Presentation on theme: "Kim Flood, BA, Certified Parent Coach. Parents have a choice and the power to heal. It’s healing for both the parents and the children to learn new ways."— Presentation transcript:
Parents have a choice and the power to heal. It’s healing for both the parents and the children to learn new ways of interacting.
Unwrapping Child Behavior A Physiological Approach Thinking about the effect of communication on the child’s BODY The child’s brain is seeking the same level of intensity. When it reaches that level, it is highly rewarding of the behavior.
The Institute of Heartmath The heart is responsive to emotional input. The heart has its own neurological system and it sends messages to the brain!
Messages sent repeatedly strengthen heart-brain neural pathways.
Where they didn’t previously exist More than “catching kids being good.” Watch for successes wherever they may be.
Some kids can’t take positives. “I know its hard or uncomfortable to hear the good things, but its my job to tell you the good things. Pretty soon you will get used to it.” Write notes. Can you think of an example besides talking to get the positive message across?
Say what you love about being in the family. Each person takes a turn and has as many turns as they need. Talk until you are finished. Say what you love about being in the family. End the meeting.
Adds ceremony to your family life. Rewards and reinforces what you want: listening.
Build family identity, creating belongingness. A forum for issues that everyone can use. Parenting on the “front end” of the behavior.
Say what you love about being in the family (at the beginning of each meeting.) Report “like the news” about issues. Ask for solutions. Children make the rules.