1. Parenting

2.  Caring for children and helping them grow and develop  Meet needs  Good judgment How to Parent

3.  When to help and encourage – When to let child try on their own  Adapt  Choose your style  Permissive, Authoritarian, Authoritative 1. A Learning Process

5. Authoritarian: Limits without Freedom.  Definition:  Parents’ word is law, parents have absolute control.  Misconduct is punished  Affection and praise are rarely give  Parents try to control children's’ behavior and attitudes  They value unquestioned obedience  Children are told what to do, how to do it, and where to do it, and when to do it.

6. Outcomes of Authoritarian Style Obedient Distrustful Discontent Withdrawn Unhappy Hostile Not High Achievers Often Rebel  Children from authoritarian homes are so strictly controlled, either by punishment or guilt, that they are often prevented from making a conscious choice about particular behavior because they are overly concerned about what their parents will do.

7. Permissive: Freedom without limits.  Definition:  Parents allow their children to do their own thing.  Little respect for order and routine.  Parents make few demands on children.  Impatience is hidden.  Discipline is lax  Parents are resources rather than standard makers  Rarely punish  Non controlling, non-demanding  Usually warm  Children walk all over the parents

8. Outcome of Permissive Parenting Aggressive Least self— reliant Least self- controlled Least exploratory Most unhappy  Children from permissive homes receive so little guidance that they often become uncertain and anxious about whether they are doing the right thing.

9.  May be different for each child  Understand each child’s development 2. Reasonable Expectations

10.  Observe other parents and try new things  Take classes or read books  Financial skills?? 3. Develop Skills

11.  Image-making - Pregnancy  Nurturing – 0-2  Authority – 2-4  Interpretive – 4-13  Interdependent – Teen years  Departure – Child leaves home Stages of Parenting

12.  New responsibilities  Lifestyle changes  Emotional adjustments  Relationship changes  Employment Challenges

13.  Emotional Maturity  Put child’s needs before yours  Financial Stability  Children are expensive!! MUST HAVES

14.  http://www.parenting.com/Mom/signalPatterns.jsp What is Your Parenting Style? Extra Credit