2Which of the following slides describe you best? Select the slide that has the most number of bullet points that you resonate with.
31Grew up with parents who expected the best - grades always were not good enough—“good boy/ good girl”Principled and strongStrong need to be right and to do the right thingTendency to correct errors - of self and of othersVoice inside the mind constantly challenging—inner criticFears being condemned—in the process has a tendency to condemn othersOthers may see you as judgmentalDifficulty in experiencing pleasure or having funAnger
42 Generous, brings out best in others Charming, caring, loving Relationship is centralEverything is perceived through relationships“I am needed”, “They can’t do without me”Need induces them to love others in order to be lovedFinds it difficult to express own needMay be dependent on the response or need of the other
53 Eager, responsible, goal-oriented, persistent, organized “Doing rather than being”“Just do it”Focuses on tasks“One must succeed at all costs”Highly competitiveHigh need to be accepted, fears rejectionLooking good is important - imageNeed to have others see that they can make things happen—efficient
64 Unique “Why can’t I have the same as everyone else?” Sensitive, refined, profoundMoody, difficult to pleaseFeelings are paramountIn touch with feelings of others - empathicIntenseAttached to the pastSense of abandonmentAesthetics - sense of beautyIndulges in fantasy
75 Unquenchable taste for knowledge Thinking instead of doing Wise, perceptive, analytic, respectfulNeed to analyze, to understand the worldDetached - isolation mechanism - from feelingsMinimalist - reduce needs to basicAble to compartmentalized lifeAvoids intrusion - privacy - withdrawnSeen as cold, arrogant, intellectual
86 Dutiful, clever, committed, builder of coalition Loyal to authority, structures, organizationsStrong sense of FearVigilance, safetyComplains, cross-examinesPrepares for battle“Devil’s advocate”“Be prepared”, “Readiness is all”Fears being abandoned
97 Charming Playful Explores the world Gluttony Difficulty with commitment—I don’t want limitsWants varietyFascination - many interestsAble to shift mind and interestsActiveAvoids pain, gets bored easily
108 Concerned with strength Being in power, in charge Self reliant - independentDoesn’t know when to stop - LustMy way or no wayLikes to confrontProtective of the weakJusticeDirect to the point, dominant, domineering
119 Empathic, available, steady, reliable Ambivalent, too accommodating, apathetic, resistant to change“Let it be”, “Don’t rock the boat”HarmonizingCalm, simple, comfy, sometimes disheveled and unkemptLikes repetitive tasksWanting to belongOpen to others - acceptingNeed for union - ignoring reality
13Enneagram“Can help understand fears and desires, strengths And weaknesses, defenses and anxieties, how we react to frustration and disappointment—and, more positively, what our truest capacities and greatest strengths are so that we can build on those rather than on misjudgments and illusions.”
14EnneagramComes from the Greek words ennea, meaning “nine” and gram, meaning “something drawn or written”.3
15EnneagramA system that describes nine different personality types and how they interact with each other. Each type is defined by an emotional HABIT, a characteristic pattern of THOUGHT, and a style of RELATING TO OTHERS, which together produces a DISTINCT POINT OF VIEW.
16EnneagramUses a revered ethical framework or model called VICE to VIRTUE transformation.VICE – a protective shield in early life to cushion emotional discomfort; served a useful purpose; an emotional survival strategyBut once we understand this childhood basis as our defensive core, we can develop ways to transform the VICE into its opposite VIRTUEVICEVIRTUE
17EnneagramProcess:Uncover your characteristic survival strategy (VICE)Cultivate the opposite constructive way of being (VIRTUE)
19Circle of Personality Types with the Centers GUT9817263HEARTHEAD54
20CENTERS BODY INSTINCT SENSES EMOTIONAL REACTION GROUP HEAD Brain Put things Sight FearCentral Nervous togetherSystemHEART Hypothalamus Relationships Taste ShameHeartLungsGUT Alimentary Energy Hearing Angerconservation SmellingSurvival
21LIFE QUESTIONS MOVEMENTS HEAD Where am I? Inner world toWhat will I gain From it? Outer worldHEART Who am I with? Outer reality to inner realityGUT Who am I? From past to presentHow will it help me move in life?Where do I stand?
