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Which of the following slides describe you best? Select the slide that has the most number of bullet points that you resonate with.
Grew up with parents who expected the best - grades always were not good enoughgood boy/ good girl Principled and strong Strong need to be right and to do the right thing Tendency to correct errors - of self and of others Voice inside the mind constantly challenginginner critic Fears being condemnedin the process has a tendency to condemn others Others may see you as judgmental Difficulty in experiencing pleasure or having fun Anger 1
Generous, brings out best in others Charming, caring, loving Relationship is central Everything is perceived through relationships I am needed, They cant do without me Need induces them to love others in order to be loved Finds it difficult to express own need May be dependent on the response or need of the other 2
Eager, responsible, goal-oriented, persistent, organized Doing rather than being Just do it Focuses on tasks One must succeed at all costs Highly competitive High need to be accepted, fears rejection Looking good is important - image Need to have others see that they can make things happenefficient 3
Unique Why cant I have the same as everyone else? Sensitive, refined, profound Moody, difficult to please Feelings are paramount In touch with feelings of others - empathic Intense Attached to the past Sense of abandonment Aesthetics - sense of beauty Indulges in fantasy 4
Unquenchable taste for knowledge Thinking instead of doing Wise, perceptive, analytic, respectful Need to analyze, to understand the world Detached - isolation mechanism - from feelings Minimalist - reduce needs to basic Able to compartmentalized life Avoids intrusion - privacy - withdrawn Seen as cold, arrogant, intellectual 5
Dutiful, clever, committed, builder of coalition Loyal to authority, structures, organizations Strong sense of Fear Vigilance, safety Complains, cross-examines Prepares for battle Devils advocate Be prepared, Readiness is all Fears being abandoned 6
Charming Playful Explores the world Gluttony Difficulty with commitmentI dont want limits Wants variety Fascination - many interests Able to shift mind and interests Active Avoids pain, gets bored easily 7
Concerned with strength Being in power, in charge Self reliant - independent Doesnt know when to stop - Lust My way or no way Likes to confront Protective of the weak Justice Direct to the point, dominant, domineering 8
Empathic, available, steady, reliable Ambivalent, too accommodating, apathetic, resistant to change Let it be, Dont rock the boat Harmonizing Calm, simple, comfy, sometimes disheveled and unkempt Likes repetitive tasks Wanting to belong Open to others - accepting Need for union - ignoring reality 9
Enneagram Can help understand fears and desires, strengths And weaknesses, defenses and anxieties, how we react to frustration and disappointmentand, more positively, what our truest capacities and greatest strengths are so that we can build on those rather than on misjudgments and illusions.
Enneagram Comes from the Greek words ennea, meaning nine and gram, meaning something drawn or written. 3
Enneagram A system that describes nine different personality types and how they interact with each other. Each type is defined by an emotional HABIT, a characteristic pattern of THOUGHT, and a style of RELATING TO OTHERS, which together produces a DISTINCT POINT OF VIEW.
