1. Unconditional Space from Risk to Relationship & Resilience

2. A Burden at Every Airport

3. Me

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5. Pedagogy CYC Team Teach Reclaiming

6. Love and Kindness oriented Developmentally focused Needs & Strength oriented Relationship focused Ecology oriented Trauma informed

7. Not 1...But All Care does not follow any simple formulaic regime Successful outcomes are achieved through relationship building... purposeful activity... gives Looked after Children optimism about their future life chances (Smith 2011)

8. Road MapRoad Map Road MapRoad Map Needs Spaces Interventions

9. If what we are doing for children is so good for them why do they fight us so much? Roderick Durkin 9

10. Understanding

11. mastery generosity independencebelonging THE CIRCLE OF COURAGE

12. Not Seeing What’s There

14. Building Resilience “Increasingly more researchers are finding that … … fundamental human relationships are foundational in creating resiliency” (Brokenleg, 2010) “Increasingly more researchers are finding that … … fundamental human relationships are foundational in creating resiliency” (Brokenleg, 2010)

15. mastery belonging independence generosity

17. Not Belonging

18. The Controlled

19. Dancing a Different Dance “Emotional disturbance is not a solo performance but a dance with multiple partners ” (Brendtro & Shahbazian, 2003). “If this is the case, maybe it is time to dance a different dance”. (Digney & Smart, 2014)

20. No Disposable Kids In a society that values children, there can be... No disposable kids (Brendtro,2005)

21. Challenging Serial Rejection “Angry youth act in ways that can evoke serial rejection from adults who react with punishment and exclusion” (Smart, 2012)

22. Sisters of Pain That defined us as juvenile delinquents and later helped us to fulfil that destiny I’m not so sure that a child running away from something that is abusive and demeaning is being delinquent Aliese (Fulcher & Moran, 2014)

23. 23 Trauma leads to repeated involuntary triggering of the stress reaction with feelings of overwhelming fear and helplessness” Complex Trauma results from ongoing exposure to fear and helplessness” (Brendtro, 2011) Complex Trauma results from ongoing exposure to fear and helplessness” (Brendtro, 2011)

24. A Space - that’s unconditional

25. Unconditional Space Starts Where? The mind is empty....... desires expectation fears doubts....... Stay outside

26. Unconditionality? “Out beyond ideas of right and wrongdoing,.. there is a field. I will meet you there” Rumi “Out beyond ideas of right and wrongdoing,.. there is a field. I will meet you there” Rumi

27. Reaching – the Hard to Reach (1) Who? Young people that seem to evoke serial rejection by adults Young People who have been through the full gambit of care provisions

28. Why Unconditional? “Unconditionality lies at the heart of inner peace........the prerequisite for an appreciating, loving relationship...... first with self and consequently with the mirrored outer world” (Allerstorfer, 2013)

29. Occupying the Space – U.S. is about US Put simply, the unconditional space was to be protected— sheltered from rejection. Participation was not contingent on good behaviour..... (Smart, 2012)

30. Needs not Behaviour Unconditional space is designed around the needs of the youth and not problem behaviour (Smart, 2012) Unconditional space is designed around the needs of the youth and not problem behaviour (Smart, 2012)

31. istrust – young person believes the adult won’t care, understand or be able to help iscord – young person and adult don’t share goals e.g. the adult seeks control or change the young person wants autonomy isconnection – joint conflict and avoidance characterise the relationship (Brendtro, 2009) 31

32. A Space to Connect “We knew that if our responses to this boy were based on his behaviour then we would never connect”. (Smart, 2012)

33. “Remember that the very behaviours which have kept your child alive in the past could be preventing him from being truly alive in the present” (Archer, 1999) 33

34. Intervention

35. Belonging... “the love of a mother for her child [could be] an example of unconditional love......[which] relates the topic of unconditionality to “belonging”...and defines it as a basic human need. Ferrucci

36. If you don’t like where you have been, and you don’t like where you are going, then take a new pathway Maya Angelou

37. It Started with.....

38. Kids who Keep us at a Distance He displayed a range of behaviours to keep adults at a distance including verbal aggression, threat displays and derogatory insults toward women These are the types of actions that often stir up frustration and even counter-aggression in helping adults ( Smart, 2012)

39. Unlocking the Potential “ I am of the opinion that every human being holds a special potential that wants to unfold itself” (Allerstorfer, 2013) “ I am of the opinion that every human being holds a special potential that wants to unfold itself” (Allerstorfer, 2013)

40. MUSIC TO MY EARS 1-2

41. Unconditionality therefore enables us to open up for unexpected and unintentional experiences. It makes us open our fists in order to receive empathy. It also allows us to open our hearts.

42. Creating Unconditional Space Allows... It makes us open up... it does not judge... it does not blame expect or weigh... it makes our personality grow. It makes us open up... it does not judge... it does not blame expect or weigh... it makes our personality grow.

43. A Changed Life When we respond to needs... often problematic undesirable behaviour diminishes or disappears altogether (Garfat, 2011) When we respond to needs... often problematic undesirable behaviour diminishes or disappears altogether (Garfat, 2011) 43

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