1. Habit 1
Be Proactive

2. “People are just about as happy as they make up their mind to be.”
Abe Lincoln

3. Have you ever said anything like, “My girlfriend makes me so mad”, or “My Algebra teacher stinks. I’m never going to learn anything in that class”?

4. The truth is…
No one can make you mad unless you let them. It’s your choice. You choose to be mad.
If you don’t learn anything in your class, it is your fault not the teacher’s. There are too many options available other than failing.

5. Challenge yourself And never blame someone else for the way you act.
As a teenager, it may be hard for you to accept that YOU are responsible for your life.

6. There are two types of people in this world…
The proactive and reactive
Those who take responsibility for their lives and those who blame;
Those who make it happen and those who get happened to.

7. Habit 1, Being Proactive, is the key to unlocking all the other habits, that’s why it comes first.
Habit 1 says, “I am the force. I am the captain of my life. I can choose my attitude. I’m responsible for my own happiness or unhappiness. I am the driver’s seat of my destiny, not just a passenger.”

8. The first step toward achieving the private victory…
Until you feel you are in charge of your own life, nothing else is really possible.
Proactive or reactive, the choice is yours
Each day you have about 100 chances to choose whether to be proactive or reactive.

9. THE CHOICE IS YOURS
Reactive people make choices based on impulse. They are like a can of soda pop. If life shakes them up a bit, the pressure builds and they suddenly explode!
“You stupid jerk! Get out of my lane!”

10. THE CHOICE IS YOURS
Proactive people make choices based on values. They THINK before they act.
They recognize they can’t control everything that happens to them, but they can control what they do about it.
Unlike reactive people who are full of carbonation, proactive people are like water. Shake them up all you want, take off the lid, and nothing . No fizzing, no bubbling, no pressure.
They are calm, cool and in control

11. Examples:
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12. Listen to Your Language
You can usually hear the difference between proactive and reactive people by the type of language they use.
Reactive language will sound like this:
“That’s me. That’s just the way I am.” What they are really saying is, “I’m not responsible for the way I act. I can’t change . I was predetermined to be this way.

13. Reactive language takes the power away from you and gives it to something or someone else.
It’s like giving someone the remote control to your life.

14. Proactive language puts the remote control back into your own hands.
You are then free to choose which channel you want to be on.

15. REACTIVE LANGUAGE PROACTIVE LANGUAGE
I’ll try I’ll do it
That’s just the way I am I can do better than that
There’s nothing I can do Let’s look at all our options
I have to I choose to
I can’t There’s gotta be a way
You ruined my day I’m not going to let your bad mood rub off on me

16. But I can’t change…I’m hardwired this way
Science disagrees:

17. The Victimitis Virus
People infected with the Victimitis virus believe that everyone has it in for them and that the world owes them something

18. Mark Twain says it best…
“Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.”

19. Adreana, an honor student from Chicago, grew up in a home plagued by victimitis:
Teacher Read page 52

20. The only person who can hold you back is YOU!
Besides feeling like victims, reactive people:
Are easily offended
Blame others
Get angry and say things they later regret
Whine and complain
Wait for things to happen to them
Change only when they have to

21. It Pays To Be Proactive
Proactive people are a different breed. Proactive people:
Are not easily offended
Take responsibility for their choices
Think before they act
Bounce back when something bad happens
Always find a way to make it happen
Focus on things they can do something about, and don’t worry about things they can’t.

22. Mary Beth discovered for herself the benefits of being proactive:
Teacher read p

23. Come on…it’s not that easy, right?
True, being reactive is so much easier. It’s easy to lose your cool. That doesn’t take any control at all. It’s easy to whine and complain.
But…without question, being proactive is the HIGHER ROAD.

24. The key
Get in the HABIT of being proactive so you can run on autopilot and not even have to think about it. If you’re choosing to be proactive 20 out of 100 times each day, try doing it 30 out 100 times. Then 40. Never underestimate the huge difference small changes can make.

25. WE CAN CONTROL ONLY ONE THING
The fact is, we can not control everything that happens to us.
But we can control HOW WE RESPOND TO WHAT HAPPENS TO US.
And that is what counts.
Stop worrying about things you can’t control and do things about what you can control.

26. The Circle of No Control

27. Teacher read example page 55

28. Turning Setbacks into Triumphs
Life often deals us a bad hand.
It is up to us to control how we respond.
The story of W. Mitchell: page 56

29. Most of our setbacks won’t be as severe as Mitchell’s, all of us will, however, have our fair share. You might get dumped by a girlfriend or boyfriend, you may lose your job, you may get beaten up by a thug, you may not get accepted into the school of your choice, you may become seriously ill. These are the times to be proactive and strong. They are your defining moments.

30. Rising Above Abuse
P. 58 Heather and Bridgett’s stories

31. If you have been abused, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!
The truth must be told.
By telling another person, you immediately divide your problem in half.
Talk with someone you can trust.
Sharing your secret with another is an important step in the healing and forgiving process. Be proactive.

32. Becoming A Change Agent
The scary thing is that bad habits such as abuse, alcoholism, and welfare dependency are often passed down from parents to kids, and , as a result, dysfunctional families keep repeating themselves.

33. How does it begin?
Statistics show that if you have been abused as a child, you are likely to become an abuser

34. The Good News..
Is that you can stop the cycle. You can be proactive and stop these bad habits from being passed on. You can become a “change agent” and pass on good habits to future generations, starting with your own kids.

35. Whether I fail Or succeed shall be No man’s doing But my own.
I am the force.
Elaine Maxwell

36. Hilda….a change agent
P. 60

37. Growing Your Proactive Muscles
Autobiography in FIVE SHORT CHAPTERS I I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk, I fall in. I am lost…I am helpless. It isn’t my fault. It takes forever to find a way out.

38. II
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in again. I can’t believe I am in the same place. But, it isn’t my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.

39. III
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in. It’s a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately.

40. IV I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

41. I walk down another street.V
I walk down another street.

42. CAN-DO PEOPLE Take initiative to make it happen
Think about solutions and options
Act

43. NO_CAN-DO-PEOPLE Wait for something to happen to them
Think about problems and barriers
Are acted upon

44.
This clip is a wonderful example of having to make a choice to be proactive and do something courageous and bold, or to choose to be passive. It is an example of how we either speak boldly for Christ or sit back in silence, waiting for someone else to do the job.

45. FAT, SICK AND NEARLY DEAD

46. JUST PUSH PAUSE