1. Text Journal Read pg. 96-97 Do Review #6, 7 pg. 105
“No one cares to speak to an unwilling listener. An arrow never lodges in a stone: often it recoils upon the sender of it.”
How often are you not listening? How can you listen more effectively?
Listening Skills – Self Evaluation

2. The Wright Family Story
Sit in a circle.
Each person takes one piece of candy.
You will pass it to the person to your right or left any time you hear the word right or left in the story.

3. Reflective Listening
When the listener mirrors back the thoughts and/or feelings the speaker is experiencing.
“Are you saying …”
“You seem …”
If the listener if wrong then the speaker can restate in a different way.

4. Listening Blocks I must defend my position.
I’m looking for an entrance into the conversation.
I don’t have time to listen to you.
I already know what you have to say.
I know what you should do.

5. Active Listening Ask questions, not with yes, no or one word answers.
Use appropriate eye contact.
Not if understand or ask for clarification.
Don’t cross arms or legs or lean back.
Lean slightly forward.
Facial expressions and tone of voice.
Be honest and sincere.

6. Active Listening Open-ended questions Reflection (paraphrasing)
Closed: Are you feeling bad today?
Open: How are you feeling today?
Reflection (paraphrasing)

7. Practice Pair up – one speaker, one listener
Interview partner for 4 min.
Interviewers job is to encourage partner to share information and feelings by using non-verbal signals and active listening.
Interviewer needs to find out where person was born, favorite subject in school, have they ever cheated on a test, and feelings about premarital sex.
Switch roles.
New interviewer needs to find out how many
siblings they have, hobby, have they ever
stolen anything, and philosophy of
kissing.

8. Evaluation Each person report the results of their interview.
Evaluate your listening skills.
Were you distracted while listening?
Did you feel heard by your partner?
How did you feel in each role?
Do you feel like you know your partner better after this activity?
Was there anything you noticed during this activity that made you feel your partner was or wasn’t listening to you?

9. How Well Do You Listen?

10. Internet Listening Quiz