CHAPTER 9 LIFE-SPAN DEVELOPMENT PHYSICAL AND COGNITIVE DEVELOPMENT IN ADOLESCENCE

1. What is the nature of adolescence? Dramatic biological changes Relationships with parents, peers and teachers change Thoughts become more abstract and idealistic Most adolescents make transition to adult life successfully Many do not because of too few opportunities and lack of support

2. What physical changes do we experience in adolescence? Puberty: period of rapid physical maturation Includes hormonal and bodily changes Usually early in adolescence Order of physical changes for males and females in puberty -- GEC opportunity

3. What hormonal changes occur in adolescence? Hormones: chemicals secreted by endocrine glands Carried throughout body using blood stream

4. Which endocrine glands are involved in adolescent changes? Hypothalamus, pituitary and gonads Hypothalamus = structure in the brain controlling eating and sexual behavior Pituitary = brain structure controlling growth and regulating other glands Gonads = testes in males and ovaries in females

5. Which hormones dominate in males and females during puberty? Testosterone in males affects height and voice change Estradiol (form of estrogen) in females affects changes in breasts, uterus and skeletal system Both hormones are present in both boys and girls

6. What are other influences on changes in adolescent physical development? Social factors contribute to changes Stress, eating patterns, exercise, sexual activity tension and depression also affect hormonal levels

7. When does puberty begin? For boys = as early as 10 and as late as 13 ½ For girls = sometime between ages 9 and 15 Specific time influenced by nutrition, health, and other environmental factors

8. What are influences on body image changes in adolescence? Adolescents more likely preoccupied with bodies than other age groups Girls tend to be less satisfied than boys, in general

9. How does brain develop during adolescence? Corpus callosum thickens - improving ability to process information Amygdala ( influences emotions, especially anger) matures earlier than prefrontal cortex Adolescents capable of strong emotions Prefrontal cortex not developed enough to control emotional expressions

10. How does sexual identity develop during adolescence? Involves learning to manage sexual feelings, developing new forms of intimacy, learning skills to regulate sexual behavior Sexual identity involves activities, interests and behavior styles Sexual orientation develops during this time also

Wide variety in tendency toward sexual activity May be influenced by religious and other values

Development of gay and lesbian preferences may be characterized by same-sex attractions in childhood, lack of heterosexual dating, and recognition of sexual orientation in mid- to late adolescence Other adolescents may experience both same-sex and other-sex attractions

11. What are sexually transmitted infections? Diseases associated with sexual activity Not prevented by use of contraceptives, such as birth control pills or implants Examples: HIV-AIDS, gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia (- further discussion in chapter 11)

12. Why is adolescent pregnancy a concern? In US - highest rate of adolescent pregnancy and childbearing among industrialized countries Rate of pregnancy and childbearing in US decreased since 1991, because of increased contraceptive use and fear of STIs, such as AIDS

Adolescent pregnancy associated with risk for mother and baby Often mother drops out of school Usually mother never catches up economically with women who postpone childbearing Risk for rapid subsequent pregnancies Infants have higher risk of low birth weight and neurological problems

Pregnancy alone not associated with negative consequences Adolescent mothers likely from low-SES families Adolescent pregnancy in general is high-risk circumstance Support for adolescent mothers is important in assisting educational and occupational opportunities

13. What are issues important in adolescent health? Nutrition and exercise affect quality of health Poor nutrition and low-level exercise major contributors to obesity in adolescence Problems with nutrition and health can lead to poor health habits and early death in adult life

Sleep patterns also contribute to general health in adolescence Inadequate sleep associated with fatigue, sleepiness, irritability, depression and increased use of beverages containing caffeine Increased sleepiness during the day in older adolescents associated with changing biological rhythms

14. What are major causes of death in adolescence? Accidents (Risky driving habits (speeding and tailgating, driving under influence of alcohol or drugs) Homicide (especially among African-American male adolescents) Suicide ( discussed further in chapter 10)

15. How do parents, peers and school environment affect substance use and abuse in adolescence? Special concern for children who begin use in early adolescence or childhood Person who begins drinking before age 14 more likely to become alcohol dependent than peers who wait Positive relationships with parents and others associated with lower probability to have substance use problems

16. What are 2 eating disorders affecting adolescent development? Anorexia nervosa = obsession with being thin associated with starvation Symptoms = (1) weighing less than 85% of normal weight for height and bone size; (2) intense fear of gaining weight; (3) having distorted body image

