EXPLORING MARRIAGES AND FAMILY, 2ND EDITION Karen Seccombe Chapter 3 Building Relationships © 2015, 2012 by Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Singlehood How Many Stay Single? It Depends on How You Define It What Does It Mean to Be Single? A Useful Typology Voluntary Temporary Singles: Unmarried adults who may be delaying marriage while pursuing education or establishing a career © 2015, 2012 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Figure 3.1 Percentage “Never Married” versus Percentage “Single,” Ages 15-85+, 2012 © 2015, 2012 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Singlehood Voluntary Stable Singles: Unmarried adults desiring a single (unmarried) lifestyle Involuntary Temporary Singles: Singles actively searching for a mate but unable to find a suitable one Involuntary Stable Singles: Unmarried adults who can expect to be single for life even though they may not want to be © 2015, 2012 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Friendships Being Friends: Sex Differences Being Friends: Social Class and Race/ Ethnicity Friendships between Women and Men: Just Friends? Cross-Sex Friendship: A friendship between a man and a woman that is strictly platonic © 2015, 2012 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Dating, Courtship, and Mate Selection A Look at History: Macro-Level Influences on Our Micro-Level Choices Courtship in Early America Calling: A dating practice of the 18th and 19th centuries in which a young man would visit a young woman in her parents’ home © 2015, 2012 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Dating, Courtship, and Mate Selection Industrialization, Consumerism, and the Emergence of Dating Adolescence: The period of life that occurs between childhood and adulthood. Principle of Least Interest: The idea that unequal emotional involvement between romantic partners has implications for the quality and stability of relationships © 2015, 2012 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Dating, Courtship, and Mate Selection Macro Influences Today: Sex and Gender, Race/Ethnicity, Social Class, Sexual Orientation Gender and Dating Dating Scripts: A set of expectations around dating that are somewhat different for men and women © 2015, 2012 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Dating, Courtship, and Mate Selection Differences and Similarities in Dating Practices: Social Class, Race, Ethnicity, and Sexual Identity A Micro View: Who Do We Date and Where Do We Meet? Dating Trends © 2015, 2012 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Figure 3.2 Percentage of 12th-Grade Students Who Never Date or Who Date Frequently (More Than Once a Week), 1991, 2000, 2010 © 2015, 2012 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Table 3.1 Not Counting Work for School/Job, about How Many Hours Per Week Do You Spend. . . . © 2015, 2012 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Dating, Courtship, and Mate Selection Who Do We Date? Homogamous Relationships: Relationships in which we spend most of our time with people who are very similar to ourselves Propinquity: Geographical closeness Pool of Eligibles: The group from which we are likely to choose our mates © 2015, 2012 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Figure 3.3 Acceptance of Blacks and Whites Dating Each Other, 1987–2009 © 2015, 2012 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Heterosexual Cohabitation Cohabitation: An arrangement in which two people live together without being married Who Cohabits? Attitudes toward Cohabitation: Is it still “Living in Sin”? © 2015, 2012 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Figure 3.4 Number of Cohabiting Couples of the Opposite Sex, 1960–2013 © 2015, 2012 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Figure 3.5 Percent Saying Yes to “Have You Ever Lived with a Partner without Being Married?” © 2015, 2012 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Figure 3.6 Percent Saying Unmarried Couples Living Together is a . . . © 2015, 2012 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Heterosexual Cohabitation Cohabitation and Marriage Selection Effect: An explanation for the fact that people who cohabit tend to be the same ones who later divorce Spurious: When a relationship between two variables is actually caused by a third variable. Cohabitation and Children © 2015, 2012 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.

Gay and Lesbian Intimate Relationships Commitment and Cohabitation Similarities and Differences Differences between Homosexual and Heterosexual Couples Differences between Lesbian and Gay Couples © 2015, 2012 Pearson Education, Inc. All rights reserved.