2 Proactive PeopleKnow what they stand for and have a strong set of valuesListen to their “better selves”Realize they have choices and take responsibility for those choicesBounce back when something bad happens in their livesAlways look at all optionsFocus on things they can do something about, and don’t worry about the other things
3 Proactive Language vs. Reactive Language “ If only …”“I’m sorry, I didn’t mean that.”“Who does he think he is anyway?”“Can we talk about this first?”“Leave me alone, you jerk. It’s non of your business!”“I just cant decide!”
6 Look at the following list and identify the things you cannot control and the things you can control.Weather What you eat Past Mistakes Others’ behavior Your Language Accidents Your choices Partners’ Behavior TV watching Parents Attitude Birth Place Exercise
7 The Victimitis VirusSome people suffer from a contagious virus called “Victimitis”People infected believes that everyone has it in for themExample – “I would be starting, but the coaches have something against me.”Reactive people : are easily offended, blame others, get angry and say things they will later regret, whine & complain, etc.Mark Twain quote “Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first”
8 Can Do People Being proactive really means two things Can Do People You take responsibility for your lifeYou have a can do attitudeCan Do PeopleTake initiative to make it happenThink about solutions and optionsAct
9 No – Can – Do People Wait for something to happen to them Think about problems and barriersAre acted uponPlease read the story on page 64. Once you are finished please select an experience you have gone through which relates to a Can – Do person
10 Reactive PeopleReactive people make their choices based on feelings, moods, and emotions.Proactive people think before they act and take responsibility for their choices
12 Power Tools Self – Awareness Conscience Imagination Will Power I can stand apart from myself and observe my thoughts and actionsConscienceI can listen to my inner voice to know right from wrongImaginationI can envision new possibilitiesWill PowerI have the power to choosePlease read “Human Tools in Action” pgs 68 – 70.