22CENTERHEADHEARTGUTPERSONALITYTYPEFIVE (I)SIXSEVEN (E)TWO (E)THREEFOUR (I)ONE (I)NINEEIGHT (E)CHARACTERISTICSEscapes fear by withdrawing and not being involvedAlternates between avoiding and confronting fearEscapes fear through plans and diversionsOver relates with peopleDenies own feelingsAssumes image and role from societyRelates to self-imageKeeps cold anger withinDenies own angerExpresses hot anger to others
23The Enneagram of Personality Types Peacemaker9The Boss The Reformer3The Generalist The HelperThe Loyalist The MotivatorThe Thinker The Artist
24The Enneagram of Personality Statements I am Peaceful9I am Strong I am Perfect3I am Happy I am CaringI am Loyal I am SuccessfulI am Knowledgeable I am Special
25The Enneagram of Basic Desires To Be In Harmony9To Be Strong To Be Right3To Be Joyful; Satisfied To Be LovedTo Have Security To Be AcceptedTo Understand the To Understand The SelfEnvironment
26Of Separation/Conflict The Enneagram of Basic FearsOf Separation/Conflict9Of Being Weak Of Being Imperfect3Of Being Deprived Of Own NeedsOf Being Abandoned Of Failure/Of BeingRejectedOf Being Overwhelmed Of Being Ordinary
27Gifts of Each Personality Type 6 Responsible, dependable, trustworthyLoyal to what is lawful7 Optimitist, enthusiasticHappy - go - luckyAlways a “silver - lining”8 Leader, magnanimous, empoweringChallenge taker9 Peace makerMediator1 DiscernerReformer2 Emphatizer/SymphatizerGenerousCompassionate3 Performer, achiever, efficientDedicated to workConcerned with productivity4 Sensitive, tragic romanticCreative with a new way of looking at lifeLooks at life through art5 Wise, intelligent, observer, thinkerAble to make meaning out of experiencesMake the misunderstood understoodunderstandable
29Life Story/Childhood History Negative to FatherHigh standards of excellence“Good boy/girl”Important adult who was highly criticalAmbivalent to FatherLived in the shadow of somebody importantCherished as helpful, attentive, caringMade responsible beyond their yearsPositive to MotherPut up a frontParents valued achievement - “good grades prove your worth”Negative to Both ParentsSense of “trip - drama”World as a child disrupted by a devastating event -”where did it go wrong?”Ambivalent to Both ParentsAuthoritarian mothersIntrusive adult - felt need for space ignoredFeel that they have not been loved enoughPositive to FatherExperienced crisis of faith in authorityMemories of warmth prematurely cut - offViolation of trustNegative to MotherExperience of happiness early in life,but prematurely cut-offWorld is scary and painful - I’ll just playAmbivalent to MotherAdult at an early ageEarly source of difficultySaw injustice at an early age9 Positive to Both ParentsFamily members not emotionally close to one another but in good terms with one anotherLearned to repress own longings for the sake of avoiding conflict
30LIFE STATEMENT SELF-CONCEPT MOTIVES Life is being… I am … To/To be... 1 Perfect2 Needed3 Successful4 Unique5 Knowledgeable6 Responsible7 Joyful8 Content9 PeacefulRightGenerousEfficientDifferentWiseFaithfulFunPowerfulPeacefulCorrectNeeded/LovedApproved/AffirmedUnderstand the selfTo know/understandApproved the authorityHave funSelf-reliantHave unity and harmony
31TRAPS PASSION MANIFESTATION 1 Perfect Anger Judgmental2 Service Pride PossessivenessManipulative3 Efficiency Deceit Overly competitiveBasic lack of trustVain4 Authenticity Envy Putting others downEnvious5 Knowledge Stinginess Overly criticalCynical6 Security Fear “Rightly obedient”7 Idealism Over-Indulgence GluttonyInsensitivity8 Power Arrogance SarcasmVerbal put-down9 Self-abasement Laziness Over-patience Lack of involvement
