1. The Social Costs of Pornography: The Pornified Life

2. Mary Anne Layden, Ph D Director Sexual Trauma and Psychopathology Program Center for Cognitive Therapy University of Pennsylvania layden@mail.med.upenn.edu

3. Factors Affecting Learning Pictures are compact carriers of meaning. Learning is deeper if we are rewarded for behavior. The orgasm is very rewarding. Learning is deeper if we have role models who are rewarded for behaviors. This increases permission-giving beliefs.

4. Factors Affecting Learning Learning is deeper in the presence of arousal. Antisocial behaviors are learned and expressed more if we are anonymous.

5. Perfect Learning Environment Pornography Especially Internet Pornography

6. Internet Factors Free Available everywhere Available all the time Children know better how to use computers than parents

7. Psychologist’s call Internet Pornography the new Crack Cocaine

8. Pornified Permission-Giving Beliefs Pornography produces Permission-Giving Beliefs Permission-Giving Beliefs are beliefs that say what I am doing is normal, doesn’t hurt anyone, and everyone is doing it, etc. Therefore, I don’t need to change my behavior. Those who have a problem with my behavior are wrong, crazy, prudish.

9. Pornified Permission-Giving Beliefs Permission-Giving Beliefs may include beliefs About behaviors that are pathological or illegal That are toxic to relationships That are mis-education about sex, relationships and self-esteem That support sexual entitlement

10. Pornified Permission-Giving Beliefs Examples Sex is a consumer commodity which you can sell, buy or steal. Sex is a male entitlement. Women’s bodies are just sexual entertainment for men.

11. Pornified Permission-Giving Beliefs Examples All men go to prostitutes All people want sex with all people all the time. Women enjoy being raped Women enjoy degrading sex Children enjoy sex with adults

12. Pornified Mis-education about Sex Sex is not about intimacy, caring, love or respect Sex is not about marriage or having children Sex is recreation. You don’t need to know your partner. Sex with strangers is the best and most intense kind of sex

13. Pornified Mis-education about Sex Sex has no negatives like sexually transmitted disease, unwanted pregnancies, psychological or moral impacts. Female sexuality doesn’t match reality. Women are sexually insatiable and indiscriminate Male sexuality is viciously narcissistic, predatory and out of control.

14. Pornified Mis-education about Sex Sex is adversarial Pornography is a one-way street with focus only on one's own pleasure. There is no need to consider the others needs or feelings.

15. Pornified Mis-education about Sex Internet Pornography tends to be designer sex. You keep clicking until you find the idealized image or the preferred image of the moment. Expecting perfect and arrangable (“clickable”) body types is unrealistic and leads to dissatisfaction in real relationships.

16. Pornified Mis-education about Sex Pornography includes performers who never say no and never reject sexual advances. This can –Increase unrealistic expectations about others –Increase frustration with others who do say no –reduce the awareness and skill of noticing the unwillingness of partners

17. Pornified Mis-education about Sex A certain amount of pornography is pathological involving violence animals children rape

18. Pornified Thinking

19. What pornified men think That women enjoy rape That she “got what she wanted” when she was raped That women make false accusations of rape More acceptance of the rape myth That rapists deserve less time in prison

20. Male Incarceration Recommendation for Rape (3 weeks after exposure to pornography)

21. What pornified men think They have more sexually callous beliefs They have an adversarial view of sex

22. What pornified men think They have increased estimates of how often others: group sex sex with animals sex with violence

23. Projections of Sexual Behaviors (percent 3 weeks after exposure to pornography)

26. What pornified men think They are more accepting of violence against women They use more sexual terms to describe women They see women as sex objects They have reduced support for the women’s liberation movement

27. Male Support for the Female Liberation Movement (percentage 3 weeks after exposure to pornography)

28. What pornified men think They rate their partners as less attractive They are less satisfied with their partner’s sexual performance

29. What pornified men think They have a greater desire for sex without emotional involvement They have a greater acceptance of sex outside of marriage for married individuals They have a greater acceptance of sex before marriage They are less child centered during marriage They are less desiring of female children

30. What pornified men think They are more willing to have sex with 13- 14 year olds They are more sexually attracted to children They are less likely to think pornography needs to be restricted from children

31. Evaluation of Pornography and Recommendation for Accessibility (percentage 3 weeks after exposure to pornography)

32. Evaluation of Pornography and Recommendation for Accessibility (Percentage 3 weeks after exposure to pornography)

33. Evaluation of Pornography and Recommendation for Accessibility (percentage 3 weeks after exposure to pornography)

34. Pornified Behavior

35. How pornified men behave They use violent sexual fantasies to get themselves aroused They are more likely to sexually harass women

36. How pornified men behave They engage in date rape They engage in stranger rape They engage in marital rape

37. How pornified men behave They verbally coerce sex They physically coerce sex They use drugs and alcohol to coerce sex

38. How pornified men behave They have more sex partners They are less attracted to their partners They are less interested in actual sex with their partners They try to get their partners to act out scenes from pornographic films

39. How pornified men behave They have affairs if they are married They go to prostitutes

40. Watched a Pornographic Movie in the Last Year Monto, 1999

41. Sexual Exploitation Industry Saw a pornographic magazine last year

42. How pornified men behave Almost 25% of these 19-21 year old males said that they had either gone to a prostitute already or planned to in the future.

