up”
“I can handle it, it’s not all that bad all the time”
“I am scared to be alone”
“It started off great, and I really love them. I know we can fix our problems”
“They had never actually hit me, it’s not really abuse”
“I’ve never heard of a guy being abused”
“They will hurt me if I leave”
“This is what my parent’s relationship was like. It must be normal”
“We have a kid together – I don’t want to be a single parent”
“Even if we broke up, I would see him all the time. There’s no way out”
“If we broke up I would lose all my friends”

12. Healthy Vs. Unhealthy Relationship Scenarios And their consequences
I was 17 and it was two weeks into the semester, when some friends invited me to a dorm party. I went and soon my friends disappeared. I started drinking as soon as I got there and I met this guy/girl that was a junior there. We talked throughout the night and he/she kept bringing me drinks. After a while, I invited him/her to my dorm room, which was a couple of doors away. All I wanted to do was kiss him/her. I thought he/she was really cute. He/She told me we should go to his/her place. I still have no idea why I went. When we got there we started kissing and he/she started taking off my clothes and I let him/her. It wasn't until we were having sex that I said “no.” I told him/her to stop over-and-over, but he/she wouldn't. I tried to push him/her away but he/she grabbed my hands and pushed them against the bed. The next day I had bruises.
Consequence 1:
Legal: Section 271 – Sexual Assault
Sexual assault includes any form of sexual activity without a person's consent. This may include: any kissing, fondling, touching, oral/anal sex or sexual intercourse without consent; not stopping sexual contact when asked to; forcing someone to engage in sexual intercourse or any other sexual act.
Prohibits forceful sexual contact without consent
If complainant is under 14 years; consent is no defence
Maximum penalty: 10 years in jail
Lesser charges: $2,000 fine or at least 6 months in jail

13. Healthy Vs. Unhealthy Relationship Scenarios And their consequences
My boyfriend/girlfriend and I have been dating for a month. I wanted to fool around or have sex with him/her and I sort of said that two nights ago. Yesterday my parents left for the weekend and he/she slept over. But I started to feel really uncomfortable when we started kissing/ or /when he/she was touching my breasts/ or / he/she went down on me. I started feeling sort of sick and nervous. I think he/she noticed that I didn’t feel good. He/She asked me if there was anything wrong. It was kind of hard for me to explain, so I didn’t say anything for a few seconds. Then I just said I didn’t feel well. He/She seemed a little annoyed, but he/she said that that was cool, and got me a glass of water. I told him/her that I didn’t feel good because, I wasn’t ready to go that far yet. He/She listened and we decided that we would wait until we both felt like it was comfortable. Then we watched a movie and went to sleep
Consequence 2:
Healthy relationship: The girl feels as though her feelings are supported and her decision is respected. They are able to communicate their feelings and have an honest discussion

14. Thank You!