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1 Assertiveness in the Workplace Discussion Session

2 Assertiveness Quiz On a piece of paper, number from 1 to 10. Write your choice a, b, or c after each number.

3 1. You are in a restaurant and order a steak medium-rare, but it is served to you well- done. You would: a) Accept it since you sort of like it well-done anyway. b) Angrily refuse the steak and insist on seeing the manager to complain about the poor service. c) Call the waiter and indicate you ordered your steak medium-rare, then turn it back.

4 2. You are a customer waiting in line to be served. Suddenly, someone steps in line ahead of you. You would: a) Let the person be ahead of you since he/she is already in line. b) Pull the person out of line and make him/her go to the back. c) Indicate to the person that you are in line and point out where it begins.

5 3. After walking out of a store where you purchased some items you discover you were short- changed. You would: a) Let it go since you are already out of the store and have no proof you were short-changed. b) Go to the manager and indicate how you were cheated by the clerk, then demand the proper change. c) Return to the clerk and inform him/her of the error.

6 4. You are in the middle of watching a very interesting television program when your spouse comes in and asks you for a favor. You would: a) Do the favor as quickly as possible, then return to the program to finish watching it. b) Say "no," then finish watching your program. c) Ask if it can wait until the program is over and, if so, do it then.

7 5. A friend drops in to say hello, but stays too long, preventing you from finishing an important work project. You would: a) Let the person stay, then finish your work another time. b) Tell the person to stop bothering you and to get out. c) Explain your need to finish your work and request he/she visit another time.

8 6. You ask a gas station attendant for five dollars worth of gas. However, he fills up your tank by mistake and asks for twelve dollars. You would: a) Pay the twelve dollars since the gas is already in your tank and you will eventually need it anyway. b) Demand to see the manager and protest being ripped off. c) Indicate you only requested five dollars worth of gas and give him only five dollars.

9 7. You suspect someone of harboring a grudge against you, but you don't know why. You would: a) Pretend you are unaware of his/her anger and ignore it, hoping it will correct itself. b) Get even with the person somehow so he/she will learn not to hold grudges against you. c) Ask the person if they are angry, then try to be understanding.

10 8. You bring your car to a garage for repairs and receive a written estimate. But later, when you pick up your car, you are billed for additional work and for an amount higher than the estimate. You would: a) Pay the bill since the car must have needed the extra repairs anyway. b) Refuse to pay, then complain to the Motor Vehicle Department or the Better Business Bureau. c) Indicate to the manager that you agreed only to the estimated amount, then pay only that amount.

11 9. You invite a good friend to your house for a dinner party, but your friend never arrives and neither calls to cancel nor to apologize. You would: a) Ignore it, but manage not to show up the next time your friend invites you to a party. b) Never speak to this person again and end the friendship. c) Call your friend to find out what happened.

12 10. You are in a group discussion at work which includes your boss. A co-worker asks you a question about your work, but you don't know the answer. You would: a) Give your co-worker a false, but plausible answer so your boss will think you are on top of things. b) Do not answer, but attack your co-worker by asking a question you know he/she could not answer. c) Indicate to your co-worker you are unsure just now, but offer to give him/her the information later.

13 Topics Covered Four Approaches to Communication Three Stages of the Listening Process How Say It Assertively Speaking Positively Speaking Positively

14 Styles of Communication Passive Passive/Aggressive Aggressive Assertive

15 Passive Communication Soft voice Soft voice Overly agreeable, no point of view expressed Overly agreeable, no point of view expressed Avoidance Avoidance Withdrawn body language Withdrawn body language Sound unsure Sound unsure Beat around the bush Beat around the bush Sound hopeless or helpless Sound hopeless or helpless

16 Some Passive Messages Uh…if thats the way you want to do it…um, thats fine with me. I dont know if I could do that. Ill talk to him soon about that problem; Ive just been really busy. Im sorry to ask you. I hate to bother you. Maybe thats a good idea.

