Cyber Bullying Counseling Sessions G. Malek Fall 2011

Cyber Bullying What is considered personal information to help predator locate you? What is considered personal information to help predator locate you?  Your real name  Your cell number  Events or concerts in your town  All of the above

Cyber Bullying Cyber Bullying How can you avoid getting bullied online? How can you avoid getting bullied online?  Give threats back to the bully.  Send angry messages  Give in and give out personal information to the bully.  Use netiquette

Cyber Bullying Avoid being cyber bullying: Be kind to others and use netiquette Be kind to others and use netiquette No flooding, be nice to newbies, avoid using all caps No flooding, be nice to newbies, avoid using all caps Don’t give out personal information online like pin numbers, passwords, home address, cell numbers, names. The information can and will be used against you. Don’t give out personal information online like pin numbers, passwords, home address, cell numbers, names. The information can and will be used against you.

Cyber Bullying Avoid exchanging pictures or giving out e- mail addresses to people you meet online. Avoid exchanging pictures or giving out e- mail addresses to people you meet online. Don’t send messages when you are angry. Don’t send messages when you are angry. Trust your instincts. When something doesn’t seem right. It probably isn’t. Get out of the site, end the chat, or turn off your CPU or cell phone. Trust your instincts. When something doesn’t seem right. It probably isn’t. Get out of the site, end the chat, or turn off your CPU or cell phone.

Cyber Bullying What do you do if you’re being bullied: Be strong and stop it early. Don’t stoop to their level and lash back. Be strong and stop it early. Don’t stoop to their level and lash back. Don’t suffer in silence. Tell an adult. Keep telling people until someone takes action. Don’t suffer in silence. Tell an adult. Keep telling people until someone takes action. Don’t open or read messages from cyber bullies. Don’t open or read messages from cyber bullies.

Cyber Bullying Contact your internet service provider abuse department. Contact your internet service provider abuse department. If the problem continues, alert the local police department. If the problem continues, alert the local police department. Tell your school if it is school related. If your cyber bully attends your school, contact your teacher or principal. Tell your school if it is school related. If your cyber bully attends your school, contact your teacher or principal. Don’t erase the messages. Log all dates and time. Put them in a folder and hold them as evidence. Don’t erase the messages. Log all dates and time. Put them in a folder and hold them as evidence.

Cyber Bullying Change your address or screen name. Change your address or screen name. If it’s happening with text messages, change your cell number. If it’s happening with text messages, change your cell number. Take screen shots of your chat room pages. Take screen shots of your chat room pages. Save URLs, addresses, and profiles of the bully. Save URLs, addresses, and profiles of the bully.

Cyber Bullying Stay protected – never agree to meet with a bully face to face. Stay protected – never agree to meet with a bully face to face. Block the bully if you are in a chat room or IMing. Block the bully if you are in a chat room or IMing.

Cyber Bullying Facebook, MySpace, Chat rooms have been means of major bullying situations Facebook, MySpace, Chat rooms have been means of major bullying situations Results have led to: Results have led to: EMBARASSMENTEMBARASSMENT DEPRESSIONDEPRESSION FRIENDSHIP LOSTFRIENDSHIP LOST TRANSITION TO NEW PLACETRANSITION TO NEW PLACE SUICIDESUICIDE

Cyberbullying Consequences DO NOT abuse the system / rules DO NOT abuse the system / rules Facebook: Facebook: age appropriate 13 y.o.age appropriate 13 y.o. Your wall statements reflect who you are!!!Your wall statements reflect who you are!!! Just because you don’t see the person face to face, it doesn’t give you the right to call them any name in the book!Just because you don’t see the person face to face, it doesn’t give you the right to call them any name in the book! Facebook has desensitized our generation and increased bullying.Facebook has desensitized our generation and increased bullying. Don’t post words you are not proud ofDon’t post words you are not proud of Your information is public and becomes important determining factor when you apply to colleges, scholarships and jobs!Your information is public and becomes important determining factor when you apply to colleges, scholarships and jobs!

