1. Unconventional Sexual Behaviors © 2011 John B. Pryor Illinois State University

2. paraphilias Abnormal?

3. Criteria of abnormality: Statistically rare Statistically rare Deviates from cultural norms Deviates from cultural norms Causes discomfort Causes discomfort Causes inefficiency Causes inefficiency “Bizarre” “Bizarre” Causes harm to self or others Causes harm to self or others

4. Paraphilia (DSM-IV-tr definition) Mental disorder Mental disorder Recurrent intense sexual urges, sexually arousing fantasies, or behaviors Recurrent intense sexual urges, sexually arousing fantasies, or behaviors Lasting at least 6 months Lasting at least 6 months Involving a)nonhuman objects, b) suffering or humiliation of oneself or one’s partner c)children or other nonconsenting people Involving a)nonhuman objects, b) suffering or humiliation of oneself or one’s partner c)children or other nonconsenting people Person has acted upon the urges or is markedly distressed by them Person has acted upon the urges or is markedly distressed by them It causes clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational or other important areas of life. It causes clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational or other important areas of life.

5. THEORETICAL PERSPECTIVES ON PARAPHILIAS BIOLOGICAL VIEWS example-higher testosterone among exhibitionists example-higher testosterone among exhibitionists LEARNING VIEWS example-experimental evidence that fetishes can be conditioned example-experimental evidence that fetishes can be conditioned example-clinical histories example-clinical histories

6. THEORETICAL PERSPECTIVES ON PARAPHILIAS SOCIOLOGICAL VIEWS example-S & M subculture example-S & M subculture MONEY’S LOVEMAP ANALYSIS

7. John Money (1986) - some ideas on paraphilia “Lovemaps” - cognitive templates of idealized lover and idealized erotic relationship – similar to schemas Lovemaps are influenced by culture, family experiences, & other childhood experiences (e.g. rehearsal play). Lovemaps are influenced by culture, family experiences, & other childhood experiences (e.g. rehearsal play).

8. John Money (1986) - some ideas on paraphilia Paraphilias develop when children are indoctrinated to distinguish the pure from the profane. Paraphilias develop when children are indoctrinated to distinguish the pure from the profane. WORLD OF LOVE = PURE, SAINTLY, & UNDEFILED WORLD OF LOVE = PURE, SAINTLY, & UNDEFILED WORLD OF LUST=SINFUL, DIRTY, & DEGRADING WORLD OF LUST=SINFUL, DIRTY, & DEGRADING

9. John Money (1986) - some ideas on paraphilia Lovemaps are defaced by such experiences as punishment for sex play. Paraphilia represents a rescue of lust. Lovemaps are defaced by such experiences as punishment for sex play. Paraphilia represents a rescue of lust.

10. Some Unconventional Sexual Behaviors Fetishism Fetishism Transvestism Transvestism Sadism & Masochism Sadism & Masochism Voyerism Voyerism Exhibitism Exhibitism Necrophilia Necrophilia Beastiality Beastiality Asphyxiophilia Asphyxiophilia

11. Fetishism Fetishes may be conceived as a continuum Fetishes may be conceived as a continuum MILD PREFERENCE STRONG PREFERENCENECESSITYSUBSTITUTE FOR HUMAN................... Considered “Abnormal”

12. Shoe Fetishes - example of form fetish

13. Leather Fetish - example of media fetish

14. Rubber Fetish - another example of a media fetish A popular event in London, England is the annual Rubber Ball

15. Sometimes people want to do unusual things with the fetish object Example: Anal Insertion

16. Surgery Magazine (1986) Case 1. A 39-year-old married white male lawyer presented with a self- inserted perfume bottle in his rectum that he was unable to remove using various objects, including a back scratcher. He had inserted this bottle on previous occasions. Edema of the rectum and sigmoid colon precluded the successful manual removal of the object in the emergency room. The 3 by 17 cm object, "Impulse Body Spray," was removed manually after a spinal anesthetic.

17. Survey from Surgery Magazine (1986) Previously reported recovered rectal foreign bodies- Object Number Recovered Object Number Recovered Glass or ceramic Glass or ceramic Bottle or jar 31 Bottle or jar 31 Bottle with attached rope 1 Bottle with attached rope 1 Glass or cup 12 Glass or cup 12 Light bulb 7 Light bulb 7 Tube 6 Tube 6

18. Foods Apple 1 Banana 2 Banana 2 Carrot 4 Carrot 4 Cucumber 3 Cucumber 3 Onion 2 Onion 2 Parsnip 1 Parsnip 1 Plantain (with condom) 1 Plantain (with condom) 1 Potato 1 Potato 1 Salami 1 Salami 1 Turnip 1 Turnip 1 Zucchini 2 Zucchini 2

19. Wooden Ax handle 1 Ax handle 1 Stick or broom handle 10 Stick or broom handle 10 Miscellaneous or unspecified 3 Miscellaneous or unspecified 3 Sexual Device Vibrator 23* Vibrator 23* Dildo 15 Dildo 15