Enneagram Uses a revered ethical framework or model called VICE to VIRTUE transformation. VICE – a protective shield in early life to cushion emotional discomfort; served a useful purpose; an emotional survival strategy But once we understand this childhood basis as our defensive core, we can develop ways to transform the VICE into its opposite VIRTUE VICEVIRTUE
Enneagram Process: Uncover your characteristic survival strategy (VICE) Cultivate the opposite constructive way of being (VIRTUE)
Circle of Personality Types with the Centers Circle of Personality Types with the Centers GUT HEAD HEART
HEAD HEAD Brain Put things Sight Fear Central Nervous together System HEART HEART Hypothalamus Relationships Taste Shame Heart Lungs GUT GUT Alimentary Energy Hearing Anger conservation Smelling Survival CENTERS BODY INSTINCT SENSES EMOTIONAL REACTION GROUP
HEAD HEAD Where am I? Inner world to What will I gain From it? Outer world HEART HEART Who am I with? Outer reality to inner reality GUT GUT Who am I? From past to present How will it help me move in life? Where do I stand? LIFE QUESTIONS MOVEMENTS LIFE QUESTIONS MOVEMENTS
CENTER HEAD HEART GUT PERSONALITY TYPE FIVE (I) SIX SEVEN (E) TWO (E) THREE FOUR (I) ONE (I) NINE EIGHT (E) CHARACTERISTICS Escapes fear by withdrawing and not being involved Alternates between avoiding and confronting fear Escapes fear through plans and diversions Over relates with people Denies own feelings Assumes image and role from society Relates to self-image Keeps cold anger within Denies own anger Expresses hot anger to others
Peacemaker 9 The Boss 8 1 The Reformer The Generalist 7 2 The Helper The Thinker 5 4 The Artist 3 The Loyalist 6 3 The Motivator The Enneagram of Personality Types
I am Peaceful 9 I am Strong 8 1 I am Perfect I am Happy 7 2 I am Caring I am Knowledgeable 5 4 I am Special 3 I am Loyal 6 3 I am Successful The Enneagram of Personality Statements
To Be In Harmony 9 To Be Strong 8 1 To Be Right To Be Joyful; Satisfied 7 2 To Be Loved To Understand the 5 4 To Understand The Self Environment 3 To Have Security 6 3 To Be Accepted The Enneagram of Basic Desires
Of Separation/Conflict 9 Of Being Weak 8 1 Of Being Imperfect Of Being Deprived 7 2 Of Own Needs Of Being Overwhelmed 5 4 Of Being Ordinary 3 Of Being Abandoned 6 3 Of Failure/Of Being Rejected The Enneagram of Basic Fears
Gifts of Each Personality Type 1 1 Discerner Reformer 2 2 Emphatizer/Symphatizer Generous Compassionate 3 3 Performer, achiever, efficient Dedicated to work Concerned with productivity 4 4 Sensitive, tragic romantic Creative with a new way of looking at life Looks at life through art 5 5 Wise, intelligent, observer, thinker Able to make meaning out of experiences Make the misunderstood understood understandable 6 6 Responsible, dependable, trustworthy Loyal to what is lawful 7 7 Optimitist, enthusiastic Happy - go - lucky Always a silver - lining 8 8 Leader, magnanimous, empowering Challenge taker 9 9 Peace maker Mediator
Life Story/Childhood History 1Negative to Father High standards of excellence Good boy/girl Important adult who was highly critical 2Ambivalent to Father Lived in the shadow of somebody important Cherished as helpful, attentive, caring Made responsible beyond their years 3Positive to Mother Put up a front Parents valued achievement - good grades prove your worth 4Negative to Both Parents Sense of trip - drama World as a child disrupted by a devastating event -where did it go wrong? 5Ambivalent to Both Parents Authoritarian mothers Intrusive adult - felt need for space ignored Feel that they have not been loved enough 6Positive to Father Experienced crisis of faith in authority Memories of warmth prematurely cut - off Violation of trust 7Negative to Mother Experience of happiness early in life,but prematurely cut-off World is scary and painful - Ill just play 8Ambivalent to Mother Adult at an early age Early source of difficulty Saw injustice at an early age 9 9 Positive to Both Parents Family members not emotionally close to one another but in good terms with one another Learned to repress own longings for the sake of avoiding conflict
1 1 Perfect 2 2 Needed 3 3 Successful 4 4 Unique 5 5 Knowledgeable 6 6 Responsible 7 7 Joyful 8 8 Content 9 9 Peaceful LIFE STATEMENT SELF-CONCEPT MOTIVES LIFE STATEMENT SELF-CONCEPT MOTIVES Life is being… I am … To/To be... Life is being… I am … To/To be... Right Generous Efficient Different Wise Faithful Fun Powerful Peaceful Correct Needed/Loved Approved/Affirmed Understand the self To know/understand Approved the authority Have fun Self-reliant Have unity and harmony
1 1 Perfect Anger Judgmental 2 2 Service Pride Possessiveness Manipulative 3 3 Efficiency Deceit Overly competitive Basic lack of trust Vain 4 4 Authenticity Envy Putting others down Envious 5 5 Knowledge Stinginess Overly critical Cynical 6 6 Security Fear Rightly obedient 7 7 Idealism Over-Indulgence Gluttony Insensitivity 8 8 Power Arrogance Sarcasm Verbal put-down 9 9 Self-abasement Laziness Over-patience Lack of involvement TRAPS PASSION MANIFESTATION TRAPS PASSION MANIFESTATION
