Unit 4 Taste the sweets and bitters of family life.

Marriage is not a word….it is a sentence. (King Vidor) I don’t worry about terrorism. I was married for two years. (Sam Kinison)

I. Lead-in 三口之家，四世同堂，丁克家庭，双职工家庭 单亲家庭，再婚家庭

I. Lead-in 三口之家，四世同堂，丁克家庭，双职工家庭 单亲家庭，再婚家庭 nuclear family, extended family, DINK (double income, no kids), dual-earner family single-parent family, blended family

III. Listening In Task 1 & Task 2 childcare caregiver (cf. wage-earner) day care center home-based day care centers highly-industrialized societies a non-standard shift dual-earner families

Task 1 & Task 2 Are there more nuclear families? highly-industrialized societies, urbanization Are there more dual-earner families? father: the sole wage-earner, mother: the principal caregiver, male chauvinism______ dual-earner family: divide the childcare evenly, one has a non-standard shift With both parents working, how can kids be raised? grandparent/relative, nanny/maid保姆/baby-sitter临时保姆, day care center Many home-based day care centers have sprung up to fulfill this need.

Task 1 & Task 2 Are there more nuclear families? highly-industrialized societies, urbanization Are there more dual-earner families? father: the sole wage-earner, mother: the principal caregiver, male chauvinism大男子主义, shy away from housework, parenting is seen as a woman’s job and a man’s hobby dual-earner family: divide the childcare evenly, one has a non-standard shift With both parents working, how can kids be raised? grandparent/relative, nanny/maid保姆/baby-sitter临时保姆, day care center Many home-based day care centers have sprung up to fulfill this need.

Task 3 Changes Instead of cherishing the traditional notion of filial piety, young people take a new approach to a welfare society. The _____ of supporting the elderly should ____ ____ society as a whole rather than … the eroding of traditional family ____ equate economic assistance ____ love Reasons ag(e)ing population a welfare society, social security, pension养老金 nuclear families, empty nests空巢, dual-earner families birth control/family planning, only child How to support the elderly family, nanny保姆 community, apartments for seniors nursing homes, old people’s homes anti-mortgage反按揭

Task 3 Changes Instead of cherishing the traditional notion of filial piety, young people take a new approach to a welfare society. The burden of supporting the elderly should fall on society as a whole rather than … the eroding of traditional family bonds equate economic assistance with love Reasons ag(e)ing population a welfare society, social security, pension养老金 nuclear families, empty nests空巢, dual-earner families birth control/family planning, only child How to support the elderly family, nanny保姆 community, apartments for seniors nursing homes, old people’s homes anti-mortgage反按揭

Should the burden of supporting the elderly fall on society as a whole, or on individual families? a welfare society, social security network What message can you get from these two songs? 常回家看看 时间都去哪了 the eroding of traditional family bonds equate economic assistance with love

IV. Speaking Out Model 1 Model 1 Is youth wasted on the young? have a hectic time doing … I’m this close to getting a promotion. move up the ladder at work

Qs: Career and family, which is of more value to you? When does a couple start a family (have children) on average? When would you like to? How many kids would young people/you like to have? Is it tough for average households to afford to have a baby? What do you think of a DINK family?

IV. Speaking Out Model 3 Model 3 Why not have both our parents here for Christmas? my folks’ a thick skin What does having a few fish do for you?

for ages/an age Don’t overstate it. Don’t overdo it. not good enough for you not the match for you seriously honestly That certainly makes sense. You have a great point. 很久 说得过头 配不上你 不般配 说真的 说实在的 的确有道理

Create a dialog: Who’s parents’ should the young couple go to for the first Spring Festival after their wedding? Boy: tradition, my folks’, first year Girl: equality, only child Boy: Your mom never thought I was the match for you. Girl: a thick skin, biased/prejudiced, a chance to alter her impression Boy: Why not have both our parents here?

Now your turn Task 2: survey Do you live in a nuclear family or an extended one? Do you enjoy the company of brothers, sisters or cousins? Do your parents and grandparents live in the same place/region? How often do you visit or call each other? (the Spring Festival) Do both of your parents work？ How do they divide childcare and housework? Who took care of you when you were young? When do you become independent, financially or spiritually? How would your family members show love and care to each other? Do you say “I love you” to each other?

The changing picture of family life Love match vs arranged marriages包办婚姻, average age of marriage Family size and location Wage-earner(s) Childcare and housework Family planning: when, how many kids, caregiver, expense Supporting the elderly: how, expense (social security) Divorce and single-parent families Remarriage and blended families Migrant workers and home-stay children 留守儿童

白富美 高富帅 大叔 萝莉 The shifting notions about family Views about love, marriage and divorce The expression of love (romance风花雪月 vs reality) The expectation for husbands, the self-esteem of men, male chauvinism, hen-pecked怕老婆 The status of wives Spinsters剩女 Filial piety The relationship between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law婆媳关系 The care and expectation for children 望子成龙、盼女成凤 Sons vs daughters (superior?)重男轻女 白富美 高富帅 大叔 萝莉

VI Task 1: Reasons for a Divorce I’m divorcing my husband. What are your grounds for divorce? irresponsibility, a right to stability, fulfill his duties, live around the poverty line joint custody, visitation rights, financial demands, support payments