Presentation on theme: "Matt Kendra Anne Carol Becky"— Presentation transcript:
1 Matt Kendra Anne Carol Becky Love and LogicMattKendraAnneCarolBecky
2 “Norms” that teachers must address when forming a discipline plan… Norm 1: Students have rightsDon’t let them feel like you are violating those rightsNorm 2: The future is not an extension of the pastOld management strategies that worked for your parents (or you!) don’t necessarily work nowNorm 3: “It’s not my fault!”Some students may need to be taught how to place blame on the appropriate source
3 Norms Cont… Norm 4: Achievement determines worth What we do is an extension of who we are, not what we are worthNorm 5: I see, I want, I believe I deserveStudents are used to deserving privilegesMuch more value in getting what you have earned
4 Common Myths of the Classroom… Myth 1: Students must be warned in advance of the consequences for violating rules.Specific consequences don’t deter studentsUse fair, appropriate consequences in each situationstudents can tell you if it isn’t fairMyth 2: When students break the rules, consequences must follow immediately.Time to cool downCome up with appropriate consequencesDon’t put stress on yourself to deal immediately
5 Myths Cont…Myth 3: It is not necessary for students to like their teachers. However they should respect them.What would you do to shine for someone you love??Perform for who you love—and if you don’t love yourself yet, perform for your teacher until you do
6 Purpose of Love and Logic Puts Teachers In ControlTeachers wait to deal with misbehaviorTeaches Kids To Think For ThemselvesTeachers question instead of talkingStudents do the talkingStudents come up with their own solutions“The brain that does the thinking grows the dendrites”
7 Purpose Cont… Raises The Level Of Student Responsibility Students take responsibility for their misbehavior and their learningStudent ownershipPrepares Kids To Function Effectively In A Society Filled With Temptations, Decisions, And ConsequencesStudents deal with problems as they would in the “real world”
8 Purpose Cont… Develops Better Relationships With Kids Teachers are no longer the “bad guys”Teachers and students are on closer levelsLeads to improved cooperation
9 The Three Rules of Love & Logic… Use enforceable limitsProvide choices with limitsApplying consequences with empathy
10 Using Enforceable Limits… Tell the kids how you run your life not how they run theirsThe students will have to make their own decisions and live with the consequences
11 Provide Choices w/ Limits… Give two choices you likeDelivery is importantGive them ownership of their choiceExamplesYour welcome to _____ or _____.Would you rather _____ or _____.
12 Wording (Changing Your Garbage to Gold)… Unenforceable StatementsOpen your books to page 54.You can’t go to the restroom until I finish the directions.Turn your assignment in on time or you’ll get a low grade.Enforceable StatementI’ll be working from page 54.Feel free to go to the restroom when I’m not giving directions.I give full credit for papers turned in on time.
13 Savings Account… You give choices The choices add up You make a (withdrawal) choice that overrides
14 Applying Consequences with Empathy… There is a problemIdentify who’s problem it isShow empathyOffer a positive relationship message
15 Consequences Vs. Punishment… It takes pain to make changesOutside to insideInside to outsidePunishment causes outside to inside pain, which causes feelings of revengeConsequences are internalized. The child has caused their own pain with their choices
16 Four Principles… Expectations Two main ideas Struggling Cooperation Enhancement of Self ConceptExpectationsTwo main ideasIt is fragile and easily brokenIt is conservative & resistant to changeStrugglingShared ControlCooperationChoices with limitsMust be legitimateEqually acceptable to giver/receiverGive all with equal “pizzazz”
17 Principles Cont… Give Consequences with Empathy Shared thinking Sometimes pain must come before a change will be madeStudent’s choiceShared thinkingQuestions-think of level (Bloom’s) and involvement in learningIf we provide adequate time students will often come to same conclusion as the adult
18 Finding Time for Love and Logic Discipline… “I don’t have time to work with children in the Love and Logic way.”Love & Logic teachers consistently report less time is spent on discipline as skills increase.
19 So What Do We Do? We stick with it! You control the discipline problems, they do not control you.
20 Building positive relationships Trick to controlling the time you spend on discipline is related to your ability to:Building positive relationshipsSet enforceable limits through enforceable statementsShare controlStop behaviors in their infancy, avoiding the need for consequencesDelay Consequences
21 Why We Delay Our Approach… Student is emotional, not thinking rightTeacher more stressed taking time away from activitiesStudent gains control by controlling teachers activities
22 Basic Rules… Meet with students on your time Own terms Short, sweet interactionsAsk brief questionsAnne, Kendra, Matt reading… = )
23 Dealing with kids that feed off each other… Make a list of students involved and prioritizeDivide & ConquerOption for disruptionsMove the leaderGo to first studentGo to next studentContinue until student thinks he/she can stay and behave
24 Implement the “One Sentence Intervention”… Notice positive and personal attributesDo this a couple of times a weekExperiment w/ “____, will you stop doing that just for me?Heart to heart w/students after school to solve entire problem