33FACIAL EXPRESSIONSharpness of featuresConcerned lookYouthful lookingCasual/Sad lookHard posty lookHyper-alert/Scanning lookPHYSICAL APPEARANCENeat and well-srubbedTightness in the mouth or jawUsually thinWarm and attractive smileComfortable clothingUsually a little overweightDresses well/StylishTry to be fit and trimDresses with a sense of uniqueness of “drama”Uncomfortable smilesBeard for menCouldn’t care less for fashionRadiate a nervous energyComfort rather than styleSPEECHSermonizeWith authority that sounds rightComplimentaryFlattery“Advise getting”PropagandizesDemonstrativeDramaticLamentationsSummarizesCautionsPuts limitsProtected123456
34FACIAL EXPRESSIONCheery, chubby lookWeather-beaten facePlain/Blank lookPHYSICAL APPEARANCESmile a lotTeddy bearish but not fatSense of styleHusky sideLiable to wear massive outfitFairly relaxed and pleasantComfortable clothingSPEECHStory-tellingTalkativeHumorousEntertainingSarcastic“NO”DebunksMonotone‘Matter-of-factly”789
40Arrow Theory TYPE 1 2 3 4 5 6 STRESS POINT 4: Suffer and feel misunderstood8: Irrational anger9: Out of touch with their feelings and operates mechanically2: Please, charm and flatter others7: Plan and daydream instead of action3: Become anxious and take action defensivelySECURE POINT(Against the Arrow)7: Becomes playful, less perfectionist; relaxed4: Able to express sadness, tears and one’s personal needs6: More cooperative and less concerned with status1: Become more neat and in order8: Become assertive and involved with others9: More relaxed, self-assured and makes decisions
41Arrow Theory TYPE 7 8 9 STRESS POINT 1: Judgmental, pessimistic, perfectionist5: Runs away, hides and concocts revenge6: Becomes afraid; self-doubting and indecisiveSECURE POINT(Against the Arrow)5: Move into work and production and spends less time daydreaming2: More playful, joyful and interested in pleasing people3: Becomes more energetic, involved with life and successful
42TYPE123456WINGS9: Less self-concerned, less vain and more easy-going2: Concerned with their appearance, more sensitive to others, dramatic in their presentations and more proud1: Lazier, have less energy, and more concerned with things being right3: More aggressive, but aggressive seduction2: Takes on the feelings of others4: Dramatizes their own feelings3: More aggressive and focuses on external accomplishments, but sabotages success in private life5: Withdrawn and isolated4: Into their feelings, artistic and melancholic6: Operates intellectually, disconnected from their feelings and the emotions of others5: Softer, quieter and more withdrawn7: More aggressive, optimistic and relates with the world
43TYPE789WINGS6: Unsure of themselves and carries a slight nervous energy; hesitates to act8: A sense of internal power, tougher and more aggressive7: More Intellectual, idealistic and into planning9: More pragmatic and acts more from the gut than the head8: Sloppy dresser and overtly angry1: In control of themselves and the environment, repressed anger, have sense of how things should be
44TYPE123456STRENGTHSDoes the right thing and not easily swayed by external pressuresCarefulSensitive to emotional levelsExcellent caretakers/care-giversGoal OrientedHave an innate way of knowing how to relate to the worldHighly developed artistic senseDeeply in touch with the pain and sadness in lifeKeen sense of style and fashionGood sense of objectivityUtilizes resources efficientlyExcellent listenersIndependent that they don’t seek others to take care of themLong attention spanCareful and preciseFocused concentration
45TYPE789STRENGTHSPleasant and very easy to get along withImaginative brainstormers and visionariesPositive approach to lifeWhat is within, so withoutDefenders of the weakConfronts life as it isSees all sides of an issueFairly generous and easy-goingDoes not expect something in return
46Levels of Development For each type, there are levels of development. With this concept, a dynamic element is introduced that reflects the changing nature of the personality patterns themselves.You have probably noticed that people change constantly—sometimes they are clearer, more free, grounded, and emotionally available, while at other times they are more anxious, resistant, reactive, emotionally volatile and less free.