FACIAL EXPRESSION Sharpness of features Concerned look Youthful looking Casual/Sad look Hard posty look Hyper-alert/ Scanning look PHYSICAL APPEARANCE Neat and well-srubbed Tightness in the mouth or jaw Usually thin Warm and attractive smile Comfortable clothing Usually a little overweight Dresses well/Stylish Try to be fit and trim Dresses with a sense of uniqueness of drama Uncomfortable smiles Beard for men Couldnt care less for fashion Radiate a nervous energy Comfort rather than style SPEECH Sermonize With authority that sounds right Complimentary Flattery Advise getting Propagandizes Demonstrative Dramatic Lamentations Summarizes Cautions Puts limits Protected
FACIAL EXPRESSION Cheery, chubby look Weather-beaten face Plain/Blank look PHYSICAL APPEARANCE Smile a lot Teddy bearish but not fat Sense of style Husky side Liable to wear massive outfit Fairly relaxed and pleasant Comfortable clothing SPEECH Story-telling Talkative Humorous Entertaining Sarcastic NO Debunks Monotone Matter-of-factly
AUTHENTIC SELF looking deeply into our true identity through the perspective of the nine attributes of human nature WISDOM OF THE ENNEAGRAM
AUTHENTIC SELF we are not our personality fallling asleep to our true nature WISDOM OF THE ENNEAGRAM
AUTHENTIC SELF STRESS Point: FOLLOW the arrows direction SECURE Point: GO AGAINST the arrows direction THE ARROW THEORY
Arrow Theory TYPE STRESS POINT 4: Suffer and feel misunderstood 8: Irrational anger 9: Out of touch with their feelings and operates mechanically 2: Please, charm and flatter others 7: Plan and daydream instead of action 3: Become anxious and take action defensively SECURE POINT (Against the Arrow ) 7: Becomes playful, less perfectionist; relaxed 4: Able to express sadness, tears and ones personal needs 6: More cooperative and less concerned with status 1: Become more neat and in order 8: Become assertive and involved with others 9: More relaxed, self-assured and makes decisions
Arrow Theory TYPE STRESS POINT 1: Judgmental, pessimistic, perfectionist 5: Runs away, hides and concocts revenge 6: Becomes afraid; self- doubting and indecisive SECURE POINT (Against the Arrow) 5: Move into work and production and spends less time daydreaming 2: More playful, joyful and interested in pleasing people 3: Becomes more energetic, involved with life and successful
TYPE WINGS 9: Less self-concerned, less vain and more easy-going 2: Concerned with their appearance, more sensitive to others, dramatic in their presentations and more proud 1: Lazier, have less energy, and more concerned with things being right 3: More aggressive, but aggressive seduction 2: Takes on the feelings of others 4: Dramatizes their own feelings 3: More aggressive and focuses on external accomplishments, but sabotages success in private life 5: Withdrawn and isolated 4: Into their feelings, artistic and melancholic 6: Operates intellectually, disconnected from their feelings and the emotions of others 5: Softer, quieter and more withdrawn 7: More aggressive, optimistic and relates with the world
TYPE WINGS 6: Unsure of themselves and carries a slight nervous energy; hesitates to act 8: A sense of internal power, tougher and more aggressive 7: More Intellectual, idealistic and into planning 9: More pragmatic and acts more from the gut than the head 8: Sloppy dresser and overtly angry 1: In control of themselves and the environment, repressed anger, have sense of how things should be
TYPE STRENGTHS Does the right thing and not easily swayed by external pressures Careful Sensitive to emotional levels Excellent caretakers/care-givers Goal Oriented Have an innate way of knowing how to relate to the world Highly developed artistic sense Deeply in touch with the pain and sadness in life Keen sense of style and fashion Good sense of objectivity Utilizes resources efficiently Excellent listeners Independent that they dont seek others to take care of them Long attention span Careful and precise Focused concentration
TYPE STRENGTHS Pleasant and very easy to get along with Imaginative brainstormers and visionaries Positive approach to life What is within, so without Defenders of the weak Confronts life as it is Sees all sides of an issue Fairly generous and easy-going Does not expect something in return
Levels of Development For each type, there are levels of development. With this concept, a dynamic element is introduced that reflects the changing nature of the personality patterns themselves. You have probably noticed that people change constantlysometimes they are clearer, more free, grounded, and emotionally available, while at other times they are more anxious, resistant, reactive, emotionally volatile and less free.
