Why Abstinence is Important Mark C. Farist Sequoyah High School Canton, Georgia

The Danger Zone “The Teen Sex Scene” “The Teen Sex Scene”

“Oral sex, anal sex, vaginal sex, mutual masturbation… it’s all sex.” C.D.C SOME STD’s are often passed by JUST “skin to skin contact.”

Day 1 PRETEST /WHAT IS THE ISSUE? MALES vs. FEMALES Day 1 PRETEST /WHAT IS THE ISSUE? MALES vs. FEMALES Day 1: VitaMIND It’s all about Risk Elimination not just Risk Reduction.

Dr. John Diggs RISK REDUCTION SAYS: “Safe SEX "or “SAFER SEX“ “Programmed Sexual Exploitation”

PROBLEM LABELED “Programmed Sexual Exploitation” 1.Know your partner: a. History. b. Current status. c. Reliability of information?????

“Safe SEX OR SAFER message” 2. Make all intercourse “protected”. You must always use protection…..always!

Risk Reduction IS “PROTECTION” (CONDOMS)

Risk Elimination IS ABSTINENCE! (100% SAFE)

Abstinence Education Making an informed decision not to participate in at-risk sexual behavior including: Sexual intercourse Oral sex Anal sex Outercourse

“Men think they need innumerable women for one basic need.” “Women think they need one man for their innumerable needs.” -Rabbi Daniel Lapin -Rabbi Daniel Lapin

MALE AND FEMALE DIFFERENCES: BOYS GIVE “LOVE” TO GET SEX. GIRLS GIVE SEX TO GET “LOVE”.

TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE 1.Can a girl become pregnant without sexual intercourse? A. It is impossible. B. It is possible but not likely. C. It is very possible. D. It has not happened but it could be possible.

TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE 2. A person can get a sexually transmitted disease without having sexual intercourse. A. It is impossible. B. It is possible but not likely. C. It is very possible. D. It has not happened but it could be possible.

TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE 3. Once a male reaches his teenage years he produces how many sperm? A. About one hundred thousand per day. B. About one hundred million per day. C. About one hundred million per month. D. About one hundred million in a lifetime.

TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE 4. Which BEST describes the virginity of American teenager? A. 51.2% are virgins. B. 55.4% are virgins. C. 47.5% are virgins. D. 35.2% are virgins.

TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE 5. Which is true concerning condom effectiveness? A. Effective in protecting against Chlamydia only. B. Effective in protecting against Chlamydia and Herpes. C. Effective in protecting against HPV and Hepatitis B. D. Condoms offer no proven protection for Chlamydia, Herpes, HPV or Hepatitis B.

TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE 6. Which BEST represents the failure rate of condoms in the prevention of the spread of STD’s WHEN USED teenagers? A. 25% failure rate. B. 20% failure rate. C. 10% failure rate. D. 5% failure rate.

TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE 7. Approximately how many sexually active teens get a STD each year? A. 1 out of 2 sexually active teenagers. B. 1 out of 4 sexually active teenagers. C. 1 out of 10 sexually active teenagers. D. 1 out of 20 sexually active teenagers.

TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE 8. Most people with STD’s: A. Have painful sores. B. Have painless sores. C. Have sores, a rash, fever and/or pain while urinating. D. Have no sores or any symptoms at all.

TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE 9. Which of the following STD’s can lead to death? (May be more than one) A. HIV/AIDS B. Gonorrhea C. Human Papilloma Virus HPV D. Hepatitis B

TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE 10. True or False: “Secondary Virginity” is a concept that offers the same benefits of the virgin’s lifestyle in regards to sexual choices. Answer: TRUE

Day 2 : “I thought that was right.” Today’s Bonus VitaMIND : “There is a way that seems right to a man but the end thereof is death.” - Ancient Hebrew Proverb

Is there a problem with premarital sexually activity in our country? Let’s look and see…

Teen Pregnancy 900,000 girls each year 5,000 teens each day 20% teenage girls get pregnant by age 18 Only 13% graduate High School 8 out 10 end up on welfare programs

Annual Adolescent Pregnancy  Nearly one million teen pregnancies.  300,000 teen abortions  300,000 teen miscarriages  400,000 teen live births

Sexually Transmitted Diseases 4 million teens each year 1 OUT OF EVERY 4 Sexually Active Teens gets a STD 1 teen every 8 seconds gets a STD 20% of High School graduates will have a STD in Georgia

QUESTION OF THE DAY First…..Which decade did the most teen pregnancies occur? A. The 1950’s. B. The 1960’s. C. The 1970’s. D. The 1980’s. E. The 1990’s.

And the ANSWER IS…… A. The 1950’s! WHY?

1950’s People married at a earlier age Average age of marriage was 18 years old Young teenage married couples were starting their families.

The BABY BOOMERS!

THE NEXT QUESTION OF THE DAY THE NEXT QUESTION OF THE DAY Is there a problem of teenage pregnancy? Coach Farist says NO!

Sex & America’s Teenagers… “74% of girls who had sex before 14 and 60% who had sex before 15 reported their first experience as a rape.”

