1. PEER RELATIONSHIPS Peer Pressure & Refusal Skills Dating Abstinence
Chapter 8 Lessons 2 & 3
PEER RELATIONSHIPS
Peer Pressure & Refusal Skills
Dating
Abstinence

2. WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO CONFORM?
What were the examples of peer pressure and conformity in this experiment?

4. Peer pressure- influence people of your own age or status have on you (spoken vs. unspoken)
Positive - good influence
2) Negative – negative consequences -
harassment – persistently annoying others
- manipulation – indirect or dishonest way to control influence others

5. WAYS TO MANIPULATE Teasing Threats Bargaining Blackmail Guilt Trips
Pressure
Violence
Teasing
Flattery
Bribing
Bargaining

6. Responses to Peer Pressure
Passive – give in, avoiding
- Aggressive – overly forceful
Assertive- stand up for rights in firm but positive way
HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE
1) I messages
2) Respectful but firm voice
3) Alternatives to actions
4) Clear & simple statements
5) Appropriate body language (no mixed messages)

7. Refusal Skills – skills help you say no
State your position
Suggest Alternatives
Stand your ground
Make your decision known Avoid tempting situations
Change the subject Suggest an alternative Leave the situation

8. Lifeboat Activity
You have to decide the order in which you would save the people on the sinking ship. Place a number next to each description (1-8).
Write on a separate sheet of paper why you would save each character in that particular order.

9. Lifeboat Activity (cont)
Get into groups with your rows.
You must come up with an order of saving people as a group. Most likely, people are going to have differing opinions but you can only have one answer.
Write this down on a separate sheet of paper and the reason why you chose each person in that order.

11. Lifeboat Activity Questions
Please answer these questions in a paragraph:
What did this activity have to do with the topic of peer pressure?
Did your group’s answer differ from your individual answer and Why?
If you were actually on the lifeboat in real life, how would peer pressure effect your decision? Why?

12. Do Now - Answer the questions
Which would be hardest to accept?
- Husband or wife cheating
- Husband or wife doing hard drugs
- Finding out husband or wife was married before and never told you
What do you look for in a mate?
- Good looking
- lots of money
- Fun to be with
What do you look at when you meet someone of opposite sex?
- eyes
- Overall figure
- face
Which of these is most preferable to you?
- Stay single
- married no kids
- married with kids

13. Do Now: Answer these Brainstorming ?’s in your note packet
What is your definition of dating?
What age should you begin dating?
Name some appropriate places where you could go on a date?
Name negative and positive benefits of dating?
5) List concerns your parents have about dating?

14. Dating & Setting Limits
Establishing Dating Standards
Safe transportation
Reasonable Curfew
Have a code of contact
Avoid Risk Situation

15. Dating Violence
22.4% of women and 15.0% of men first experienced some form of partner violence between 11 and 17 years of age

16. What are qualities found in both?
Good Relationship
Bad relationship

17. Feelings Health Relationship Happy Growth Contentment Energized
Optimism
Self – Respect
Enhanced Self Esteem
Encouragement
Feeling Unhealthy Relationship
Fatigue
Negativity
Decline
Isolation
Sadness
Diminished Self
Desperation
Obsessive thoughts

18. WARNING SIGNS
Jealousy
Controlling
Isolation
Verbal Abuse
Physical Violence
Quick Involvement
Blaming Others

19. LIST SOME CONSEQUNCES FOR EACH CATEGORY BELOW:
Abstinence
How can teen sexual activity have negative consequences on the following categories?
LIST SOME CONSEQUNCES FOR EACH CATEGORY BELOW:
Physical health
Emotional Health
Social Health
Legal Implications

20. Abstinence
What are some reasons to practice abstinence until marriage?
1) Physical Health
- Sexual Transmitted Infections
- unplanned pregnancy
3) Emotional Health- hurt, self respect, guilt, regret
4) Social Health- reputation, family members

21. Committing to Abstinence
Establish priorities
Set personal limits on affection
Share your thoughts
Avoid high pressure situations
*Use refusal techniques