3. Learning to live... Learning to love Learning to trust... Learning to give... Learning to Leave a Legacy thanks to Stephen Covey

4. Learning to live... Learning to love Learning to trust... Learning to give... Learning to Leave a Legacy “Live LIFE King-size“ "When we love, we are the universe and the universe lives in us" “Trusting others creates Trustworthiness“ “We earn our living by what we get; we earn our Life by what we give" “When you were born, you were crying and every one around you was smiling; live your life so that when you die, you will be the one smiling and every one around you will be crying”

5. FAMILY ?

6. FAMILY = FATHER AND MOTHER, I LOVE YOU

7. FAMILY ?

8. FAMILY = Family Adjustable Motivating Interested Loving Yearning

9. 1.Significant contribution 2. munication Com

11. Build Relationship Passive Listening Acknowledgement Paraphrasing Door Opener Total Listening Responding to legitimate dependency

12. Communication Tips Door Openers What do you think? That’s a good question I don’t know, but I’ll find out I’m trying to find out what you are feeling Do you know what that word means? I’m glad, you told me about that

13. Communication Tips Door Slammers You are too wrong Where did you hear that? If you say that again, I’ll … That’s none of your business I don’t care what your friends are doing That’s just for boys [girls] We will talk about that when you need to know

14. 10 Road Blocks to Effective Communication

15. Situations S-1. Mom, I'm not sure what to do about my class schedule this year. It's really tough with all the extras I've got to do. S-2. Dad, that boy just took my truck. S-3. Mom, the jar of glue just fell over on the floor. S-4. Dad, it's not my fault my math teacher hates me S-5. I think I'll go to the movies tonight Mom

16. Adult Responses R-1. You should take every math and science course offered. You ought to see how important that is. R-2. It's your problem. You solve it. R-3. Look what you did! The carpet is ruined! It's all your fault! R-4. Let me tell you about my boss. You think you've got trouble! R-5. You will not. You're going to stay home and study. You're going to bring your grades up.

17. Family Limits And Consequences Parent’s Words Parent’s Tone & Body Lang Parent’s Actions Child’s Behaviour Child’s Thoughts & feelings Parent-Child Relationship Mutual Respect Thoughtful, responsible behavious, that are appropriate for the child’s age and development About what is happening in his/her world The actual words: encouraging or demeaning The way we talk sends more message than the message itself Children are like wet cement An earned respect, through giving respect A close/caring relationship, feeling comfortable with each other Can be contractual

18. Help them Answer These Questions about Themselves  Am I Competent?—"What do I do well?"  Am I Normal?—"Am I like everyone else?"  Am I Loving?—"Am I capable of loving others?"  Am I Lovable?—"Am I loved by others?" Developmental Tasks of Children and Adolescents Read Eric Ericson’s Growing for a Life time

19. “ I ” statements I take responsibility for My Actions My Thoughts My Feelings

20. Relationships are not about people living together; they are about people learning to grow together

21. Happy Mutual Appreciation Week A parent affects eternally Mummy

22. COMMITMENTCOMMITMENT Write down three things you want to do to improve your GROWING skills… and practise them. Or...

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