Day 3 Wednesday 3/22/06 “PURITY ISN’T A LINE YOU DRAW, IT’S A DIRECTION YOU TAKE.”

THE PROBLEM IS….. Unplanned unmarried TEENAGE pregnancies.

THE PROBLEM PROPERLY IDENTFIED! Teenaged UNMARRIED pregnancy which is associated with the following: Teenaged UNMARRIED pregnancy which is associated with the following:  Poverty  Need for government assistance i.e. welfare  Irresponsibility of fathers “Dead Beat Dads”  Incarceration (jail time)  Drop-Out rates increase from schools

The Problem of Sexually Transmitted Diseases The Problem of Sexually Transmitted Diseases 4 million teens each year 1 OUT OF EVERY 4 Sexually Active Teens gets a STD 1 teen every 8 seconds 20% of High School graduates will have a STD

Profile of American Teens

At Age 13 At Age 13 Kissing Kissing

Profile of American Teens At Age 13 At Age 15 At Age 13 At Age 15 Kissing Oral Sex Kissing Oral Sex Mutual Masturbation Mutual Masturbation (“Outercourse”) (“Outercourse”)

Profile of American Teens At Age 13 At Age 15 At Age 18 Kissing Oral Sex Intercourse Outercourse Outercourse (“Touching”) Intercourse

WHERE DO YOU GO WHEN YOU HAVE GONE ALL THE WAY? THE LAW OF DEMINISHING RETURN SAYS: THE MORE YOU DO THE LESS SATISFACTION YOU GET AND THEREFORE YOU DO MORE AND YOU GET LESS WHICH LEADS TO FEELINGS OF HOPELESSNESS AND FRUSTRATION.

Why have SEX?

5 Influences to Being Sexually Active #1.Hormones

#1. Hormones #2. Sex in the Media

5 Influences to Being Sexually Active #1. Hormones #2. Sex in the Media #3. Peers

5 Influences to Being Sexually Active #1. Hormones #2. Sex in the Media #3. Peers #4. “Beers” Alcohol

Teens and Alcohol 8 th 10 th 12th Drinking 24% 40% 50% Binge 15% 25% 33% Drinking

Teens and Alcohol 75% of first time sexual encounters involve alcohol 66% of teen pregnancy one or both partners were drinking before sex Young people start drinking at an average age of 14 The number of young women who drink to get drunk is 15 times higher than 15 years ago

ALCOHOL is the # 1 DRUG IN HIGH SCHOOL

5 Influences to Being Sexually Active #1. Hormones #2. Sex in the Media #3. Peers #4. Alcohol #5. Relationships

Day 5 Today’s VITAMIND: You are ONE in a million and ONE in a billion so celebrate you!

Sex and the Consequences STD’s Pregnancy Social Emotional/Mental

Sex and the Consequences Emotional/Mental Consequences Worry Worry Guilt Guilt Doubts Doubts Lowered Self Worth Lowered Self Worth

Day 6 “VITAMIND” Wait while you date save SEX for marriage.

Quote of the day: “ I’ve heard many say to me they were sorry they had sex before marriage but I’ve never had anyone tell me they were sorry they waited until marriage to have sex.” ---Coach Farist Sequoyah High School

THOUGHT OF THE DAY: ********I CAN’T CHANGE THE PAST BUT I CAN DECIDE WHAT’S NEXT********

JUST A THOUGHT: “CHANGE ISN’T CHANGE UNTIL I DECIDE TO CHANGE.”

Abstinence Education Definition Making an informed decision not to participate in at-risk sexual behavior including: Sexual intercourse Oral sex Anal sex Outercourse

“Sexual intercourse for girls 15 years and younger is typically involuntary, exploitive, and coercive.” The Atlantic Monthly

Sex & America’s Teenagers… The average male partner is an adult more than three years older than the girl.

Teen Pregnancy 900,000 girls each year 2,500 teens each day 20% teenage girls get pregnant by age 18 Only 13% graduate High School 8 out 10 end up on welfare programs

Sexually Transmitted Diseases 4 million teens each year 1 teen every 8 seconds 25% of sexually active teens get a STD each year 20% of High School graduates will have a STD

CHLAMYDIA

GONORRHEA

SYPHILIS

C.D.C. Study of Teen Sexual Risk Factors for Pregnancy and STD’s. 1. Age of first sexual experience. When you started. 2. Frequencies of sexual acts. How often you have sex. 3. Number of past sexual partners. How many partners.

Although teenagers represent only 10% of the population, they account for 25% of all STD cases. This is primarily due to the teenage girl’s cervix. Medical Institute

A 15 year old girl has a 1 in 8 chance of developing P.I.D. by having sex compared with a 1 in 80 chance for a 24 year old. Medical Institute

Day 7: “RIO SUCIO” Today’s VitaMIND: Don’t say “I will” until you say…. “I do”.

From this bridge you can see……...