20. Kitchen devices Dull knife 1 Ice pick 1 Ice pick 1 Knife sharpener 1 Knife sharpener 1 Mortar pestle 2 Mortar pestle 2 Spatula (plastic) 1 Spatula (plastic) 1 Spoon 1 Spoon 1 Tin cup 1 Tin cup 1

21. Miscellaneous tools Candle 1 Flashlight 2 Flashlight 2 Iron rod 1 Iron rod 1 Pen 2 Pen 2 Rubber tube 1 Rubber tube 1 Screwdriver 1 Screwdriver 1 Toothbrush 1 Toothbrush 1 Wire spring 1 Wire spring 1

22. Inflated devices Balloon 1 Balloon 1 Balloon attached to cylinder 1 Balloon attached to cylinder 1 Condom 1 Condom 1Balls Baseball 2 Baseball 2 Tennis ball 1 Tennis ball 1 Miscellaneous containers Baby powder can 1 Baby powder can 1 Candle box 1 Candle box 1 Snuff box 1 Snuff box 1

23. Miscellaneous Bottle cap ** 1 Bottle cap ** 1 Cattle horn 3 Cattle horn 3 Frozen pig's tail 1 Frozen pig's tail 1 "Kangaroo tumor" # 1 "Kangaroo tumor" # 1 Plastic rod 1 Stone 2 Stone 2 Toothbrush holder 1 Toothbrush holder 1 Toothbrush package 1 Toothbrush package 1 Whip handle 2* Whip handle 2*

24. Collections (one case of each) 2 Glass tubes 72 1/2 Jeweler's saw 2 Glass tubes 72 1/2 Jeweler's saw Oil can with potato stopper Oil can with potato stopper Piece of wood, peanut Piece of wood, peanut Umbrella handle and enema tubing Umbrella handle and enema tubing 2 Glasses 2 Glasses Phosphorus match ends (homicide) Phosphorus match ends (homicide) 402 Stones 402 Stones Toolbox ## Toolbox ## 2 Bars soap 2 Bars soap Beer glass and preserving pot Beer glass and preserving pot Lemon and cold cream jar Lemon and cold cream jar 2 Apples 2 Apples Spectacles, suitcase key, tobacco pouch, and magazine Spectacles, suitcase key, tobacco pouch, and magazine total of 14 collections, with approximately 500 objects total of 14 collections, with approximately 500 objects

25. Infantilism: Example of how fetishes are often incorporated into elaborate rituals A fetish involving objects associated with infants. A fetish involving objects associated with infants. Infantilists are typically heterosexual males. Infantilists are typically heterosexual males. The fetish usually includes using one, or all of the following: Diapers, Plastic or Rubber Pants, Baby Bottles, Pacifiers, Bibs, etc. The fetish usually includes using one, or all of the following: Diapers, Plastic or Rubber Pants, Baby Bottles, Pacifiers, Bibs, etc.

26. Infantilism (from a survey by Speaker, 1987) 50 % - Were Bedwetters as children 50 % - Were Bedwetters as children 22 % - Remember wearing daytime diapers beyond the third year. 22 % - Remember wearing daytime diapers beyond the third year. 63 % - Remember wearing night diapers beyond the third year. 63 % - Remember wearing night diapers beyond the third year. 100 % - Resumed wearing diapers between the age of 4 and 29. 100 % - Resumed wearing diapers between the age of 4 and 29. 96 % - Resumed wearing diapers by personal choice. 96 % - Resumed wearing diapers by personal choice.

27. Infantilism 55 % - Resumed wearing diapers between the age of 12 and 20. 55 % - Resumed wearing diapers between the age of 12 and 20. 81 % - Have erotic feelings while wearing diapers. 81 % - Have erotic feelings while wearing diapers. 65 % - Wore diapers with no one's knowledge. 65 % - Wore diapers with no one's knowledge. 96 % - Have/Had sexual intercourse without wearing diapers. 96 % - Have/Had sexual intercourse without wearing diapers. 74 % - Have/Had sexual intercourse while wearing diapers. 74 % - Have/Had sexual intercourse while wearing diapers.

28. Infantilism 77 % - Non Drug users. 77 % - Non Drug users. 88 % - Prefer and enjoy being an Adult Baby. 88 % - Prefer and enjoy being an Adult Baby. 100 % - Sexually excited while wearing diapers. 100 % - Sexually excited while wearing diapers. 100 % - Masturbate while wearing diapers. 100 % - Masturbate while wearing diapers. 77 % - Are currently involved in a sexual relationship. 77 % - Are currently involved in a sexual relationship. 66 % - Are involved with a female partner. 66 % - Are involved with a female partner. 66 % - Think of Infantilism as a lifestyle. 66 % - Think of Infantilism as a lifestyle.