43. How pornified men behave More prostitution use is related to more pornography use

44. Sexual Exploitation Industry

45. How pornified men behave More prostitution use is related to more frequent non consensual sex

46. Sexual Exploitation Industry

47. How pornified men behave The more pornography they used the more they were willing to engage in unusual sex practices such as sadomasochism, if they thought they would not get caught

48. How pornified men behave Prostitution Myths Victimless crime Consenting adults A job just like any other They do it because they like sex

49. Portrait of Exploitation

52. How pornified men behave Men who go to strip clubs are more likely to engage in non-consensual sex than those who do not go to strip clubs

53. How pornified men behave Nearly two-thirds of the attorneys at a 2003 meeting of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers had witnessed a sudden rise in divorces related to the Internet; 58% of those were the result of a spouse looking at excessive amounts of pornography online.

54. How pornified men behave engage in behavioral aggression sexually abuse partners whom they have battered

55. How pornified men behave They use more alcohol They engage in more binge drinking

56. How pornified men behave Greater use of pornographic media among: juvenile sex offenders (exposed to pornography at 7.5 years-old) adult sex offenders child molesters incest offenders

57. How pornified men behave Men who have been convicted of using child pornography later admitted that they sexually abused children as well.

58. How pornified men behave The diagnosis of Pedophilia is more often found in child pornography users than in child rapists.

59. How pornified men behave The earlier male children are exposed to pornography, the more likely they are to engage in non-consensual sex as young adults.

60. Sexual Violence Statistics 1 in 8 women are raped 50% of women will be sexually harassed at some point in their life By the time a female is 18 years old, 38% have been sexually molested The average age for entry into prostitution is 13.

61. Sexual Violence The factors that have been identified that are connected to sexual violence: Hostility toward women Sex is a casual, non-intimate, recreational, adversarial behavior Use of pornography

62. Pornified Disorder ( Hypersexual Disorder )

63. Pornified Disorder (Hypersexual Disorder) Cybersex Addiction Preoccupation with sex on the Internet Engaging in sex on the Internet more often or for longer periods of time than intended (tolerance) Repeated unsuccessful efforts to control, cut back on or stop engaging in sex on the Internet

64. Pornified Disorder (Hypersexual Disorder) Cybersex Addiction Restlessness or irritability when attempting to limit or stop engaging in sex on the Internet Using sex on the Internet as a way of escaping from problems or relieving feelings such as helplessness, guilt, anxiety or depression

65. Pornified Disorder (Hypersexual Disorder) Cybersex Addiction Returning to sex on the Internet day after day in search of a more intense or higher-risk sexual experience Lying to family members, therapists or others to conceal involvement with sex on the Internet

66. Pornified Disorder (Hypersexual Disorder) Cybersex Addiction Committing illegal sexual acts online (sending or downloading child pornography or soliciting illegal sex acts online) Jeopardizing or losing a significant relationship, job or educational or career opportunity because of online sexual behavior

67. Pornified Disorder (Hypersexual Disorder) Cybersex Addiction Incurring significant financial consequences as a result of engaging in online sexual behavior

68. Pornified Disorder (Hypersexual Disorder) Cybersex Addiction Brain chemistry and hormones Flexibility

69. Pornified Disorder (Hypersexual Disorder) 58% of sex addicts will have sever financial difficulties with some losing all their savings and their earnings 27% of sex addicts will lose their job or be demoted 40% of sex addicts who are professionals will lose their profession

70. Pornified Disorder (Hypersexual Disorder) Research indicates that 70% of the hits on Internet sex sites are between 9-5 on business computer. Many companies have a “no tolerance policy” for the use of business computers for sexual activity. This puts careers at risk.

71. Pornified Disorder (Hypersexual Disorder) 40% of sex addicts will lose their spouse for this reason alone.

72. Pornified Women

73. Pornified Women Women who were exposed to pornography as children are More likely to accept the rape myth. More likely to have sexual fantasies that involve rape.

74. Pornified Women Women exposed to pornography: Think rapists deserve less time in prison

75. Female Incarceration Recommendation for Rape (3 weeks after exposure to pornography)

76. Pornified Women Women exposed to pornography: Have reduced support for the women’s liberation movement

77. Female Support for the Female Liberation Movement (percentage 3 weeks after exposure to pornography)

78. Pornified Women They were more negative about their body Their partner was more critical of the women’s bodies They had less sex

79. Pornified Women The more pornography young adult females use the more likely they are to be victims of non-consensual sex.

