2Do Now: Write down your definition of “love” Do not put your name with your definition, but instead put below your definition “boy” or “girl” in parentheses
3Foundations of Healthy Relationships Relationship – A bond or connection you have with other peopleRelationships effect your physical, mental, and social healthYou should feel safe, secure, valued, and recognized in your relationshipsHealthy Relationship – Based on shared values and interests and mutual respectBoth people benefit and feel comfortableWhat are some characteristics of healthy relationships?
4Family RelationshipsInvolve your immediate family and extended family; last your entire lifeCan provide you with support (physical & emotional)Can teach you values/moralsCan provide love, care, and encouragement
5FriendshipsFriendship – A significant relationship between 2 people that is based on caring, trust, and considerationShare confidences, interests, hobbies, or other friendsSimilar valuesInfluence your self-concept and behavior; help you resist negative influences
6Gender Issues in Friendships Women’s Friendships:EmotionalIntimacySharingExpressions of feelings and self-disclosureMen’s Friendships:Activity BasedBarrier to intimacyMay find emotional intimacy easier with women
7Peer Relationships Cliques Friendships Small circle of friends usually with similar backgrounds or tastes who exclude people viewed as outsidersCan be positive (sense of belonging) and negative (based on Stereotypes)FriendshipsPlatonic FriendshipsFriendship with a member of the opposite gender in which there is affection but the 2 people are not considered a coupleWhat are the benefits to having a platonic friendship?Casual FriendshipsClose Friendships
8Dating1920’s: Finding suitable marriage partners for companionship style marriagesWhy do people date today?Dating can be a learning experienceLearn about others; Learn about yourselfNot everyone dates:ShynessOther interests or time constraintsFamily traditions or values
9Dating Avoid risk in dating Common dating problems: Staying in a relationship because you don’t know how to leave itClinging to a person who wishes to end the relationshipSet limits through communication
10Marriage Reasons for selecting a partner: Love Mutual Attraction IntelligenceEducationPleasing personality
11Concepts of Love & Marriage Men have more traditional concepts of love and marriageMen are more likely to not marry without loveMarried men are physically and mentally healthier then unmarried menBoth men & women find marriage more satisfying than co-habilitation
12Conflicts in Relationships CommunicationDivision of Household LaborMoneyEmploymentPowerSex
13CommunicationWomen create emotional intimacy through talk and self disclosure. This is how they connect with one another.Most wives don’t count sex as communication or a method for establishing intimacyMen do so through activity, e.g.; sex
14Division of LaborSecond shift: women work outside home & perform the majority of housework and childcare.Women do 2-3 x’s more housework & childcare.Employed women do less houseworkChores tend to be divided along gender stereotypes
15Household Labor Gay & Lesbian Couples share more equally Social class important: working class couples are more likely to share25-33% of wives believe their husbands are not doing a fair shareGreatest satisfaction: division of chores almost equal.
16Household work increases for women and decreases for men: When they are marriedHave lower levels of educationHave children
17Increases the chance of dissolution ConflictsDecreases stability & satisfactionIncreases the chance of dissolutionMarried couples less likely to break up from lower levels of conflict except in early years.
18Dissolving Relationships Love relationships w/o marriage more likely to dissolve50% of marriages end in divorceReasons for women: didn’t get emotional intimacy; husbands didn’t communicateReasons for men: didn’t get emotional support & physical affectionDissatisfaction with sexual relationship34% had affairs