47Levels of DevelopmentUnderstanding the Levels makes it clear that when people change states within their personality, they are shifting within the spectrum of motivations, traits, and defenses that make up their personality type.
48On the continuum, the healthiest traits appear first, at the top, so to speak. As we move down the continuum in a spiral pattern, we progressively pass through each Level of Development marking a distinct shift in the personality's deterioration to the pure black of psychological breakdown at the bottom.
49The continuum is comprised of nine internal Levels of Development —briefly, there are three Levels in the healthy section, three Levels in the average section, and three Levels in the unhealthy section.It may help you to think of the continuum of Levels as a photographer's gray scale which has gradations from pure white to pure black with many shades of gray in between.
54One of the most profound ways of understanding the Levels is as a measure of our capacity to be present. The more we move down the Levels, the more identified we are with our ego and its increasingly negative and restrictive patterns.Our personality becomes more defensive, reactive, and automatic— and we consequently have less and less real freedom and less real consciousness. As we move down the Levels, we become caught in more compulsive, destructive actions which are ultimately self-defeating.
55By contrast, the movement toward health, up the Levels, is simultaneous with being more present and awake in our minds, hearts, and bodies. As we become more present, we become less fixated in the defensive structures of our personality and are more attuned and open to ourselves and our environment.We see our personality objectively in action rather than "falling asleep" to our automatic personality patterns. There is therefore the possibility of "not doing" our personality and of gaining some real distance the negative consequences of getting caught in it.
57TYPE OCCUPATIONS Consultant Entrepreneur Public relations 789OCCUPATIONSConsultant Entrepreneur Public relationsEditor WriterManagement staff ScientistPolice Officer Armed forces officer BusinessmanLawyer Union OrganizerSports figure ManagerArbitrator Umpire BureaucratAmbassador RefereeAdministrator Lab Technician
58TYPE ATTRACTIVE UNATTRACTIVE 12345ATTRACTIVEQuality controlMeticulous attention to detailClear organizational structureCorrecting errorsWork that requires continuous improvementAssociations with othersAssociations with the “needy” othersSpace for continuing developmentWhere potentials excel the mostPerformance-orientedQuick turn-overs and resultsCreative jobs that facilitate unique, strange or eccentric approachAnalysis and reanalysisLimited association with othersInformation and researchUNATTRACTIVENo clear-cut guidelinesWork that requires on-the-spot decisions with minimal informationWork that provides the least stroking, positive feedback and gratitudeRoutinaryWork that involves time and experimentationMundane and ordinaryOpen competitionConfirmation and direct association with others
59TYPE ATTRACTIVE UNATTRACTIVE 6789ATTRACTIVEHierarchy-orientedBeing with authority or being authority to oneselfPlanning and conceptualizingVisioningBeing in the newLeadershipMediatorshipUNATTRACTIVEOn-the-spot decisionsImplementationFixed guidelinesFollowing ordersConflict
60TYPE HELPING THE OTHER 1 2 3 4 5 6 Don’t like to be told Show interest in what they are doingTeach them to relaxHelp them to be aware of their feelingsAcknowledge their needsAssure themHelp them express their needDelay your “thank you’s”Affirm what is real in themHelp them to accept failureRide on to the mental framework but be in touch with the truthHelp them to focus on the ordinaryHelp them to come out of their curve. Do not wait for them to come out for you will be out-wittedBy coaxing their creativity, challenge them and affirm themShow interest in their writingChallenge them to something newCall to test courageAffirm themFollow them through
61TYPE HELPING THE OTHER 7 8 9 Don’t like to be told Call them to be accountable of their own plansGive them the hardworkDo not pick up pieces for them, let them do itCall them to awareness of what they are doingCall their gentlenessDo not counter aggressionDisarm them in a gentle wayHelp them manage the conflictCall them out of their shells for they contain gold