17 Passive/Aggressive Communication Appears to agree but really does not agree Appears to agree but really does not agree Tells others but not the source of the concern Tells others but not the source of the concern Makes subtle digs and sarcastic remarks Makes subtle digs and sarcastic remarks Keeps score, sets conditions Keeps score, sets conditions Nonverbal message contradicts the verbal message Nonverbal message contradicts the verbal message Holds back expressing concerns or providing assistance Holds back expressing concerns or providing assistance Criticizes after the fact Criticizes after the fact

18 Some Passive/Aggressive Messages I knew that wouldnt work. I knew that wouldnt work. If thats the way you want it… How could you even think that? When was the last time you helped me? When was the last time you helped me? The problem with Joe is…

19 Aggressive Communication Blaming, accusing Intimidating body language Demanding, ordering Raised voice Harsh, personal language Verbal browbeating

20 Some Aggressive Messages You must… Because I said so. You idiot! You always… You never… Who screwed this up?

21 Assertive Communication Takes responsibility Takes responsibility Takes initiative Takes initiative Listens actively Listens actively Speaks up, is direct and constructive Speaks up, is direct and constructive Shows sincerity Shows sincerity Is solutions focused Is solutions focused Assumes a confident voice and body language Assumes a confident voice and body language Addresses concerns directly to the source Addresses concerns directly to the source Requests needs Requests needs

22 Some Assertive Messages Yes, that was my mistake. As I understand your point… Let me explain why I disagree with that point. Lets define the issue and then explore some options to help resolve it. Please hear me out and then work with me to resolve my concern.

23 Communication Style Scenario Say you just received an important assignment with a tight deadline. You know that you need assistance from Sue, a co-worker, to get it done. Identify the following communication styles and pick which you think would be best. Say you just received an important assignment with a tight deadline. You know that you need assistance from Sue, a co-worker, to get it done. Identify the following communication styles and pick which you think would be best.

24 Sue, look, Im in a jam right now. You need to help me get this critical project done right away! I dont have time to hear that youre busy with something else. That excuse just wont fly. So come on, sit down and let me show you what I need you to do.

25 Hi, Sue. I hate to bother you. I know youre probably busy with a lot of other issues right now. I have one of those tough assignments. If you have a chance, maybe you could lend me a hand for a little bit. But, uh, its okay if you dont want to.

26 Sue, I know youre the type who doesnt want to put yourself out too much. Hey, Im just kidding. But look, when you were in a pinch last week, who helped you out? Thats right-me. So look, Im in the same boat now. Dont worry, I wont have you do most of the work anyway.

27 Sue, I was just assigned a critical project that needs to be done in a week. I would appreciate it if you could lend some assistance. The project involves an area in which your experience will really come in handy. What Id like to do is take a few minutes with you now or this afternoon to determine what time and support you can lend and to fill you in on the needs of the project. Does that work for you, and if so, what time can we meet?

28 Dont confuse aggressive with assertive. AggressiveBlunt Harsh in tone Blame and Browbeat Push for your own way One-way conversation flow Assertive Direct Firm in tone Collaborates on solutions Speaks up, yet hears others opinions Two-way conversation flow

29 It Isnt Just What You Say, But How You Say It Nonverbal Assertiveness

30 Eye Contact Make steady eye contact Maintain eye contact Look in the right places

31 Eye Contact Pitfalls Staring and glaring Looking away and all around Darting glances Blinking excessively Focusing in on one person Glazing over

32 Body Language Posture Posture Facial expressions Facial expressions Gestures Gestures

33 Body Language Pitfalls Slouching Invading space Hovering over the listener Looking blank Looking stern Displaying threatening gestures Folding your arms Exhibiting distracting habits

34 Set the Tone Project your voice Show inflection in your voice Display sincerity in your tone

35 Vocal Pitfalls Sounding uncertain Being too soft-spoken Mumbling Being to loud Dropping your voice at the end of a sentence Sounding Monotonous Putting people down with your tone Having harshness in your tone Speaking too fast Using excessive filler sounds

36 Assertive Communication is Not a guarantee Not another should Not negative Taking charge of oneself Middle ground style An active expressive focus

37 Evaluation Questions Strongly agree Strongly agree Agree Agree Disagree Disagree Strongly disagree Strongly disagree Dont know Dont know 1. I found the presentation of material easy to understand. 2. This Advantage session increased my knowledge on the subject presented. 3. I will be able to use some of the information from this Advantage session in the future. 4. The presenter was well prepared for this Advantage session. 5. This presentation should be repeated in future semesters.


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