Anorexia nervosa usually begins in early to middle adolescence Most people affected are young, white individuals in adolescence or early adulthood Usually from middle-class, well-educated families Set high standards, feel stress about not meeting standards and obsessed about how others perceive them

Bulimia nervosa = individual consistently follows a binge-and-purge pattern Consumes large amounts of high-calorie food followed by purging through vomiting or use of laxatives Preoccupied with food, strong fear of being overweight, experience depression and anxiety

17. How does Piaget’s theory describe cognitive development during adolescence? Piaget believed the formal operational stage of cognitive development begins during adolescence Formal operational stage associated with ability to think more abstractly No longer limited to actual experiences to anchor thinking Increased ability to develop make-believe situations, abstract propositions and hypothetical situations

Example in verbal problem-solving ability Formal operational thinker can think through the process involving A, B, and C and understand that if A=B and B=C, then A=C without actually seeing concrete examples of A,B, and C

Another example is ability to think about thinking ( metacognition and considering the nature of thought) Adolescents also display idealism and concern with possibilities Speculate about ideal characteristics and qualities Can lead to comparison with others in light of these ideal qualities

Adolescent formal operational thinkers begin to use hypothetical-deductive reasoning Creating a hypothesis and deducing implications and possible consequences Also develop ways to test hypotheses

18. What criticisms have been applied to Piaget’s ideas? GEC possibility

19. What is adolescent egocentrism? Heightened self-consciousness 2 key components: (1) imaginary audience = belief that others are as interested in them as they themselves are Associated with attempts to gain attention by others and

(2) personal fable = associated with sense of uniqueness and invincibility or invulnerability Can lead to risky behaviors and believing that nothing bad will happen as a result

20. How does information processing theory describe cognition during adolescence? Most important change in adolescent thinking is improved executive functioning Involves reasoning, decision-making, monitoring critical thinking, and monitoring thinking progress Improved executive functioning leads to more effective learning, improved use of attention and critical thinking

21. How does decision making change during adolescence? Increased time in decision-making – concerning friends, dating, possibility of sex, plans for the future Adolescents, more so than children, can generate different options, evaluate them, anticipate the consequences and consider source credibility Ability to make good decisions not always associated with actually carrying them out in a specific life situation ( example, driving)

22. How does critical thinking change during adolescence? Increases with age Not as frequent as might be expected in late adolescence If fundamental skills (literacy and math) are undeveloped, critical thinking skills also likely to be immature Improved critical thinking allows 4 benefits

23. Benefits of improved critical thinking (1) increased speed and automaticity (2)increased breadth of content knowledge in variety of domains (3) increased ability to construct new knowledge combinations (4)greater range and more spontaneity of using strategies for obtaining and applying knowledge

24. What are characteristics of how schools influence adolescent development? First year of transition can be difficult Transition occurs at same time adolescents are experiencing physical, emotional and social changes Adolescents may experience the top-dog phenomenon Moving from being biggest, oldest and most experienced to being youngest, smallest and least powerful

25. What recommendations have been made to create effective educational environments for young adolescents? GEC possibility

26. What are concerns about the high school experience affects adolescent development? Criticism that high schools encourage passivity Recommendation that schools create variety of paths to develop secure identity Concern that many students graduate with deficient reading, writing and math skills Increased concern about high school drop outs

27. What is service learning? Form of education promoting social responsibility and service to community Encourages activities such as tutoring, helping older adults and assisting at child care centers Can lead to decrease in being self-centered and more motivated to help others

28. What are 2 conditions that make service learning more effective? (1) giving students a degree of choice as to the service learning activity they participate in (2) providing students with opportunities to reflect on their service learning experiences Have resulted in higher grades, increased goal-setting and higher self-esteem and improved sense of making a difference in the lives of others

Socioemotional Development in Adolescence CHAPTER 10 Socioemotional Development in Adolescence

1. What is identity? Self-portrait Career and work path Political identity Religious identity Relationships Achievement and intellectual identity

Sexual identity Cultural and ethnic identity Hobbies and interest Personality Physical identity

2. Erikson’s view 5th developmental stage Psychological moratorium -- gap between childhood security and adult autonomy Free to try out new identities Experimentation to find place in the world

3. Developmental changes Continuous during adolescence Begins with attachment Sense of self Emergence of independence Final phase with life review in old age

Late adolescence - physical, cognitive and socioemotional development allows synthesizing and constructing adult maturity 4 stages of identity-

