2.  Self- esteem:________________________________ ____________________________  Skill competence:____________________________ ______  Self value:_________________________________ __________________________  John powell’s 3 stages of loving  _____________________________

3.  Acquaintances, friends, professional, and intimate  Relationship- interaction between two or more people  Love- intense affection and warm feelings for another  All people need relationships  People who live without relationships sometimes suffer mental and physical health problems  Learning to understand and get along with people is a critical skill

4.  Realize no two relationships are the same  Each partner in a relationship must have a positive self-image  Love develops in stages. It cannot be rushed  Stages of a relationship- Attraction Casual friendship Close friendship Intimate friendship Mature love

5.  Respect each other  Feel secure and comfortable  Not violent with each other  Can resolve problems  Enjoy time together  Support  Privacy  Trust  Communication  Have more good times then bad

6.  Passionate love:_____infactuation, pleasure_______________________________ _____________________________________  Compassionate love:_____intimate, deep feelings of intimacy_______________________________ _______________________________________ _________________.

7.  Characteristics of each?  ______deep feelings_____________  _____grows over time______________  _____you love the person not the idea____________  ____________________  __________________  ___________________

8.  Mutual expectations  Investment  Caring  Trust  Respect  Sharing  Flexibility  empathy

9.  Contact  _____________________________________________ ________.  Similar attitudes  _____________________________________________ ___________.  Common interest and experiences  _____________________________________________ __.

10.  Calling names, putting a person down  Acts extremely jealous, even when innocent  Apologizing for person’s behavior/ making excuses  Always checking up on person  Loses temper, breaks or hits things when mad  If a person worries about making a partner mad or upset  Giving up things that used to be important  Weight, appearance or grade change  injuries

11.  5 needs that are satisfied by a successful marriage  Intimacy  Sexual gratification  Shared responsibility  Comfortable dependency  security

12.  Wrong reasons for marriage  Parental pressure  Social pressure  Escape from an unhappy home  Avoid loneliness  Pregnancy 4 things expected from marriage - Economic partnership - Emotional support - Satisfying sex life - Individual growth and development

13.  50/50 egalitarian  Companionate  Dual career  Contract  Alternatives  Cohabitation  Group marriage  Single life  Common law

14.  What are a few marital issues?  Poor choice?  Cannot cope with continuing intimacy?  Adaption to growth and changes in partner?  Unrealistic expectations?