Presentation on theme: "We are born with five genetically encoded needs"— Presentation transcript:
1 We are born with five genetically encoded needs REALITY THERAPYPersonalityWe are born with five genetically encoded needs1. Survival - Food, Shelter, Health, Sex2. Love and Belonging - giving & receiving love, friendships3. Power and Self Esteem - achievement, confidence4. Freedom - space, independence, autonomy5. Fun - pleasure, laughter, learning
2 PersonalityEach of us has all five needs but they vary in strength, and the method of fulfilling them is different . We need to eat but some people want pizza and some want saladWe are by nature social creatures and require relationships to enable us to meet our needsOur need to love and belong is our primary needAlthough we are given these five needs from birth, we are not naturally endowed with the ability to fulfill them.
3 At any time, 4 process are happening for us PersonalityRegardless of what happens in our lives or what we have done we can choose behaviours that will help us meet our needs more effectivelyAt any time, 4 process are happening for us1. Doing or acting2. Thinking3. Feeling4. PhysiologyThe combination of all four processes is called Total Behaviour. We use these processes to help us meet our needs.
4 MotivationAll behaviour is our best attempt (at that moment) to satisfy our basic needsBehaviour is purposeful in that it is designed to close the gap between what we want and what we perceive we are getting All actions are generated from this discrepancy
5 MotivationAll behaviour is internally motivated, we are not victims of our circumstance. We try to control ourselves, people and situations in order to meet our needs. The only person’s who’s behaviour we can control is our own.To meet our needs we need a sense of self-control, however problems occur when:Problems occur when our attempts at satisfying our needs are not effectiveTo meet our needs we try to control others or try to give ourselves a false sense of control (drugs, alcohol)We act in a manner that conflicts with our goals
6 Dysfunctional Personality The underlying problem of dysfunctional individuals is that they are involved in unsatisfactory relationships where they are not able to fulfill their needsDisturbed kids usually have no responsible adults in their “quality world” They have given up on satisfying the need for belonging and loveThis being the case disturbed kids usually overcompensate by seeking fun and pleasure. And avoiding all responsibility and control
7 Dysfunctional Behaviour Denial of RealityAnother aspect of dysfunctional behaviour is the individual’s tendency to avoid the unpleasant natural and logical consequences of their behaviour.
8 Behavioural ChangeWhen we feel anxious or upset it is because one or more of our basic needs are not being met to our satisfactionGOLDEN RULE - if you want to change how you feel, begin by changing what your are doing or what you are thinking
9 Behavioural Change Conditions of Change People are convinced that their present behaviour is not getting them what they wantPeople believe that they can choose other behaviours that will get them what they want
10 To help clients become more effective at meeting their needs Therapeutic ProcessRole of CYWDevelop a relationship with the child in order that they may get to the point of realizing the conditions of changeGoals of CYWTo help clients become more effective at meeting their needs1. Develop a therapeutic relationship with the client2. Help clients identify what they are doing and if they are willing to change3. Help the client develop a specific plan for change4. Ensure the client makes and maintains a commitment to change
11 Therapeutic Process Relationship The achievement of this process depends on the quality of the relationship. The worker in a sense becomes part of the child’s “quality world”Establish a confrontive, supportive, non critical, caring environment that leads to a therapeutic relationship and the ability of the child to meet their needs.If the CYW realizes that they are working with a disconnected child, the only goal is to get connected with the child. If the CYW can’t make the connection there is no way of providing significant help
12 Therapeutic ProcessDeveloping a Plan for ChangeW - identify what the client wants - what is in his/her quality worldD - what is the client doing? What would they like to do differentlyE - evaluate - does what you do get what you wantP - make a plan for change and get a commitment
13 Characteristics of an Effective Plan S - Simple - the plan should be simple to understand, specific and concreteA - Attainable - the plan is within the capacities and motivation of the clientM - Measurable - are the changes desired, observable and ` helpfulI - Immediate - What can the client do starting todayC - Controlled & Committed - Can the client complete this plan by themselves - Structure the plan in the form of a contract
14 Behaviour ManagementInvolves two goals of developing a relationship and supporting the client’s plan for changeLike person centred the focus is to be as non intrusive as possibleThe CYW needs control but must recognize that the child also has control needsTechniques like, signaling, touch and proximity controlAvoid rewards & punishments, physical restraint
15 Programming Relationship Plan for Change Initial programming goals focus on establishing a relationshipPlan for ChangeFocus on teaching skills to allow them to meet their basic needs. ie. Life skills, social skillsActivities to encourage the child’s exploration of his/her quality world Art, Collages, Photography
16 Develop a relationship CounsellingDevelop a relationshipUse counselling time to develop a relationship. You must become part of the client’s quality worldDevelop a planOnce the relationship has developed use the counselling intervention as a forum to help the client formulate and work toward plans for changeMaintain Client’s commitmentThe key element of the relationship is to hold clients committed to their plans for change if realistic.Prevent the client from avoiding natural and logical consequences of their behaviour
17 TerminologyTOTAL BEHAVIOUR - The integrated components of doing Thinking 3. Feeling 4. PhysiologyQUALITY WORLD - The perceptions and images we have of the resources available to fulfill our basic needsRESPONSIBILITY - The ability to fulfill one's needs in a way that does not deprive others of the ability to fulfill their needs
18 COMMITMENT - the act of sticking to a realistic plan aimed at change. DENIAL OF REALITY – The tendency of individuals to avoid the unpleasant natural and logical consequences of their behaviour.