Diffusion – not yet experience crisis or make commitment Foreclosure – make a commitment but not experience crisis; especially with authoritarian parenting style

Moratorium – experiencing crisis with no commitment Achievement – past crisis and has made an identity commitment

4. Beyond Erikson Key changes in identity may occur in early adult life – 18-25 years MAMA cycle possible during adult life – moratorium and achievement alternation

5. Family influences Individuality has 2 dimensions - self-assertion, when you have and communicate a point of view - separateness, using communication to express difference from others

Connectedness also has 2 dimensions - mutuality, or sensitivity to and respect for others - permeability, openness to others’ views

Identity formation supported by family relationship characterized by Individuation, encouraging adolescent to develop an independent point of view Connectedness, providing secure base for exploring

Strong connection and weak individuation results in identity foreclosure Weak connection leads to identity confusion

6. Ethnic identity Includes sense of membership in an ethnic group Also attitudes and feelings associated with ethnic membership

If member of ethnic minority, can choose among 2+ sources of identity May develop bicultural or multicultural identity

7. Autonomy and attachment Parents may have difficulty coping with adolescent’s search for autonomy and responsibility Adolescent ability to gain control of behavior develops best if adult support is appropriate Wise adults gradually allow adolescent to make mature decisions on their own

8. Role of attachment Securely attached adolescents less likely to engage in problem behaviors such as illegal drug use and delinquency Also more likely to have positive peer relationships Caution: moderate correlations

9. Parent-Adolescent conflict Most conflict experienced in everyday situations Conflict may increase in early adolescence, stabilize in mid-adolescence and decrease in late adolescence Every day conflict can serve positive developmental function Transition to increasing independence

Old model- Suggest adolescents detach from parents as they mature High stress and intense conflict

New model- Parents are important attachment source and support system Moderate conflict

10. Competent adolescent have parents who: Show warmth and respect Demonstrate sustained interest Understand and adapt to cognitive and socioemotional changes Communicate expectations for high standards Recognize moderate conflict is normal

Demonstrate constructive ways to resolve problems Understand the developmental journey

11. Peers Friendships- In adolescence, fewer friendships and more intense and intimate More important Failure to develop intimacy can lead to loneliness and depression with reduced sense of self-esteem

Young adolescents more influenced my peer pressure Cliques – small groups, usually same sex and same age, may develop from club or sport activities Crowds – larger and less personal, membership based on reputation Defined by activities and level of self-esteem

12. Developmental changes in dating Usually 10th to 12th grade before relationships last more than 2+ months Early adolescents usually gather in groups for social acitivites Cyberdating can begin in middle school Hazardous Declines in high school when real-life relationships more important

13. Gay and lesbian dating May go out with same-sex peers to clarify sexual identity or disguise it Relatively rare in adolescence because of few opportunities and social disapproval

14. Cross-cultural comparisons Variations in adolescent behavior 2/3 Asian Indian adolescents accept parent choice of marital partner Philippines, many female adolescents migrate to city to work and support families Middle East, adolescents do not interact with peers, even in school

Street youth in Kenya and other countries, if abandoned by parents engage in delinquency or prostitution to survive

15. Health Improved in some areas and not in others Few adolescents die from infectious diseases and malnutrition Increased health-risky behaviors such as drug use and unprotected sex

16. Gender In many countries outside US, males have greater access to educational opportunities Females usually have less freedom to pursue variety of careers and engage in leisure activities Especially in Southeast Asia, Latin America and Arab countries – more restrictions on sexual activities of adolescent females

17. Families In some countries outside US, close-knit families and extensive extended family networks In US, parenting usually less authoritarian More adolescents grow up in divorced families or step-families

18. Peers Cultural differences in peer influences South American street youth peers can serve as substitute family for survival

19. Ethnicity Immigration- high rates contribute to growing cultural minorities in US Characterized by stressors uncommon for native residents Language barriers Dislocations and separation from support networks Change in SES status

Dual struggle to maintain identity and acculturate

Assimilation – absorption of ethnic minority groups into dominant culture May mean loss of behaviors and values from ethnic minority group

Pluralism – Coexistence of distinct cultural and ethnic groups in same society

20. Ethnicity and socioeconomic status May interact in ways that exaggerate influence of ethnicity Ethnic minorities overrepresented in lower SES groups Poverty adds to stress of ethnic minority adolescents

Double disadvantage :1) prejudice, discrimination and bias because of ethnic minority status 2) stressful effects of poverty

