1. A state of character arises from the repetition of similar activities.
Stephen Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
A state of character arises
from the repetition of similar activities.
Aristotle

3. Personality and Character Ethics
Personality Ethic (post WWI)
Personality, public image, attitudes & behaviors, skills and techniques, quick fixes
Character Ethic (pre WWI)
Integrity, humility, fidelity, temperance, courage, justice, patience, industry, simplicity, modesty, the Golden Rule
Not just “What do I want?” but “Why do I want it?”

4. The Power of a Paradigm Shift
What is a paradigm?
What is a paradigm shift?
My paradigm shift -- caring vs. enabling
Near-death experiences frequently cause people to experience a paradigm shift.
Not all paradigm shifts are instantaneous -- some happen gradually over time.

5. The Seven Habits Habits Knowledge (what to, why to) Skills (how to)
Desire
(want to)

6. Private Victories The First Three Habits

7. Habit # 1
Be Proactive

8. Freedom to Choose Stimulus Response Self- Awarness Independent Will
Imagination
Conscience

9. Circle of Concern
Circle of Influence

10. Circle of Concern
Circle of Influence

11. Application Recognizing reactive tendencies
Controlling harmful emotions
Developing use of discretion
Operating within authority
Standing up for ethical behavior
Focusing on circle of influence

12. Begin with the End in Mind
Habit # 2
Begin with the End in Mind

13. Alternative “Centers”
Spouse centered
Family centered
Money centered
Possession centered
Pleasure centered
Friend/Enemy centered
Church centered
Self centered
Principle Centered
Write a Personal Mission Statement

14. Applications Charting a career path
Acting to support strategies and plans
Questioning actions when they conflict with ultimate goals
Writing personal mission statements
Creating meeting agendas
Look at outcomes
Examine alternate outcomes

15. Habit # 3
Put First Things First

16. Time Management Matrix
Urgent
Not Urgent I II
Activities:
Prevention, PC activities
Relationship building
Recognizing new opportunities
Planning, recreation
Activities:
Crises
Pressing Problems
Deadline Driven Projects
Important
III IV
Activities:
Interruptions, some calls
Some mail, some reports
Some meetings
Proximate, pressing matters
Popular activities
Activities:
Trivia, busy work
Some mail
Some phone calls
Time wasters
Pleasant activities
Not Important

17. Applications Staying within my circle of influence
Saying “no” to the unimportant
Planning weekly- executing daily
Value based action plans

18. Public Victories The Second Three Habits

19. The emotional bank account
DEPOSITS
Kindness and courtesy
Keeping promises
Honoring expectations
Loyalty to the absent
Sincere apologies
WITHDRAWALS
Unkindness and discourtesy
Breaking promises
Disloyalty and duplicty
Pride and arrogance

20. Habit # 4
Think Win/Win

21. Six Paradigms of Human Interaction
Win
Win/lose
Lose/Win
Lose/Lose
Win/Win
Win/Win or No Deal

22. Application Balancing personal needs with the needs of others
Balancing courage and consideration
Discovering what others want and need
Think abundantly

23. Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood
Habit # 5
Seek First to Understand,
Then to be Understood

24. Born with 2 ears and one mouth for a reason…
Seek to understand what is needed from you in each situation
You have never been here before!
Listen first
Listen beyond the words
Listen contextually
Don’t just do something…stand there

25. And then be understood Be clear Be direct Be consistent
Use your prefrontal cortex…

26. Application I listen with the goal of hearing - to citizens
- to other officers
- to leadership
- to family
I speak with the goal of being heard…

27. Habit # 6
Synergize

28. The whole is greater than the sum of its parts
We can do more together than any of us can do alone
I am better because of you and you are better because of me
There are more reasons to find similarity than there are to find differences among people

29. Application Treating others with dignity and respect
Investing in partnerships
Seeking out others who are critical to success
Generosity in promoting the success of others
Understanding and celebrating differences

30. Habit # 7
Sharpen the Saw

31. Production requires development of production capability-
-We maintain our car but not our career
-We maintain our floors but not our family
-We sharpen our saws but not our spirits

32. Synergy, Intrinsic Security
Physical
Exercise, Nutrition
Stress Management
Mental
Reading, Visualizing
Planning, Writing
Social/Emotional
Service, Empathy
Synergy, Intrinsic Security
Spiritual
Value Clarification
& Commitment, Study
& Meditation