Levels of Development Understanding the Levels makes it clear that when people change states within their personality, they are shifting within the spectrum of motivations, traits, and defenses that make up their personality type.
On the continuum, the healthiest traits appear first, at the top, so to speak. As we move down the continuum in a spiral pattern, we progressively pass through each Level of Development marking a distinct shift in the personality's deterioration to the pure black of psychological breakdown at the bottom.
The continuum is comprised of nine internal Levels of Development briefly, there are three Levels in the healthy section, three Levels in the average section, and three Levels in the unhealthy section. It may help you to think of the continuum of Levels as a photographer's gray scale which has gradations from pure white to pure black with many shades of gray in between.
One of the most profound ways of understanding the Levels is as a measure of our capacity to be present. The more we move down the Levels, the more identified we are with our ego and its increasingly negative and restrictive patterns. Our personality becomes more defensive, reactive, and automatic and we consequently have less and less real freedom and less real consciousness. As we move down the Levels, we become caught in more compulsive, destructive actions which are ultimately self-defeating.
By contrast, the movement toward health, up the Levels, is simultaneous with being more present and awake in our minds, hearts, and bodies. As we become more present, we become less fixated in the defensive structures of our personality and are more attuned and open to ourselves and our environment. We see our personality objectively in action rather than "falling asleep" to our automatic personality patterns. There is therefore the possibility of "not doing" our personality and of gaining some real distance the negative consequences of getting caught in it.
TYPE OCCUPATIONS Physician Teacher Librarian Nurse Accountant Secretary Clergy Technician Social WorkerNurse PsychologistExecutive Secretary PhysicianClergy ActingAdvertising MedicineCorporate Management MarketingBanking SalesEntrepreneurship PromotionPolitics ActingCriticCounselor DancingEntertainer Painting Interior decoration AccountantComputer ProgrammerAcademic Positions ArchaeologistResearch Scientist WriterLibrarian Engineer Civil ServantOfficer in the armed forces Machinist TechnologistPolice Officer Builder School InstructorFire fighter
TYPE ATTRACTIVE Quality control Meticulous attention to detail Clear organizational structure Correcting errors Work that requires continuous improvement Associations with others Associations with the needy others Space for continuing development Where potentials excel the most Performance-oriented Quick turn-overs and results Creative jobs that facilitate unique, strange or eccentric approach Analysis and reanalysis Limited association with others Information and research UNATTRACTIVE No clear-cut guidelines Work that requires on-the-spot decisions with minimal information Work that provides the least stroking, positive feedback and gratitude Routinary Work that involves time and experimentation Mundane and ordinary Open competition Confirmation and direct association with others
TYPE ATTRACTIVE Hierarchy-oriented Being with authority or being authority to oneself Planning and conceptualizing Visioning Being in the new Leadership Mediatorship UNATTRACTIVE On-the-spot decisions Implementation Fixed guidelines Following orders Conflict
TYPE HELPING THE OTHER Dont like to be told Show interest in what they are doing Teach them to relax Help them to be aware of their feelings Acknowledge their needs Assure them Help them express their need Delay your thank yous Affirm what is real in them Help them to accept failure Ride on to the mental framework but be in touch with the truth Help them to focus on the ordinary Help them to come out of their curve. Do not wait for them to come out for you will be out-witted By coaxing their creativity, challenge them and affirm them Show interest in their writing Challenge them to something new Call to test courage Affirm them Follow them through
TYPE HELPING THE OTHER Dont like to be told Call them to be accountable of their own plans Give them the hardwork Do not pick up pieces for them, let them do it Call them to awareness of what they are doing Call their gentleness Do not counter aggression Disarm them in a gentle way Help them manage the conflict Call them out of their shells for they contain gold
