Presentation on theme: "Response Abilities Pathways"— Presentation transcript:
1 Response Abilities Pathways An Outline ofResponse Abilities Pathways
2 Some Key ConceptsYoung people depend on adults for emotional security.
3 Pain and the BrainExperiences that trigger stress and trauma cause pain to register in the anterior cingulate cortex in the brain(Anglia; Dowman)
4 Fighting Pain With Pain Most traditional approaches to discipline centre around the use of punishment.
5 With PAIN-BASED BEHAVIOUR Tit for Tat Emotional Reaction (ER) Cycles2005 Circle of CourageemotionemotionreactionreactionYoung person reactsWith PAIN-BASED BEHAVIOURAdult reactsWith PAIN-BASEDDISCIPLINE
6 ‘…….look beyond my faults to find my needs’ We Need an Alternative Approach‘…….look beyond my faults to find my needs’Lyric by Joyce Reba Rambo
7 The Circle of CourageGenerosityIndependenceBelongingMastery
8 Circle of Courage - Research Foundations Resilience ResearchSelf-Worth ResearchBelongingOpportunities to establish trusting connectionsMasteryOpportunities to solve problems and meet goalsIndependenceOpportunities to develop self-control and responsibilityGenerosityOpportunities to show respect and concernAttachmentMotivation to affiliate and form social bondsAchievementMotivation to work hard and attain excellenceAutonomyMotivation to manage self and exert influenceAltruismMotivation to help and be of service to othersSignificanceThe individual believes, “I am important”CompetenceThe individual believes, “I can solve problems”PowerThe individual believes, “I set my life pathway”VirtueThe individual believes, “My life has purpose”
9 Disconnected KidsHigh Risk Behaviours of Young People With Weak Bonds to Adults
10 The First Stage of RAP - Connecting The human brain has programs that motivate us to connect to others.Young people connect to adults and peers who meet their needs.RespectTrustEmpowermentUnderstanding
11 The Private Logic of Adult Wary Kids – Barriers to Connection FIGHT – HURT OR BE HURTThreat display: I am dangerousPower display: I am the bossPay back: I’ll make them sufferFLIGHT: HIDE OR BE HURTIsolate: Shut out peopleRetreat: Shut out the painEscape: I can’t take any moreFOOL: OUTSMART THEMDeceiving: Charm and disarmDiversion: Act dumb and crazyMind games: Insult and provokeFOLLOW: BAND TOGETHERPeer power: Follow friendsAlpha Power: Follow the leaderContagion: Follow the crowd
12 Bidding To ConnectWe need to recognise when kids make bids to connect with us.
13 The Second Stage of RAP - Clear Thinking From Risk to Resilience Challenge Logic Emotions Actions ResultsChallenge What event triggered the stress?Logic What thoughts came to mind?Emotions What feelings triggered action?Actions What coping strategy was used?Results What consequences followed?
14 Minimising and Mislabeling BAMMS Thinking ErrorsBlamingOthers always try to start fights with me.I’m worthless and don’t deserve to live.Assuming the WorstYou can’t trust anybody – they always lie to you.No matter how hard I try, I always fail.Minimising and MislabelingEveryone does it so what’s the big deal?So I slapped her around – she’s just a ho!Self-centredIf I see something I like, it’s mine.Why should I care? I take care of myself.
15 Rescripting is a KeyScripts are terms or phrases designed to influence thinking. Done well, they have the power to alter private logic.A Sample Belonging ScriptIt’s great to have you here.A Sample Mastery ScriptA great kid like you – I know you’re going to be able to handle it.A Sample Independence ScriptSeems to me you’re a person who likes to think for themselves.A Sample Generosity ScriptThank you for helping out.
16 The Third Stage of RAP - Restoring With the Circle of Courage STRENGTHS PROBLEMS RESTORATIVE GOALSBelongingtrustfriendlyWarmgregariousacceptingAlienationguardedwithdrawnunattachedlonelyrejectedBelonging/Attachmenta.b.MasteryachievementfocusedcreativepersistentorganisedIncompetenceinadequacyunmotivatedconfuseddefeatistcheatMastery/AchievementIndependenceresponsibleconfidentself-disciplinedleaderassertiveIrresponsibilityunreliablehelplessnessundisciplinedeasily misledrebelliousIndependence/AutonomyGenerosityrespectfulsharingkindempathicsupportiveSelfishnessselfishvengefulexploitativeself-centredindifferentGenerosity/Altruism