21. Juvenile delinquency Breaking the law or engaging in illegal behavior Broad concept: littering to murder More likely male than female More frequently property offense than personal offenses Delinquent rates higher for minority and lower SES groups than for others

Causes - Many proposed -heredity Identity problems Community and family influences --characteristics of lower SES culture may promote delinquency Norms of lower SES peer groups may be antisocial and counter to goals and norms of larger society

Adolescents in communities with high crime rates Characterized by poverty, unemployment, and feelings of alienation from general society Lack quality schooling, educational funding and organized activitiesd

22. Depression More likely in adolescents than children Higher in girls than in boys Females more likely to ruminate about moods Female self-image more likely negative compared to that of boys Females encounter more discrimination

Family factors – depression more likely if parents are depressed, emotionally unavailable, experiencing marital conflict, having financial problems

Peer relationship influences Depression more likely if peer relationships are unsatisfactory If no best friend Having troubles with friends Experiencing peer rejection

Suicide more likely if – Long history of family problems Family instability and unhappiness Lack affection and emotional support

Suicide – cont. Experience high control and pressure for high achievement Physical or sexual abuse Lack supportive friendship network Recent or current stressful experiences

Life-span exam 3 notes Chapter 11 Physical and cognitive development in early adulthood

1. Transition from adolescence to adulthood Emerging adulthood (18-25 years) Identity exploration, especially in love and work Instability (residential changes)

Self-focused – autonomy in running own lives Feeling in-between Age of possibilities – opportunity to transform lives

2. Markers of becoming an adult In US, having more or less permanent full-time job Economic independence Wide variability in individual independent between ages of 17-27 (309)

Taking responsibility for one’s own actions In other countries – marriage is an important marker

3. Transition from high school to college (309) Involves stress and change Recurrence of top-dog experience? May involve moving to more impersonal school structure

More geographically and culturally diverse Increased focus on achievement and assessment

Positive features of college life: Feel more adult More time to spend with peers

More time to explore different lifestyles and values More independence from parental monitoring

Many colleges have counseling centers to help cope with stress Provide information on coping and academic matters (310)

4. Physical development (310) Often reach peak physical development between 19-26 Same for athletes as well as non-athletes Begin physical decline at this time

Muscle tone and strength begin to decrease around age 30

Sensory abilities show little change Lens of eye loses some elasticity Hearing peaks in adolescence and seems stable during early adulthood Increase of fatty tissue begins

5. Health (311) Emerging adults have > 2x mortality rate of adolescents True of males more so than females Have fewer chronic health problems

Most bad health habits begun in adolescence continue into early adulthood Inactivity, diet, obesity, substance use, reproductive health care, health-care access get worse

If develop poor health habits – Not eat breakfast Not eat regular meals

Rely on snacks as main food source Eat excessively to point of being obese Smoking and/or drinking moderately or heavily Getting by on few hours of sleep

Poor health habits contribute to level of life satisfaction Health habits can be improved: Eating healthy kinds and amounts of food Appropriate exercise Avoid abusing drugs

6. Eating and weight (312) Obesity is serious and pervasive issue Defined as having BMI of 30+ Linked to hypertension, diabetes and cardiovascular disease

Dieting: Practiced by many Low rate of continuing success

Most effective programs involve exercise Places individual at risk for other problems Yo-yo weight loss and gain Liquid diets and low-calories diets linked to gall bladder damage

7. Regular exercise (313) Exercise helps to prevent disease Heart disease and diabetes Recommend 30 minutes of aerobic exercise per day Aerobic = sustained, stimulating heart and lung activity

Exercise also  Improves self-concept Reduces anxiety and depression

8. Substance abuse Alcohol use  Binge drinking increases during college years Chronic binge drinking more characteristic of males

Consequences of binge drinking: missing classes, physical injuries, problems with police, unprotected sex Binge drinking peaks at ages 21-22

(314) Alcoholism - Disorder involving long-term, repeated uncontrolled compulsive and excessive alcohol use

Impairs health and social relationships High frequency of first-degree relatives who abuse alcohol

Cigarette smoking and nicotine - Dangers of smoking or being around smokers Linked to death as a result of cancer, heart disease, chronic pulmonary problems

Secondhand smoke linked to lung cancer Addiction to nicotine makes quitting difficult

Nicotine is stimulant Increases energy and alertness Stimulates neurotransmitters that have calming or pain-reducing effect Quitting smoking reduces risk of cancer death