62Invitation to Abundance 1 – THE REFORMERTo live for a Higher Purpose – It is your true nature to be wise and discerning2 – THE HELPERTo nurture yourself and others – It is your true nature to be good to yourself and have compassion for others3 – THE ACHIEVERTo develop yourself and set an example for others – it is your true nature to take pleasure in your own existence and to esteem and value others4 – THE INDIVIDUALISTTo let go of the past and be renewed by your experience – It is your true nature to be forgiving and to use everything as gift5 – THE INVESTIGATORTo observe yourself and others without judgment or expectation – It is your true nature to be engaged with reality6 – THE LOYALISTTo have faith in yourself and trust in the goodness of life – it is your true nature to be courageous and capable of dealing with life under all conditions7 – THE ENTHUSIASTTo joyously celebrate existence and share your happiness – It is your true nature to be happy and to add to the richness of experience of everyone8 – THE CHALLENGERTo stand up for yourself and to speak out for what you believe in – it is your nature to be strong and capable of affecting the world in many positive ways9 – THE PEACEMAKERTo bring peace and healing – It is your nature to be an inexhaustible source of serenity in the world.
63Practices that may help: ONE Become acquainted with your superego. Begin to think of that commanding voice as “it” not I, that it only sounds like the voice of God.Be aware of your tendency to push yourself beyond your limits of endurance. Leave time for play.Let others help you. Understand that their contribution may help enhance your perspective.Let others know your own needs. Being open and honest about your vulnerabilities is a key element to developing greater integrity.Realize that you are not going to be able to get rid of the parts of yourself that you do not like. You cannot transform yourself – none of us can.Learn to recognize and process your anger. Practice exercises that help you release your tension and stress.
64Practices that may help: TWO Do not be so concerned about what others think of you, and be particularly aware of trying to win over everyone.Learn to recognize the affection and good wishes of others, even when they are not in terms that you are familiar with.Develop good boundaries. Learn how to “sit in your own skin” when others are troubled or need something from you. Even when helping, stay connected to yourself.Become more aware of moments when you are flattering people or in any way trying to ingratiate yourself with them.Work on your pride by seeing the many ways in which it subtly manifests itself. Only true humility and the acknowledgement that your are loved will dissolve pride.
65Practices that may help: THREE Learn to recognize when you are “turning it on” for someone – when you are becoming your image instead of speaking and acting authentically.Give yourself a break once in a while – check in with yourselfSeek out people you trust with whom you can share your anxieties and vulnerabilities. Revealing some of your vulnerability to healthy friends will endear you to them, not disappoint them.Find creative outlets that is for yourself, and not for an audience. It can help you get in touch with your feelings, and bring you to greater alignment with yourself.Learn to be silent. Meditate. “Doing nothing” does not make sense to your task-driven ego, but it makes a lot of sense to your soul.Find areas in your life where you can be of service as part of a team, but NOT as head of the team.
66Practices that may help: FOUR Be aware that emotional volatility and moodiness are not the same as real sensitivity.Recognize the aspects of your Fantasy Self that are not in alignment with the reality of your life. Similarly, learn to accept and appreciate your genuine talents and not to reject them because some other ability seems more glamorous or desirable. This is envy at its most self-destructive.Seek out truthful friends who will mirror you honestly and accurately.Beware of unconsciously expecting friends to be a dumping ground for your emotional upheavals.Set up positive, constructive routines for yourself. A little structure will go a long way in freeing up your creativity.
