Be Proactive H ABIT #1

H ABIT #1—B E P ROACTIVE  Proactive Language  I’ll do it  I can do better than that  Let’s look at all our options  I choose to  There’s gotta be a way  I’m not going to let your bad mood rub off on me  Reactive Language  I’ll try  That’s just the way I am  There’s nothing I can do  I have to  I can’t  You ruined my day

H ABIT #1—B E P ROACTIVE  Proactive People  Are not easily offended  Take responsibility for their choices  Think before they act  Bounce back when something bad happens  Always find a way to make it happen  Focus on things they can change and don’t worry about things they can’t  Reactive People  Are easily offended  Blame others  Get angry and say things they later regret  Whine and complain  Wait for things to happen to them  Change only when they have to

H ABIT #1—B E P ROACTIVE Circle of Control Circle of No Control Choices Responses Ourselves Attitudes Color of SkinWeather Past MistakesCost of Tuition Parents Rude Comments Location Of Birth Who will win The NBA finals

H ABIT #1—B E P ROACTIVE Self Awareness : I can stand apart from myself and observe my thoughts and actions Conscience : I can listen to my inner voice to know right from wrong Imagination : I can envision new possibilities Willpower : I have the power to choose

A SSIGNMENT #2—P ART 1  Listen carefully to the words you use. Count how many times you use, “You make me…”, “I have to…”, Why can’t they…”, “I can’t”  Reactive Language I use most:

A SSIGNMENT #2—P ART 2  Identify something in your circle of no control that you are always worrying about.  Thing that I cannot control that I always worry about:

A SSIGNMENT #2—P ART 3  My most unhealthy habit:  What I am going to do about it