29. Transvestism Cross-dressing Cross-dressing Tyler Perry as Madea

30. Some macho actors? WesleySnipes PatrickSwayze John Leguizamo

31. Cross-dressing in the movies WesleySnipes PatrickSwayze John Leguizamo To Wong Foo Thanks for Everything, Julie Newmar (1995)

32. Tim Curry as Frankenfurter in The Rocky Horror Picture Show MoreMovieStereotypes

33. Somefamous politicians are rumored to be cross-dressers cross-dressers in their private lives…probably just a rumor

34. In one survey, 70% of transvestites were found to be heterosexual. Many are happily married.

35. Survey by BULLOUGH, BULLOUGH, SMITH (2002)

36. The web is full of product sources and how-to books for cross-dressing and how-to books for cross-dressing

37. Sadism & Masochism Marquis de Sade Marquis de Sade Leopold von Sacher-Masoch Leopold von Sacher-Masoch “A Guide to Erotic Flogging” manuscript available from the Society for Human Sexuality, University of Washington “A Guide to Erotic Flogging” manuscript available from the Society for Human Sexuality, University of Washington Baumeister’s theory of escape from self Baumeister’s theory of escape from self

38. “The dominatrix (female dominator) commands me to clean a toilet, then ‘rewards’ me by allowing me to chew on one of her dirty socks.” The Notorious Betty Page SM Film Star of 1950s

39. Amsterdam’s Red Light District has prostitutes who openly advertise SM specialties

40. Bondage Website from Japan SMseems to be common in many cultures

41. Preferred D & S activities from a survey of gay S & M men Spanking Spanking Master-slave relationships (servilism) Master-slave relationships (servilism) Oral sex Oral sex Masturbation Masturbation Bondage Bondage Humiliation Humiliation Erotic Lingerie Erotic Lingerie Restraint Restraint Anal Sex Anal Sex

42. Weinberg, Williams, & Moser (1984) study of “Nonclinical” D & S Consensual Consensual Sexual scenes are acted out Sexual scenes are acted out The amount of pain, if any, is controlled by the submissive partner The amount of pain, if any, is controlled by the submissive partner Often, participants switch roles Often, participants switch roles

43. SM as a continuum What are some behaviors that contain elements of sadism & masochism or domination & submission, but are relatively “normal”? What are some behaviors that contain elements of sadism & masochism or domination & submission, but are relatively “normal”? At what point does it become abnormal or a problem or a fetish? At what point does it become abnormal or a problem or a fetish?

44. BITING DURING SEXUAL PLAY OR INTERCOURSE AMONG ISU STUDENTS

49. Voyeurism Arousal from watching others nude or performing sex acts - "looking without consent." Arousal from watching others nude or performing sex acts - "looking without consent." frames from a hidden camera in a women’s restroom taken by a high tech voyeur the absence of consent is often more important than the nature of the important than the nature of the visual image stolen the absence of consent is often more important than the nature of the important than the nature of the visual image stolen

51. Exhibitionism

52. Necrophilia Sex with dead people Sex with dead people Usually thought to be a symptom of a pervasively disturbed personality Usually thought to be a symptom of a pervasively disturbed personality Psychosis Psychosis Jeffrey Dahmer

53. Beastiality Sex with animals (not human) Sex with animals (not human) For example, dogs, cats, sheep, For example, dogs, cats, sheep, cows, chickens, pigs, etc. What was the real relationship between Scooby & Shaggy? Leda & the swan

54. Asphyxiophilia Enhancement of sexual experience by cutting off the blood flow to the brain through strangling Enhancement of sexual experience by cutting off the blood flow to the brain through strangling Usually performed during masturbation Usually performed during masturbation Danger of cardiac arrest Danger of cardiac arrest The American Psychiatric Association estimates a death rate of one person per year per million of population -- thus about 250 deaths last year in the U.S. Law enforcement estimates go as much as four times higher. The American Psychiatric Association estimates a death rate of one person per year per million of population -- thus about 250 deaths last year in the U.S. Law enforcement estimates go as much as four times higher.

55. Actor David Carradine found dead -- June 4, 2009 American actor David Carradine was found dead, hanging by a nylon rope in a hotel room closet in Bangkok, Thailand, according to a Thai police official. American actor David Carradine was found dead, hanging by a nylon rope in a hotel room closet in Bangkok, Thailand, according to a Thai police official. Carradine became famous in the 1970s when he starred in the television series "Kung Fu.” Carradine became famous in the 1970s when he starred in the television series "Kung Fu.” The rope was believed taken from the hotel room curtains, Bangkok Police Lt. Colonel Pirom Chanpirom said. The rope was believed taken from the hotel room curtains, Bangkok Police Lt. Colonel Pirom Chanpirom said. Investigators found no sign of a forced entry into Carradine's room, Chanpirom said. Investigators found no sign of a forced entry into Carradine's room, Chanpirom said.