Presentation on theme: "Helping Families Promote Children’s Social Emotional Competence Based on materials from Center for Social Emotional Foundation of Early Learning (CSEFEL)"— Presentation transcript:
1 Helping Families Promote Children’s Social Emotional Competence Based on materials from Center for Social Emotional Foundation of Early Learning (CSEFEL) Janet Umble, M.S.
2 Objectives for TodayParticipants will:Define social emotional competenceList social emotional competencies appropriate forpreschoolersIdentify parenting practices that promotechildren’s social emotional competence
3 What is “social emotional competence? ” The knowledge and skills needed to:understand and manage one’s own emotions and those of othersbuild and sustain relationships andfriendships with others, including empathy
4 Social Emotional Skills Children Need as They Enter School A sense of confidence and competenceAbility to develop good relationships with peers and adults/make friends/get along with others – Friendship skillsAbility to identify, understand, and communicate own feelings/emotionsAbility to calm downAbility to constructively manage strong emotionsDevelopment of empathyAbility to solve social problems
5 Promoting Social Emotional Competence Children with persistent challenges1-10 % of childrenProfessional TreatmentIndividualized Intensive InterventionsSocial Emotional Teaching StrategiesChildren at-risk5-15% of childrenIntentional Teachingof Social SkillsCreating Supportive EnvironmentsAll childrenPositive/SupportiveEnvironmentBuilding Positive Relationships
6 So what do we know for sure about supporting social emotional competence ? We have research evidence that tells us:Earlier is betterSupport for parents mattersHigh-quality environments are keyA comprehensive approach is necessaryBehavior consultation makes a difference
7 Evidence-based practices are important. An evidence-based practice is onefor which there is research evidencethat says:if you do “this”in “this way”you will get “these results”In other words: there’s evidence that this approach works!
8 Powerful Parenting Practices that promote children’s social emotional competence Build a positive relationshipProvide positive supportsMake your expectations clear and consistentTeach children the skills they needUnderstand the function of children’s challenging behaviors ; teach/reward behaviors you want to seerepeated
9 Building Positive Relationships With Children Think of someone who was really special to you when you were growing up.What made you think of this person?What did they do that made them important or special to you?How might you help parents developthis kind of relationship with theirchildren?
10 Powerful Parenting Practices! Discover the magic of POSITIVE ATTENTION Children want to please adults Positive attention reinforces a child’s willingness to please.
11 Powerful Parenting Practices Powerful Parenting Practices! Discover the magic of positive comments and encouragementMake children feel competent & confidentReinforce good behaviorReduce challenging behaviorsBe generous with positive comments& encouragement
12 Powerful Parenting Practices! Tip 1 Get your child’s attention.Tip 2 Use behavior specific language.Tip 3 Keep it simple—avoid combining encouragement with criticism.Tip 4 Encourage with enthusiasm.Tip 5 Double the impact with physical warmth.Tip 6 Use positive comments and encouragement with your child in front of others.
13 Ways to Give Children Encouragement (examples) “Thank you for putting the blocks on the shelf.”“What a good problem solver you are, you were able to__________.”“It’s so much fun to play with you; you are so good at ________.” (sharing, taking turns)“You were being so kind when you ________.”“Thank you for using your inside voicewhen your sister was sleeping.”
14 Powerful Parenting Practices! It’s fun!Teaches new skillsBuilds positive relationshipsPLAY with your children.
15 Play Tip 1: Follow Your Child’s Lead Wait, watch, and then join your child’s play
16 Play Tips Play Tip 2: Talk, talk, talk about what your child is doing Play Tip 3: Encourage your child’s creativity
17 Play Tips Play Tip 4: Watch for your child’s cues Play Tip 5: Avoid power strugglesPlay Tip 6: Have fun together!
18 Powerful Parenting Practices! What keeps parents from providing positive supports?(help children feel competent, reward good behavior, play with them)Think about some suggestionsfor overcoming those barriers.
19 Powerful Parenting Practices that promote children’s social emotional competence Build a positive relationshipProvide positive supportsMake your expectations clear and consistentTeach children the skills they needUnderstand the function of children’s challenging behaviors ; teach/reward behaviors you want to seerepeated
20 Powerful Parenting Practices! Make your expectations clear& be consistentDevelop and teachyour household rules
21 “Rules” for Rules Pick only 3 to 5. Pick rules that can be applied in a lot of situations.State the behavior you want to see. Be descriptive. What does the behavior look like?
22 Rule Examples Clean up after yourself. Use an inside voice. Be careful – Don’t hurt others or yourself.Use words to solve problems.Take care of our things.
23 Powerful Parenting Practices! Make your expectations clear Kids are not mind readers Sure you’ve told them what NOT to do But have you ever told them exactly what you DO want them to do?
24 Make Your “Expectations” Clear Tell your child what to do instead of what not to do.Clearly and simply state what you expect your child to do. Describe the details.“I want you to put all the Legos in this box.”
25 Make Your “Expectations” Clear Know what is reasonable.Have age-appropriate expectations.Use age-appropriate language that children understand.It is important to know your child’s abilities and limitations.
26 What’s a better way to tell a child what you want him to do? Stop yelling!Don’t throw your toys!Stop bothering your sister!Don’t spill your milk.Stop whining.Be good.Be nice.Cut it out.Use clear specific language that tells your child exactly what to do.2626
27 Use Pictures to Teach Rules Get out your cameraSnap a photograph of what you want your child “to do”Post it, model it, practice it, and notice when it’s done and praise it!If your rule is “clean up”…show him/her
28 Powerful Parenting Practices Make your expectations clear & BE CONSISTENTWhy?
29 Powerful Parenting Practices that promote children’s social emotional competence Build a positive relationshipProvide positive supportsMake your expectations clear and consistentTeach children the skills they needUnderstand the function of children’s challenging behaviors ; teach/reward behaviors you want to seerepeated
30 Powerful Parenting Practices Intentionally Teaching Social Emotional Skills When?What?How?