9. Sexuality Sexual activity (315) By age 18 more than 60% have experienced sexual intercourse By age 25, most have experienced sexual intercourse Age 18-25 is time most likely sexually active and unmarried

Patterns of heterosexuality - 1)males more likely to have casual sex and females more selective 2)casual sex more likely between 18-25 than other times of life

Sexual orientation and behavior -(316) Heterosexual attitudes and behavior: 3 categories: 1/3 have sex 2x/week+, 1/3 have sex few times/month, 1/3 few times/yr or not at all

Married and cohabiting couples have sex more frequently than noncohabiting couples

10. From 1994 survey Most Americans do not report kinky sex activities Adultery is more the exception than the rule Men think about sex more so than females

Sources of sexual orientation - Until late 1800’s, most believed people were either heterosexual or homosexual More recently, sexual orientation is viewed as a continuum: male-female, same-sex or bisexual

Most people, regardless of orientation, experience similar physiological arousal during sexual activity Most people report no differences in attitudes, behaviors and adjustments regarding sexual activity

Link between same-sex orientation and being exposed to high levels of hormones characteristic of female fetuses between 2-5 months of prenatal development

Possible reason why same-sex orientation s difficult to modify same-sex orientation likely determined by combination of environmental, physiological, hereditary and cognitive factors

Attitudes and behavior of lesbians and gay males - Gender differences characteristic of heterosexual relationships also appear in same-sex and GLB relationships Lesbians and gay males develop bicultural identity

(317) May adapt best if don’t define themselves in either-or terms

Sexually-transmitted infections - Diseases contracted primarily through sexual activity Including intercourse, oral-anal and oral genital contact

Most common: bacterial infections (gonorrhea, syphilis, Chlamydia) and those caused by viruses (AIDS, genital herpes, and genital warts)

Most serious STI: infection caused by HIV which destroys body’s immune system (319)

Best strategies for protecting against HIV and AIDS: Knowing your and your partner’s risk status Having regular physical exams

Having protected sex Avoiding sex with multiple partners

11. Forcible sexual behavior and sexual harrassment Rape - Forcible and nonconsensual sexual intercourse Definitions vary from state to state Victims may be reluctant to experience consequences of reporting rape

Women more likely victims of rape Traumatic for victims and those close to them

Consequences of rape - Depression and anxiety Increased substance use and/or abuse Sexual dysfunction (reduced desire and inability to experience orgasm)

Date or acquaintance rape is increasing concern Coercive sexual activity with someone known to the victims

Sexual harassment - Power display of one person over another

Many forms: inappropriate sexual remarks and physical contact, blatant propositions and physical assault

Women more likely victims than men Serious psychological consequences

12. Cognitive development (321) Piaget’s view - Concluded adults and adolescents think qualitatively basically the same

At 11-15 years we enter formal operational stage Young adults more quantitatively advanced compared to adolescents

Piaget and information processing theorists believe - adults increase amount of knowledge in specific areas

13. Realistic and pragmatic thinking Realistic – idealism of adolescents decreases as young adults face realities of post-adolescent life Switch from acquiring knowledge to applying knowledge as pursue success in employment

14. Reflective and relativistic thinking Adolescents often view world in either-or terms and polarities Young adults often move away from absolutist thinking Reflective thinking also becomes possible

Developmental changes - Young children often have idealistic fantasies of what life will be like as adults (superheroes, sports or entertainment stars)

High school age adolescents – think about careers, less idealistic as realize the requirements for certain occupations

Late adolescents and young adults become aware of training and educational requirements in terms of college majors

By early to mid-20’s, many are settling into full-time employment Begin to establish themselves in their chosen career fields

(324) Monitoring occupational outlook - Important to be knowledgeable about a variety of career fields and employers

Good source is Occupational Outlook Handbook OOH describes employment possibilities for various career fields as well as training/education requirements and job duties and responsibilities

15. Impact of work and employment Work defines an important part of a person’s identity Influences financial standing, housing, where and how we spend our time, friendships and health Creates structure and rhythm to life, often not conscious of until missed Creates stress

(324) 4 characteristics of work settings linked to stress and health problems High job demands Inadequate opportunities to participate in decision making High level of supervisor control Lack of clarity about criteria for competent performance

(325) Work during college - Many college students work full or part-time Can help pay for or offset college expenses Can restrict student opportunities to learn Increased work hours linked to increased risk of dropping out of school

Employment can contribute positively to education Cooperative or co-op programs involve paid apprenticeships for students