Invitation to Abundance 1 – THE REFORMER To live for a Higher Purpose – It is your true nature to be wise and discerning 2 – THE HELPER To nurture yourself and others – It is your true nature to be good to yourself and have compassion for others 3 – THE ACHIEVER To develop yourself and set an example for others – it is your true nature to take pleasure in your own existence and to esteem and value others 4 – THE INDIVIDUALIST To let go of the past and be renewed by your experience – It is your true nature to be forgiving and to use everything as gift 5 – THE INVESTIGATOR To observe yourself and others without judgment or expectation – It is your true nature to be engaged with reality 6 – THE LOYALIST To have faith in yourself and trust in the goodness of life – it is your true nature to be courageous and capable of dealing with life under all conditions 7 – THE ENTHUSIAST To joyously celebrate existence and share your happiness – It is your true nature to be happy and to add to the richness of experience of everyone 8 – THE CHALLENGER To stand up for yourself and to speak out for what you believe in – it is your nature to be strong and capable of affecting the world in many positive ways 9 – THE PEACEMAKER To bring peace and healing – It is your nature to be an inexhaustible source of serenity in the world.
Practices that may help: ONE Become acquainted with your superego. Begin to think of that commanding voice as it not I, that it only sounds like the voice of God. Be aware of your tendency to push yourself beyond your limits of endurance. Leave time for play. Let others help you. Understand that their contribution may help enhance your perspective. Let others know your own needs. Being open and honest about your vulnerabilities is a key element to developing greater integrity. Realize that you are not going to be able to get rid of the parts of yourself that you do not like. You cannot transform yourself – none of us can. Learn to recognize and process your anger. Practice exercises that help you release your tension and stress.
Practices that may help: TWO Do not be so concerned about what others think of you, and be particularly aware of trying to win over everyone. Learn to recognize the affection and good wishes of others, even when they are not in terms that you are familiar with. Develop good boundaries. Learn how to sit in your own skin when others are troubled or need something from you. Even when helping, stay connected to yourself. Become more aware of moments when you are flattering people or in any way trying to ingratiate yourself with them. Work on your pride by seeing the many ways in which it subtly manifests itself. Only true humility and the acknowledgement that your are loved will dissolve pride.
Practices that may help: THREE Learn to recognize when you are turning it on for someone – when you are becoming your image instead of speaking and acting authentically. Give yourself a break once in a while – check in with yourself Seek out people you trust with whom you can share your anxieties and vulnerabilities. Revealing some of your vulnerability to healthy friends will endear you to them, not disappoint them. Find creative outlets that is for yourself, and not for an audience. It can help you get in touch with your feelings, and bring you to greater alignment with yourself. Learn to be silent. Meditate. Doing nothing does not make sense to your task-driven ego, but it makes a lot of sense to your soul. Find areas in your life where you can be of service as part of a team, but NOT as head of the team.
Practices that may help: FOUR Be aware that emotional volatility and moodiness are not the same as real sensitivity. Recognize the aspects of your Fantasy Self that are not in alignment with the reality of your life. Similarly, learn to accept and appreciate your genuine talents and not to reject them because some other ability seems more glamorous or desirable. This is envy at its most self-destructive. Seek out truthful friends who will mirror you honestly and accurately. Beware of unconsciously expecting friends to be a dumping ground for your emotional upheavals. Set up positive, constructive routines for yourself. A little structure will go a long way in freeing up your creativity.