80. Pornified Kids

81. Pornified Kids Minors (<18) exposed to sexualized media (both pornography and sexualized TV) are more likely to: Have engaged in oral sex Have engaged in anal sex Have engaged in sexual intercourse

82. Pornified Kids Minors (<18) exposed to sexualized media (both pornography and sexualized TV) are more likely to: Have more negative attitudes toward using condoms Have not used contraception during the last intercourse Have not used contraception in the past 6 months

83. Pornified Kids Minors (<18) exposed to sexualized media (both pornography and sexualized TV) are more likely to: Have earlier initiation of sex Have more sex partners Have had more than one sexual partner in the last 3 months Have sex more frequently

84. Pornified Kids Minors (<18) exposed to sexualized media (both pornography and sexualized TV) are more likely to: Have a strong desire to conceive To become pregnant

85. Pornified Kids Minors (<18) exposed to sexualized media (both pornography and sexualized TV) are more likely to: Engage in more sexual harassment perpetration Engage in more non consensual sex

86. Pornified Kids Minors (<18) exposed to sexualized media (both pornography and sexualized TV) are more likely to: Test positive for Chlamydia Have used alcohol or other substances at last sexual encounter Have higher sexual permissiveness scores Have less progressive gender role attitudes

87. Pornified Performers

88. Pornified Performers StrippersProstitutes Sexual abuse 65% 55% Multiple personality disorder 35% 5 % Borderline Personality Disorder 55% 11% Depression 60% 60% Substance abuse 40% 80%

89. Pornified Performers Abuse of Strippers by Customers 91% Verbally abused 52%Called cunt 61%Called whore 85%Called bitch 88%Arm grabbed 73%Breast grabbed 91%Buttocks grabbed

90. Pornified Performers 27% Hair pulled 58%Pinched 24%Slapped 36%Bitten 76%Customers flicked cigarettes, ice, coins 70%Customers followed them home 42%Customers stalked them

91. Pornified Performers Abuse of Strippers by Managers/Staff 85%Verbally or physically abused 21%Called cunt 18%Called slut 33%Called bitch 12%Pinched 12%Slapped

92. Pornified Performers Women who work in the sexual exploitation industry have about a 25% chance of making a marriage that lasts as long as 3 years.

93. Pornified Performers In pornography performers: Average life expectancy is 37.43 years Chlamydia and gonorrhea are 10 times greater than LA county 20-24 year-olds. 66 % have herpes 12-28 % have sexually transmitted diseases 7 % are HIV+

94. Pornified Society

95. Pornography of Everyday Life Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition Victoria’s Secret Barbie doll Howard Stern Pimp and Ho Halloween costumes for children Padded bikini tops for 1 st graders

96. De-pornified Society Pornography laws in Australia and rape Increase in rape South Australia 284% liberal laws on pornography. Queensland 23% conservative laws on pornography.

97. De-pornified Society Hawaii laws on pornography State laws became less restrictive, then more restrictive, then less restrictive. The rape rate went up, then went down, then went up again.

98. De-pornified Society Oklahoma City closed 150 SOB’s in the county 26% drop in rape Tulsa closed no porn shops in the county 0% drop in rape

99. De-pornified Society Do you support or oppose this new effort (by the Department of Justice) to enforce federal obscenity laws?" 77% Support 19% Oppose Harris Interactive Poll conducted for Morality in Media, November 4-7, 2005

100. De-pornified Society Educational strategies Psychological strategies Religious strategies Legal strategies Social activism

101. De-pornified Society Silence is Complicity I say to those who make money by hurting men, women and children, You will never have the comfort of my silence again

102. Resources

103. De-pornified Society To learn more about pornography http://www.pornharms.com/ http://www.socialcostsofpornography.com/ http://www.moralityinmedia.org/

104. De-pornified Society For the addict http://sexhelp.com/ http://www.pornnomore.com/

105. De-pornified Society For the addict 12 step programs http://www.sa.org/ http://www.sexaa.org http://www.sanon.org

106. De-pornified Society For the addict http://www.sarr.org/ http://www.sa.org/ http://www.familylifecenter.net/strugglewith porn.asp

107. De-pornified Society For the addict http://www.sexaddict.com/ http://www.catholicdadsonline.org/posts/14 68/some-anti-pornography-tips/http://www.catholicdadsonline.org/posts/14 68/some-anti-pornography-tips/

108. De-pornified Society For the addict Cybersex exposed: simple fantasy or obsession Schneider & Weiss Cybersex unhooked: A workbook forbreaking free of compulsive online sexual behavior Delmonico, Griffin & Moriarity

109. De-pornified Society For the spouse of the addict http://www.safefamilies.org/forspouses.php http://www.awomanshealingjourney.com/ http://www.freedomeveryday.org/spouses- of-sex-addicts/index.php http://www.sexaddict.com/HusAddict.html

110. De-pornified Society For the addict and their spouse Confronting Your Spouse’s Pornography Problem Reid & Gray

111. De-pornified Society Filters for the computer www.afafilter.com http://www.bluecoat.com/products/k9web