H EALTHY R ELATIONSHIPS

W HAT DOES A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP LOOK LIKE ? It makes people in them happier and eases stress They are realistic and flexible Includes talking and listening Includes taking care of your self Fight fair Compromise and give and take!

H EALTHY R ELATIONSHIPS Beginning stages vs. down the road How to handle conflict Outside issues

W HAT IS CONSIDERED UNHEALTHY ? Control – needing to know where you are at all times. Lack of trust – forbidding you to have friends of the opposite sex. Put downs Being together 24-7/social isolation Lying

U NHEALTHY R ELATIONSHIPS Obsessions Instant attraction, unrealistic expectations Fear of abandonment Always thinking the other person is cheating Need to be with the other person constantly Showing up at their house, work, etc Calling and/or texting non stop Feeling as if they can’t live without the other person

U NHEALTHY R ELATIONSHIPS Threats, guilt trips and feeling pressured to stay in the relationship for the other person

U NHEALTHY R ELATIONSHIPS W HAT TO DO IF YOURS IS ? Communicate your needs and expectations clearly with your partner Set boundaries Look for ways change within the other person and yourself Determine if the good outweighs the bad Both of you need to be in agreement to make change and move forward

U NHEALTHY R ELATIONSHIPS H OW TO GET OUT Make sure your support system (parents, friends) is aware and standing by your side Talk with your counselor, social worker or other trusted adult if need be Be firm in your decision Speak face to face and provide closure when possible End all contact

“T HE C ASE OF THE E VER P RESENT E X ” You broke up with them They broke up with you If you’re over it If you’re still hung up on them

L OVE OR I NFATUATION The relationship goes beyond feelings Is this person your best friend? Do you have similar goals? Do you have the same family values? Does this person accept you as yourself? Does this person make you feel better about who you are? Is this just a rebound relationship?

B EING H APPY WITH Y OURSELF Appreciate the positives in your life Learn to accept who you are on the inside and out Keep yourself busy Spend time with friends and family that bring out the best in you Know that you are not alone Love comes in all forms

H EALTHY R ELATIONSHIPS AND S EX 37 Reasons For Not Having Sex…..

S EX M YTHS AND F ACTS Sex Myths You can’t get pregnant if: -it’s your first time -you’re both virgins -the guy pulls out before climax -the girl takes a bath, douches or urinates after sex -you are on your menstrual cycle -if it doesn’t go all the way in -if you use two condoms The truth is in any of the above situations you could get pregnant

P REGNANCY AND STD P REVENTION Abstinence 100% effective

P REGNANCY AND STD P REVENTION Contraceptives Condoms 85-98% effective Manufacturer defect Human error when applying They can break during sex

P REGNANCY AND STD P REVENTION Birth Control Pills/Shots pill 92-99% effective must take same time and every day can be ineffective when taking antibiotics or certain medications is not always immediately effective once you begin taking it for the 1 st time does not protect against STD’s

P REGNANCY AND STD P REVENTION Pulling out 50% effective for pregnancy Does not protect against STD’s Other concerns

F ACTS ON STD’ S 3 million teens will get diagnosed with an STD each year 1 in 4 sexually active teens will get an STD 1 in 2 people will have an STD by age 25 STD’s can be transmitted and received without any symptoms. Some STD’s are not curable leading to life long issues STD’s increase risk for infertility, pelvic inflammatory disease and cancer.

F ACTS ON STD’ S Gardisal-HPV vaccination -protects against 4 types of HPV that commonly cause cancer or warts. -However there are over 40 types of HPV- So Gardisal should not be your only form of protection against STDs

F ACTS ON P REGNANCY Less than 2% of teens choose adoption Financial burdens and responsibilities Misconceptions Having a baby so that there will always be someone who loves you Having a baby to keep the other person around Cute and fun

F ACTS ON P REGNANCY Father’s role When you think you’re pregnant (but you’re really not) 16 and Pregnant

S EX AND THE LAW 17 is the age of consent unless the adult is more than 8 years older Or the adult is a person of authority (coach, teacher, etc) You are not legally able to give consent if you are intoxicated

R EPUTATIONS AND R UMORS Reputations are very easy to get and very hard to get rid of! Double standards with guys and girls Name calling activity

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