Chapter FIVE: Employing Interdependence COUN 2: College Success Strategies 4/27/2017 Chapter FIVE: Employing Interdependence Quiz, Professor Michael Ngo

COUN 2: College Success Strategies 4/27/2017 Homework Note: No late assignments will be accepted. Professor Michael Ngo

COUN 2: College Success Strategies 4/27/2017 Quiz Time Professor Michael Ngo

COUN 2: College Success Strategies 4/27/2017 Ice Breaker Professor Michael Ngo

Employing Interdependence COUN 2: College Success Strategies 4/27/2017 Employing Interdependence Professor Michael Ngo

Four Ways of Relating to Others COUN 2: College Success Strategies 4/27/2017 Four Ways of Relating to Others Dependence “I can’t achieve my goals by myself.” Codependence “I have to help other people get their goals before I can pursue my own goals.” Independence “By working hard, I can get some of what I want all by myself.” Interdependence “I know I can get some of what I want by working along, but I’ll accomplish more and have more fun if I give and receive help.” Professor Michael Ngo

Describe what you see?

Describe what you see?

Describe what you see?

Creating a Support Network Seek help from your instructors Get help from college resources Academic Financial Personal Health Career Social Create a TEAM!

How to listen actively Step 1: Listen to understand To fully understand Step 2: Clear your mind and remain silent Don’t be distracted by your Inner Critic & Defender Step 3: Ask the person to expand or clarify Get additional information Step 4: Reflect the other person’s thoughts and feelings Restate and verify

Ineffective Communication COUN 2: College Success Strategies 4/27/2017 Ineffective Communication Placate Blame Level Professor Michael Ngo

Ineffective Communication COUN 2: College Success Strategies 4/27/2017 Ineffective Communication Placating “It’s okay if you don’t help with our project in sociology. I’ll just do the project myself.” “Please don’t be upset with me. I’ll drive your friends to the airport and study for my math test later.” “I’m sorry. I should have cleaned up the mess from the party last night. I’ll do it right now.” Professor Michael Ngo

Ineffective Communication COUN 2: College Success Strategies 4/27/2017 Ineffective Communication Blaming “You never do anything to help our study team. You’re just lazy!” “This room is a mess! When do you plan to start doing your share of the work around here?” “My sociology instructor gives unfair tests! He thinks he can ask questions about anything that we were supposed to read for homework.” Professor Michael Ngo

Effective Communication COUN 2: College Success Strategies 4/27/2017 Effective Communication Leveling “I know you’re got a lot of work to do tonight. Could we spend just ten minutes cleaning up this mess together? “Before I can help you with your paper, I need to finish studying for a test. How about if you help me review tonight and I’ll work with you on your paper tomorrow afternoon?” Professor Michael Ngo

COUN 2: College Success Strategies 4/27/2017 Applying the Concept “I was really upset when you and your friends came in at three o’clock last night, laughing and yelling. I have to leave for work at 6 a.m. and I need my sleep. Would you agree to never do that again?” “Don’t worry about waking me up last night. I know you enjoy partying with your friends. I’ll just go to work sleepy. If I get fired, I can probably find another job.” Leveling Placating Professor Michael Ngo

COUN 2: College Success Strategies 4/27/2017 Applying the Concept “You are such a jerk! You never show respect for anyone. Why in the world would you be yelling and slamming stuff around at three o'clock in the morning?! Man, you make me sick!” “Professor Hartley, I had a couple of questions about my failing grade on the test, and I'd like to make an appointment to discuss those with you. Would tomorrow morning during your office hours be a good time? Say 9:30?” Placating Leveling Professor Michael Ngo

COUN 2: College Success Strategies (9.0) 4/27/2017 Preparation Time This is your time to prepare your presentation Michael Ngo

COUN 2: College Success Strategies 4/27/2017 Homework Journal 17 – page 150 Journal 19 – page 161 Read Wise Choices in College Rehearsing and Memorizing Study Materials – page 165 Journals for 5th edition only: 16, 18 Professor Michael Ngo

COUN 2: College Success Strategies 4/27/2017 Study Guide Dependence, Codependence, Independence and Interdependence OPB Active listening Placate, Blame and Level Professor Michael Ngo