67Practices that may help: FIVE Remember that your mind is clearest and most powerful when it is quiet. Take the time to cultivate this quiet in yourself, and do not confuse it with an insistence that your external world be quiet.Use your body. Your balance requires more physical activity.Make the effort to reach out to others, especially when you are feeling vulnerable and afraid. Speak up. Make your needs known, and you may be surprised. Your tendency to isolate usually gets you deeper into your trap.Think carefully about what areas are most debilitating to your self confidence. You can continue doing projects that interest you, but it can be very powerful to explore more directly some of the areas of your life that you have cut offRisk feeling your grief. In a safe and appropriate place, allow yourself to sense your heart. This can even be more powerful with a friend, a therapist, anyone you trust. Ask him to be there as a witness to your pain and struggle.
68Practices that may help: SIX Notice how much time you spend trying to figure out how to handle possible future problems. In reality, how often do these imagined events come to pass? Quieting the mind through disciplined meditation practices can help Sixes clear out the chorus of voices in their heads.When you achieve a goal, large or small, stop long enough to relax, breathe, and savor the moment. Take in the impression of your competence. This feeling will help you see the ways in which you consistently support yourself and others.Get in the practice of noticing what you trust and how you come to decisions. Notice especially the procedures or allies you automatically turn to when you are unsure of yourself. Turn more to what your heart and instincts are telling you in the moment. Many internal voices are more fearful aspects of your imagination and superego. The more you see the truth in this, the more you will find your quiet mind.Take risks, especially when it comes to moving out of familiar, safe patterns. Seek out diversity and variety.
69Practices that may help: SEVEN When you are mentally revved up, take a moment to breathe and see what is really going on with you. Notice especially if you are afraid or upset about something. Any time you feel in danger of being “bored”, stop and see what you are avoiding.Allow the events of your life, even the painful ones, to touch you deeply. Simply identifying a feeling is a beginning but not the same as fully experiencing and being affected by them.Learn to notice your impatience and its roots. Because you are talented in many areas, you tend not to develop any one fully. Be on guard for the “instant expert” syndrome. Do your homework. Take time to bring your abilities to fruition.Find the joy of the ordinary. When you are truly present, all of your experiences are extraordinary. Make each moment a unique source of delight and amazement.Learn to meditate.
70Practices that may help: EIGHT Get in touch with your feelings. Vulnerability lets others know that they matter, that you care for them. You do not need to wear your heart on your sleeve, but do not deny the hurt either.Find people you can really trust, and talk with them about matters that are eating at you. Notice that you are being heard when you are – and do the same for others.A little restraint on the intensity levels in work and in play can help ensure that you will be around longer to enjoy your life in deeper and subtler ways. Question your need for intensity and ask where it comes from.
71Practices that may help: NINE Learn to discriminate between genuine humility and the tendency to discount yourself and your abilities. You may feel overwhelmed by life’s problems and that you have little to offer others, but a quick look at the discord, violence, and pain in the world may guide you to a quiet wisdom about what you can do.Learn the value of the word NO. When presented with a proposition that you are uncomfortable with, it is better to make your misgivings known at the onset rather than silently agreeing and regretting it later. Most people want to know what your real opinion or preference is – even if it seems unimportant to you at the time.Learn to recognize what YOU want from a given situation. Often you will be so busy taking into account the positions of others that you will tend to neglect your own. If necessary, do not be afraid to ask others to give you a moment to consider the options. And do not be afraid to pursue the opinion you prefer it arises.Invest time and energy in developing yourself and your talents.
72What is your Enneagram number What is your Enneagram number? How does your profile manifest itself in your personal and student life? How does it impact on your ability to influence (rightly or wrongly) other people?If possible, can you identify critical incidents in your life that may help explain your Enneagram number
73Identify action points that can help you move from your Vice to your Virtue. Deadline: