Waltzing Home From Work Dr. John Draper FASA Super Conference July 22, 2007

Do you want students to: Tell the truth? Accept responsibility? Cooperate? Work on making you happy?

“We must combine the toughness of the serpent and the softness of the dove, a tough mind and a tender heart.” Martin Luther King

HIGH Support LOW HIGH Structure LOW Support

You must never... Be Neglectful, Unconcerned Be Permissive, Inconsistent Be Hostile, Sarcastic Use questions or “you” statements to discipline

You must always... Be assertive Use “I” statements Think with your head, feel with your heart! Use the toughness of the serpent and the softness of the dove!

Good Principles Make Good Principals

Training the Troops Have teachers handle 95% or more of the problems Solve the problem before the parents get mad Get teachers to correct their own weaknesses

Teacher Empowerment Providing consequences Accepting responsibility

Defusing Anger Student sheet Teacher response

Perception is Reality Teacher feedback Student survey

Large Groups: Use positive peer pressure Have students work to make you happy Get an assembly quiet Find out who stole the $ from the locker room Drastically reduce the number of fights in your school

Positive Peer Pressure Clear expectations Large group rewards NO group punishment!

Recognition Program K.I.S.S. Make it a priority

Assemblies Practice Quiet 1, 2, 3

Who Did It? One clean sheet RTTET

Take The Fun Out of Fighting The messenger boy The promoter

One on One Get a student to tell the truth Supervise a student without looking Hold a parent in the palm of your hand Stop the Bully! Touch a student’s heart when you lecture

Truth Book Put it in writing Consequence for the offense Consequence for the lie

Block sanding Bad language/behavior Write it Sand it

Tape recorder Stop the argument Keep it handy

No Contact Contract Terms Consequences Rewards

The One-minute lecture 30 seconds of feeling 10 seconds of silence 20 seconds of compassion

Every Student is a Potential Winner! Some Are Disguised As Losers - Don’t Let Their Appearances Fool You!

Waltzing Home From Work Dr. John Draper CLAS Council for Leaders in Alabama Schools