Internships or summer employment can support education, especially in your field of study Can lead to employment after graduation

(325) Dual career couples - May have special problems balancing work and other life responsibilities If both partners work, sharing household tasks can be an issue Having children as well can cause complications

(236) For dual career couples, division of home responsibilities is changing: US men take increased responsibility for maintaining the home

US women taking increased responsibility for working outside the home US men showing greater interest in family life and parenting

Diversity in the workplace - In developed countries, women increasingly working outside the home Ethnic diversity increasing in the workplace

Women and ethnic minority members experience problems breaking through glass ceiling (invisible barrier to career advancement and being hired in managerial positions

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LIFESPAN DEVELOPMENT CHAPTER 12 SOCIOEMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT IN EARLY ADULTHOOD SOURCE OF BONUS ITEM CONTENT

Intimacy 331 Self-disclosure and sharing private thoughts important for intimacy 332 Erikson’s stage of intimacy versus isolation Inability to establish meaningful relationships can interfere with healthy personality development

Important to develop balance between intimacy and isolation Challenge of developing independence from parents Task of making own decisions without relaying excessively on other people 332

Friendship in adult life serves several functions Companionship Intimacy Support Source of self-esteem

Friends can be better source of support in times of stress compared to family members We choose our friends Adult friends tend to come from same age group 333

Romantic love Also called passionate love Strong components of sexuality and infatuation Complex combination of passion, fear, anger, sexual desire, joy and jealousy

Affectionate love Also called companionate love Occurs when desire to have another person close by Deep caring affection for the other person

334 Consummate love (can think of love components [Sternberg, 1988] as intimacy, commitment and passion) Involves optimal levels of all three components Infatuation = high in passion, low in commitment

Affectionate love = high in intimacy and commitment; lower in passion

Single adults 335 Enjoy lifestyles Can be stereotyped Swinging single versus being desperately lonely

Singles share some issues Common problems: forming intimate relationships, confronting loneliness, finding place in a couples-oriented society

Advantages of being single Time to make decisions about life, time to develop personal resources, freedom to make decisions on your own, opportunities to explore possibilities and new places

335 Cohabiting adults Living together in sexual relationship without being married Percentage increased between 1970 and 2005 May view cohabiting as on-going lifestyle Avoid official aspects of marriage

Cohabiting relationships tend to be short-lived Offers problems as well as advantages Increased risk of domestic violence Higher level of disapproval from parents and friends Difficulty with owning property jointly

Married adults Stable marriage viewed as most desired endpoint of adult relationship development until about 1930 More recently, personal fulfillment more often a goal compared to marriage stability

Benefits of a good marriage Live longer, healthier lives Potential for lower level of biological and cardiovascular risk factors

Divorced adults Number of divorced adults increased between 1950 and 2002

Risk factors for divorce: Youthful marriage Low educational level Lack of religious affiliation Having parents who are divorce Having a baby before marriage

337 Divorce more likely early in marriage

Remarried adults Divorced adults usually remarry within 4 years of divorce Men remarry sooner than women Stepfamilies occur in many forms 338

Strategies for coping with stress of living in a stepfamily Have realistic expectations Develop new positive relationships within the family

Gay male and lesbian adults Gay and lesbian relationships tend to be similar to heterosexual relationships in satisfactions, joys, loves and conflicts Increasing number of gml couples create families that include children

338 - misconceptions about gml relationships Stereotype of having one masculine and one feminine partner true in small percentage of relationships Having large number of multiple partners is rare

338 Majority of gml individuals prefer long-term, committed relationships

339 Gottman, 1994; Principles for making marriage work Establish love maps – personal insights and detailed maps of partner’s life and world Nurture fondness and admiration –

Turn toward your partner rather than away, seeing your partner as a friend Allow your partner to influence you Create shared meaning, being honest and sensitive with your partner

Becoming a parent Requires number of interpersonal skills Imposes emotional demands Learning to be a parent presents challenges 340

Trends in childbearing Women who give birth to fewer children have more freedom in other aspects of their lives Increased numbers of women who work outside the home invest less actual time in children’s development

Men are investing more time in parenting Parental care is often supplemented by institutional care

Dealing with divorce Think of divorce as opportunity to grow personally Make decisions carefully

Focus more on future than on the past 342 Use strengths and resources to cope with problems

Don’t expect to be happy and successful in everything you do

342 Gender, communication and relationships Tannen (1990) Report talk – designed to give information Rapport talk – language of conversation, establishing connections and negotiating relationships