Cyberbullying Consequences Facebook has desensitized our generation and increased bullying.Facebook has desensitized our generation and increased bullying. Don’t post words you are not proud ofDon’t post words you are not proud of Your information is public and becomes important determining factor when you apply to colleges, scholarships and jobs!Your information is public and becomes important determining factor when you apply to colleges, scholarships and jobs! You can google your name and find out what is written about you on the internet!!!You can google your name and find out what is written about you on the internet!!! Clean up your act!!! NOW before it is too late. “DELETE” is a useful function!Clean up your act!!! NOW before it is too late. “DELETE” is a useful function!

Cyber Bullying Opening Spam, what’s the big fuss? Every time you open spam mail you let the spammer know that your address is active. This is what you get: Every time you open spam mail you let the spammer know that your address is active. This is what you get: More spam More spam Viruses or spyware (in attachments or links) Viruses or spyware (in attachments or links) Pop-up pornography Pop-up pornography Scams, Even more pop-ups Scams, Even more pop-ups Harassment Harassment Threats Threats New spam scams New spam scams

Cyber Bullying How do I reduce the amount of spam I get? Choose a non-obvious address. Choose a non-obvious address. Limit where you enter your address (registration, subscriptions) Limit where you enter your address (registration, subscriptions) Use spam blocking and filtering software. Use spam blocking and filtering software. Don’t open spam . Don’t open spam .

Cyber Bullying Report spam to your ISP. Report spam to your ISP. Contact the spammers ISP. Contact the spammers ISP. Report chain letters asking for money to Report chain letters asking for money to Report spam to U.S. Government at Report spam to U.S. Government at

BULLYING - TOP TEN FACTS Ê Bullying is more than just teasing Ë Anyone can be a bully Ì Anyone can be a victim Í Bullying isn’t a modern problem Í Cyber Bullying is the modern style! Î Bullying affects everyone Ï Bullying is a serious problem Ð We can work together to find solutions Ò Schools are responsible for protecting while at school, but beyond school….

BULLYING About 15% of all students are involved in violence either as a bully or a victim. About 15% of all students are involved in violence either as a bully or a victim. 1 in 10 students are regularly bullied. 1 in 10 students are regularly bullied. More than 50% of students in lower grades are bullied by older students. National School Safety Center, 1999 More than 50% of students in lower grades are bullied by older students. National School Safety Center, 1999 More than 50% of students y.o. meet their cyber friend in person! More than 50% of students y.o. meet their cyber friend in person! More than 40% of middle school students are involved in sexting or cyber bullying! abc news 2010 More than 40% of middle school students are involved in sexting or cyber bullying! abc news 2010

Research Indicates Feels life is stacked against him Feels life is stacked against him Appears self-doomed, a lifelong loser Appears self-doomed, a lifelong loser Has chance of having a criminal record Has chance of having a criminal record With Cyber bullying such as “sexting” the victim ended in suicide! With Cyber bullying such as “sexting” the victim ended in suicide! Victim could not tolerate the bad reputation. Victim could not tolerate the bad reputation. By age 36, the bully/victim is more likely to have By age 36, the bully/victim is more likely to have Traffic violationsTraffic violations Drunk driving convictionsDrunk driving convictions Abusive action toward spouse & childrenAbusive action toward spouse & children Convictions for serious crimesConvictions for serious crimes Lack of academic, professional, social successLack of academic, professional, social success

Cyber Bullying Use Common Sense Use Common Sense Practice safety rules like you would with real people in real life! Practice safety rules like you would with real people in real life! Think of your reputation Think of your reputation Think of the consequences. Think of the consequences. Stay Safe! Stay Safe!

The safety rules: #1 Keep Safe #2 Keep Away #3 Keep Telling I Keep Safe my personal information—all of it! I never give my real name, address, phone number, the name of my school, or a picture of myself to anyone online. I Keep Safe my personal information—all of it! I never give my real name, address, phone number, the name of my school, or a picture of myself to anyone online. I Keep Away from Internet strangers— no matter what they tell me, because I have no way of knowing who they really are. I don’t talk with them online, and I never meet them face-to-face. I Keep Away from Internet strangers— no matter what they tell me, because I have no way of knowing who they really are. I don’t talk with them online, and I never meet them face-to-face. I Keep Telling my parents or a trusted adult about everything I see on the Internet. I always tell them when something makes me uncomfortable. I Keep Telling my parents or a trusted adult about everything I see on the Internet. I always tell them when something makes me uncomfortable.

Cyber Bullying Stay safe home Stay safe home Stay safe school Stay safe school