Love Love Is…..

Affection Amazing Bliss Cherishing Dreamy Eternal Everlasting Forever Strength Bonding Imperfect Perfect Monumental Freeing Indefinable Painful Limitless Trusting Powerful Weakening

Love: noun /l ʌ v/ Spelled [luhv] noun, verb, loved, lov·ing. noun 1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. 2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend. 3. sexual passion or desire. 4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart. 5. (used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love?

Love: Verb verb (used with object) 15. to have love or affection for: All her pupils love her. 16. to have a profoundly tender, passionate affection for (another person). 17. to have a strong liking for; take great pleasure in: to love music. 18. to need or require; benefit greatly from: Plants love sunlight. 19. to embrace and kiss (someone), as a lover

Teen Love “ Just puppy Love” Teenagers many years ago married their “first sweetheart” out of high school Now had become prolonged, therefore marriage is later

Teen Love The loss of a first love is crushing These types of loves can be interrupted by parents, college, etc. 25% of adults say they would go back to their first loves if they could

Teen Love. Our ability to feel romantic love develops during adolescence It's a natural part of growing up to develop romantic feelings and sexual attractions to others. Influences on Teen Dating: -Status -Everyone else is dating -Physical Appearance

Love vs. Attraction Attraction -Looks -Sexual feelings -Intense feelings -Lacks closeness -Hasn’t developed enough Love 3 main ingredients -Attraction -Closeness -Commitment

Love Is… Attraction : is the "chemistry" part of love. It's all about the physical — even sexual — interest that two people have in each other. Attraction is responsible for the desire we feel to kiss and hold the object of our affection. Attraction is also what's behind the flushed, nervous-but- excited way we feel when that person is near.

Love is Closeness : is the bond that develops when we share thoughts and feelings that we don't share with anyone else. When you have this feeling of closeness with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you feel supported, cared for, understood, and accepted for who you are. Trust is a big part of this

Love Is… Commitment the promise or decision to stick by the other person through the ups and downs of the relationship.

First time LoveLove Hard to sort out feelings New “In Love” feeling Does NOT mean that teens are not capable of a deep love

How To Develop Closeness Learning to give and receive. Revealing feelings Listening and supporting

Why Relationships End….. In teens – Important things change as you mature – Want different things – Graduation – One person is too busy “Just because it doesn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it’s not worth your time. “

Moving On…. Intense Devastating “Broken Heart” Talk to someone who truly understand what you are feeling. Relationships - whether they last 2 weeks, 2 months, 2 years, or a lifetime- are all opportunities to experience love on its many different levels. We learn both how to love and how to be loved in return.

Moving On… Romance - provides us with a chance to discover our own selves as we share with someone new. We learn the things we love about ourselves, the things we'd like to change, and the qualities and values we look for in a partner. ~Loving relationships teach us self- respect as well as respect for others. Love is one of the most fulfilling things we can have in our lives. ~

Love & Marriage Marriage (or wedlock) is a social union or legal contract between people that creates kinship. - Legal;;y binding People marry for many reasons; legal, social, emotional, economic, spiritual, and religious State Recognition -Same Sex Marriage -Civil Unions (domestic partnerships)

Marriage -Lay a solid foundation -Encourage each other -Encourage growth -Forgive your spouse -Improve your teamwork -Remember why you fell in love -Talk with Respect and Love -Put money in place What are your most important traits in a mate ?

End of a Marriage Divorce- The most common way to end a marriage, it requires filing a complaint at your local courthouse. Annulment - The court declares the marriage was invalid from the beginning. Separation- A legal separation used to be the most common way for a husband and wife to separate, but it's rarely used today. Key points to consider:

Divorce Rate The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41% second marriage is 60% third marriage is 73%

High Divorce Rate? Divorce is more socially excepted Less marriage for religion More baggage Dual career homes Individualism (Me generation) From divorced homes Unrealistic expectations of marriage Most young people view marriage as a “trial”

Love is…… “ We come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” - Sam Keen