Bullying What It Is? What You Can Do to help? Why it is important to help?

Why is it important to discuss Bullying? Safety Distraction from learning

What is Bullying? Bullying is: repeated, intentional, aggressive behavior towards one person from another person or group of people. Bullying involves: the bully, the victim, and the bystander.

Bullying Has to be Repeated: One Time Incident vs. Bullying Who can give me an example of a one time incident? Who can give me an example of a bullying situation?

Who is involved in Bullying? Bullying Triangle Bully Victim Bystander Who do you think has the most influence on the others? The bystander has the most influence of the three! Why do you think this is?

Upstander A bystander who realizes something is wrong and takes action to make it right.

Types of Bullying 4 Main Types 1. Physical Bullying 2. Emotional Bullying 3. Social Bullying 4. Cyber Bullying

Types of Bullying 4 Main Types (Defined) 1. Physical Bullying: shoving, hitting, kicking, breaking others’ things. 2. Emotional Bullying: (Verbal or written) name-calling, insulting, threatening, writing/drawing means notes and pictures. 3. Social Bullying: Spreading rumors, ignoring, excluding, making someone do something that they don’t want to do. 4. Cyber Bullying: Using the internet or social media to intimidate, threaten, or make fun of someone.

A Closer Look… What do all types of bullying have in common? – They're examples of ways one person can make another person feel hurt, afraid, or uncomfortable. – When these are done to someone more than once (and usually over and over again for a long period of time) that's bullying.

What Are Some Reasons That People Bully? Bullies come in all shapes and sizes. There’s not “one type” of bully. However, one thing that bullies usually have in common is: Something or someone is making them feel insecure, so they're bullying to make themselves feel better. However, even though the bullies may have something else going on in their life, that does not mean that their behavior is acceptable!

Bullying: What Can You Do If You’re Being Bullied? Let someone know what is happening! It’s okay to ask for help. If you are being bullied, it is not your fault!! Who can you tell? – Parents, Teachers, School Counselors, Mr. Bonchick, Ms. Boone

Bullying: How Not to be a Victim 1. Act and look CONFIDENT – Bullies go after those who appear weak – Bullies repeat actions to those who they think they can 2. If someone is picking on you don’t show them it hurts – It is okay to feel sad or hurt over what a bully says but try not to show them. – Express your feelings to your parents, friends and people you trust!

Strategies: What If You’re Being Bullied? Ignore what the bully or bullies say Agree with what they say- Bullies don’t get satisfaction if they don’t get a negative reaction Make a quick joke or a funny response Change the subject Communicate assertively

Communicating Assertively “I messages” are helpful in communicating how you feel without attacking the other person or putting them on the defense: I feel _____________________ because __________________ and I would like you to _______ _________________________.

Bullying: How to Avoid Bad Situations 1. Stay in a group Surround yourself with people you feel safe with 2. Avoid “hot spots” Take a different path to classes Go to the restroom a little earlier

What Can You Do if You Witness Bullying? Be a part of the solution Do The Right Thing! Don’t join in. Refuse to watch Say something- “Hey don’t do that to him.” or “Chill out!” Report Bullying to an adult Invite the person being bullied to join your group Be a friend to a person being bullied Distract the bully so that he or she stops

Put Yourself in Someone Else’s Shoes If you were being bullied… How would you feel? What would you do? What would you want others to do?

Think About It!!! Do you ever – Laugh when a classmate makes a mistake? – Make fun of people in a mean way? – Join in when someone is being teased? – Gossip or Spread Rumors?

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