THE “RIO SUCIO”

“RIO SUCIO”

Sexually Transmitted Dieases Gonorrhea 30+ STD’s Many Syphilis Incurable STD’s

Sexually Transmitted Diseases HIV/AIDS Deaths 6,400,000+ Fastest growing age group is under year incubation period

WHEN DID YOU FIRST HEAR THE ABSTINENCE MESSAGE?

KINDERGARTEN

DO YOU REMEMBER THIS ONE? Sussie and Johnny sitting in a tree KISSING. First comes LOVE then comes. MARRIAGE. Here comes SUSSIE with a baby carriage.

Sex Education …. “In the DAY” “In the DAY” In the 70’s and80’s In the 70’s and80’s  Emphasis on being non-directive  Acceptable for teens to be sexually active “free expression”  Contraceptives emphasized

Sex Education …. “In the DAY” “In the DAY”1990’s  “Safe Sex” message  52% of teenage girls are sexually active  27% of births to teen mothers  Late 90’s the “Safer Sex” message

Abstinence Education Definition Definition Making an informed decision not to participate in at-risk sexual behavior including:   Sexual intercourse   Oral sex   Anal sex   Outercourse

Abstinence Education Results Results % sexually 45% sexually active active

Abstinence is Cool!  75% say it’s cool to be a virgin  58% say sex is always wrong  50% say have been in situations where could have chosen sex, but didn’t C.D.C. Surveillance Report

Renewed Virginity Secondary Sexual Choices U-TURNSAREALWAYSALLOWED

“Safer Sex” Message Condoms work almost all the time right?

After all it’s just CONDOM sense.

Condom Failure Rates The rate of failure for teens condom use is 20%. The rate of failure for teens condom use is 20%. The failure rate for married couples use is 10%. The failure rate for married couples use is 10%.

“Condom Sense ” National Institutes of Health 2001 Study Condoms can reduce risk of: HIV 87% HIV 87% Gonorrhea----women to men Gonorrhea----women to men

“Condom Sense ” National Institutes of Health 2001 Study Condoms do not reduce the risk of: HPV HPV No evidence of reduced risk in other STD’s including genital herpes, chlamydia. No evidence of reduced risk in other STD’s including genital herpes, chlamydia.

Is “Safe Sex” Safe?

Motivation for Abstinence Personal goals Personal goals Concerned about the risks Concerned about the risks Personal/religious beliefs Personal/religious beliefs Parents’ influence Parents’ influence Coach Farist/Fore/Ms.Ard Coach Farist/Fore/Ms.Ard

8 Keys of Effective Abstinence Education 1.Teachers belief in abstinence 2. Show the Risks/Rewards 3. Provide medically accurate information on condoms/STD’s/pregnancy rates 4. Relationship education 5. Refusal skills 6. Abstinence pledge 7. Provide for renewed/secondary “virginity” 8.Parental involvement

Abstinence Message is a Freedom Message The Freedom from: Guilt, doubt, worry Guilt, doubt, worry STD’s STD’s Pregnancy Pregnancy Loss due to adoption Loss due to adoption Loss due to abortion Loss due to abortion Loss of reputation Loss of reputation Pressure to marry early Pressure to marry early Certain family problems Certain family problems

Abstinence Message is a Freedom Message Freedom to: Develop skills and abilities Develop skills and abilities Develop greater trust in marriage Develop greater trust in marriage Develop greater sense of self worth Develop greater sense of self worth Become more creative in sharing feelings Become more creative in sharing feelings Achieve financial stability Achieve financial stability Pursue dreams, desires, goals Pursue dreams, desires, goals Become the person you want to be Become the person you want to be

Day 7 Wednesday 11/16/05  Today’s VitaMIND: The virgin speaking to the nonvirgin: “I can be like you any time I want to be but you can never be like me.”

WHY WAIT? #1. Protection! a. Physically. Pregnancy/STD’s b. Mentally/Emotionally. c. Socially. Reputation/Position/Job d. Spiritually. Conviction/Vow/Promise

WHY WAIT? #2. PROVISION. a. Peace/Completeness. b. Pleasure.

WHY WAIT? #1. Protection! #1. Protection! #2. Provision! #2. Provision!“PP”

Day 8 “SWEET” DAY Today’s VitaMIND: “SEX was ‘MINT’ for marriage”

C.D.C. Study of Teen Sexual Risk Factors for Pregnancy and STD’s. 1. Age of first sexual experience. When you started. 2. Frequencies of sexual acts. How often you have sex. 3. Number of past sexual partners. How many partners.

Random Stats/Information. 50% Chance of contracting Gonorrehea from an infected person per sexual encounter. Gonorrehea is called the “Clap”or the “Drip”. Teenage girls are more susceptible to STD’s because of immature/slow developing cervix. Average age of male sexual partners is 3 years older than the teenage female. 80% of teenage females that get pregnant the father is 20 years old plus. Most common STD for teens in Cherokee county is Chalamydia.

“Let the Adventure Begin” Knowledge IS POWER in “THE DANGER ZONE ”

100% of the time. ABSTINENCE WORKS !

Sources of Information

Mark C. Farist Sequoyah High School Canton, Georgia ga.us