2. Listening “No one cares to speak to an unwilling listener. An arrow never lodges in a stone: often it recoils upon the sender of it.”

3. Journal… I am/ am not a good listener because…

4. The Wright Family Story Sit in a circle, Indian style. Each person takes one paperclip. You will pass it to the person to your right or left any time you hear the word right or left in the story.

5. Listening and Hearing What is the difference between listening and hearing? How do you know if someone is listening to you?

6. When the listener mirrors back the thoughts and/or feelings the speaker is experiencing. –“Are you saying …” –“You seem …” If the listener is wrong then the speaker can restate in a different way. Reflective Listening

7. Listening Blocks I must defend my position. I’m looking for an entrance into the conversation. I don’t have time to listen to you. I already know what you have to say. I know what you should do.

8. Active Listening Ask questions, not with yes, no or one word answers. Use appropriate eye contact. Not if understand or ask for clarification. Don’t cross arms or legs or lean back. Lean slightly forward. Facial expressions and tone of voice. Be honest and sincere.

9. Listening Activity 2 Volunteers! One person will be the speaker. The other one will be listening. The class is to observe the conversation and identify what distracting behavior each person is portraying.

10. Active Listening Open-ended questions –Closed: Are you feeling bad today? –Open: How are you feeling today? Reflection (paraphrasing) –What is reflection?

11. Practice Pair up – one speaker, one listener Interview partner for 4 min. Interviewers job is to encourage partner to share information and feelings by using non- verbal signals and active listening. Interviewer needs to find out where person was born, favorite subject in school, have they ever cheated on a test, and feelings about premarital sex. Switch roles. New interviewer needs to find out how many siblings they have, hobby, have they ever stolen anything, and philosophy on dating.

12. Evaluation Each person report the results of their interview. Evaluate your listening skills. –Were you distracted while listening? –Did you feel heard by your partner? –How did you feel in each role? –Do you feel like you know your partner better after this activity? Was there anything you noticed during this activity that made you feel your partner was or wasn’t listening to you?

13. Gossip!!!

14. GOSSIP What do you think about gossip? Have you ever been hurt by gossip? How does gossip require listening? What do you think about people who gossip a lot?