Presentation on theme: "Interpersonal Communication also called Dyadic communication between two people the relationship stage of communication What is interpersonal communication?"— Presentation transcript:
Interpersonal Communication also called Dyadic communication between two people the relationship stage of communication What is interpersonal communication?
CHARACTERISTICS Face to Face Mediated Context: quantity Quality: Impersonal or interpersonal Content Dimension Relational Dimension Discussions about communication Metacommunication Messages QualityChannel
Acquaintances Romantic Relationships Work Relationships Family Relationships Friendships Types of Interpersonal Relationship
WHY DO WE BUILD RELATIONSHIPS WITH ONE PERSON OVER ANOTHER? Proximity Similarity Complementary = opposites attract Social Exchange (rewards-costs=outcome) Appearance Competence Prefer talented but flawed Exception: Hi or low self-esteem person wants perfect person Reciprocal attraction Other person likes you
How Do Relationships Develop?
Theories of Relational Development _Knapps’s Developmental Model Initiating Experimenting Intensifying Integrating BondingDifferentiating Circumscribing Stagnating Avoiding Terminating Maintenance Coming TogetherComing Apart Quickly or SlowlyMay Stabilize Forward or Backward
Dialectical Model –Competing goals (dialectical tensions) Connection vs Autonomy Openness vs Privacy Predictability vs Novelty
How do we build better and deeper relationships? Intimacy Self-Disclosure
Intimacy touching, hugging, holding hands Physical Discussing issues of shared inerests and importance Intellectual Sharing feelings Emotional Doing things together Shared Activities
GENDER AND INTIMACY
Gender Impacts Intimacy Styles Females Self-disclose Reveal feelings Share (-) and (+) Sex is a way to express intimacy Males Do things together Do things for you to show caring Sex is a way to create (build) intimacy
Culture Impacts Intimacy Styles Rebekah Nathan My Freshmen Year Collectivistic Cultures Japan More in-group vs outsiders Individualistic Cultures USA Cocktail Party Conversationalists
Self-Disclosure: deliberately revealing personal and significant information about oneself that would otherwise be unknown
Social Penetration Model and Self-Disclosure –Breadth: # of topics discussed –Depth: shift from non- revealing messages to personal messages –The greater the depth and breadth the more intimate the relationship.
Johari’s Window Model of Self-disclosure Comprised of four quadrants: Open, Blind, Hidden and Unknown. Quadrants become smaller or larger based on the amount of communication and self-disclosure in a relationship. Generally the larger the open area, the more intimate the relationship.
What is appropriate self-disclosure? –Is the other person important to you? –Is the amount and type of disclosure appropriate? –Is the disclosure relevant? –Is the disclosure reciprocated? –Will it be constructive? Is the risk of disclosing reasonable?
Trust What is trust? What causes you to lose trust in someone? - To believe that someone is honest and means no harm The Free Dictionary
What can you do if you don’t want to self-disclose? Equivocate Hint (face-saving) Lie
Lying Dating couples lie in about 1/3 of relationships College students tell their mothers lies in 50% of conversations. Average = 3 lies for every 10 minutes of conversation Many lies are altruistic lies or “white lies”