Presentation on theme: "Interpersonal Communication"— Presentation transcript:
1 Interpersonal Communication also called Dyadiccommunication between two peoplethe relationship stage of communicationWhat is interpersonal communication?
2 Discussions about communication CharacteristicsDiscussions about communicationContent DimensionRelational DimensionFace to FaceMediatedContext: quantityQuality:Impersonal or interpersonalMetacommunicationMessagesQualityChannel
3 Types of Interpersonal Relationship AcquaintancesRomantic RelationshipsWork RelationshipsFamily RelationshipsFriendships
4 Why do we build relationships with one person over another? ProximitySimilarityComplementary = opposites attractSocial Exchange (rewards-costs=outcome)AppearanceCompetencePrefer talented but flawedException: Hi or low self-esteem person wants perfect personReciprocal attractionOther person likes you
6 Theories of Relational Development _Knapps’s Developmental ModelMaintenanceInitiatingExperimentingIntensifyingIntegratingBondingDifferentiatingCircumscribingStagnatingAvoidingTerminatingForward or BackwardQuickly or SlowlyMay StabilizeComing TogetherComing Apart
7 Dialectical Model Competing goals (dialectical tensions) Connection vs AutonomyOpenness vs PrivacyPredictability vs Novelty
8 How do we build better and deeper relationships? IntimacySelf-Disclosure
9 Intimacy Physical Intellectual Emotional Shared Activities touching, hugging, holding handsIntellectualDiscussing issues of shared inerests and importanceEmotionalSharing feelingsShared ActivitiesDoing things together
11 Gender Impacts Intimacy Styles FemalesSelf-discloseReveal feelingsShare (-) and (+)Sex is a way to express intimacyMalesDo things togetherDo things for you to show caringSex is a way to create (build) intimacy
12 Culture Impacts Intimacy Styles Rebekah NathanMy Freshmen YearCollectivistic CulturesJapanMore in-group vs outsidersIndividualistic CulturesUSACocktail Party Conversationalists
13 Self-Disclosure:deliberately revealing personal and significant information about oneself that would otherwise be unknown
14 Social Penetration Model and Self-Disclosure Breadth: # of topics discussedDepth: shift from non-revealing messages to personal messagesThe greater the depth and breadth the more intimate the relationship.
15 Johari’s Window Model of Self-disclosure Comprised of four quadrants: Open, Blind, Hidden and Unknown.Quadrants become smaller or larger based on the amount of communication and self-disclosure in a relationship.Generally the larger the open area, the more intimate the relationship.
16 What is appropriate self-disclosure? Is the other person important to you?Is the amount and type of disclosure appropriate?Is the disclosure relevant?Is the disclosure reciprocated?Will it be constructive?Is the risk of disclosing reasonable?
17 What is trust? What causes you to lose trust in someone? -To believe that someone is honest and means no harmThe Free Dictionary
18 What can you do if you don’t want to self-disclose? EquivocateHint (face-saving)Lie
19 Lying Dating couples lie in about 1/3 of relationships College students tell their mothers lies in 50% of conversations.Average = 3 lies for every 10 minutes of conversationMany lies are altruistic lies or “white lies”