Practices that may help: FIVE Remember that your mind is clearest and most powerful when it is quiet. Take the time to cultivate this quiet in yourself, and do not confuse it with an insistence that your external world be quiet. Use your body. Your balance requires more physical activity. Make the effort to reach out to others, especially when you are feeling vulnerable and afraid. Speak up. Make your needs known, and you may be surprised. Your tendency to isolate usually gets you deeper into your trap. Think carefully about what areas are most debilitating to your self confidence. You can continue doing projects that interest you, but it can be very powerful to explore more directly some of the areas of your life that you have cut off Risk feeling your grief. In a safe and appropriate place, allow yourself to sense your heart. This can even be more powerful with a friend, a therapist, anyone you trust. Ask him to be there as a witness to your pain and struggle.
Practices that may help: SIX Notice how much time you spend trying to figure out how to handle possible future problems. In reality, how often do these imagined events come to pass? Quieting the mind through disciplined meditation practices can help Sixes clear out the chorus of voices in their heads. When you achieve a goal, large or small, stop long enough to relax, breathe, and savor the moment. Take in the impression of your competence. This feeling will help you see the ways in which you consistently support yourself and others. Get in the practice of noticing what you trust and how you come to decisions. Notice especially the procedures or allies you automatically turn to when you are unsure of yourself. Turn more to what your heart and instincts are telling you in the moment. Many internal voices are more fearful aspects of your imagination and superego. The more you see the truth in this, the more you will find your quiet mind. Take risks, especially when it comes to moving out of familiar, safe patterns. Seek out diversity and variety.
Practices that may help: SEVEN When you are mentally revved up, take a moment to breathe and see what is really going on with you. Notice especially if you are afraid or upset about something. Any time you feel in danger of being bored, stop and see what you are avoiding. Allow the events of your life, even the painful ones, to touch you deeply. Simply identifying a feeling is a beginning but not the same as fully experiencing and being affected by them. Learn to notice your impatience and its roots. Because you are talented in many areas, you tend not to develop any one fully. Be on guard for the instant expert syndrome. Do your homework. Take time to bring your abilities to fruition. Find the joy of the ordinary. When you are truly present, all of your experiences are extraordinary. Make each moment a unique source of delight and amazement. Learn to meditate.
Practices that may help: EIGHT Get in touch with your feelings. Vulnerability lets others know that they matter, that you care for them. You do not need to wear your heart on your sleeve, but do not deny the hurt either. Find people you can really trust, and talk with them about matters that are eating at you. Notice that you are being heard when you are – and do the same for others. A little restraint on the intensity levels in work and in play can help ensure that you will be around longer to enjoy your life in deeper and subtler ways. Question your need for intensity and ask where it comes from.
Practices that may help: NINE Learn to discriminate between genuine humility and the tendency to discount yourself and your abilities. You may feel overwhelmed by lifes problems and that you have little to offer others, but a quick look at the discord, violence, and pain in the world may guide you to a quiet wisdom about what you can do. Learn the value of the word NO. When presented with a proposition that you are uncomfortable with, it is better to make your misgivings known at the onset rather than silently agreeing and regretting it later. Most people want to know what your real opinion or preference is – even if it seems unimportant to you at the time. Learn to recognize what YOU want from a given situation. Often you will be so busy taking into account the positions of others that you will tend to neglect your own. If necessary, do not be afraid to ask others to give you a moment to consider the options. And do not be afraid to pursue the opinion you prefer it arises. Invest time and energy in developing yourself and your talents.
What is your Enneagram number? How does your profile manifest itself in your personal and student life? How does it impact on your ability to influence (rightly or wrongly) other people? If possible, can you identify critical incidents in your life that may help explain your Enneagram number
Identify action points that can help you move from your Vice to your Virtue. Deadline: