Roles & Responsibilities of Parenting 4/25/2017 3:41 AM Roles & Responsibilities of Parenting Unit 1 Child Development © 2007 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved. Microsoft, Windows, Windows Vista and other product names are or may be registered trademarks and/or trademarks in the U.S. and/or other countries. The information herein is for informational purposes only and represents the current view of Microsoft Corporation as of the date of this presentation. Because Microsoft must respond to changing market conditions, it should not be interpreted to be a commitment on the part of Microsoft, and Microsoft cannot guarantee the accuracy of any information provided after the date of this presentation. MICROSOFT MAKES NO WARRANTIES, EXPRESS, IMPLIED OR STATUTORY, AS TO THE INFORMATION IN THIS PRESENTATION.

Unit Outline 2-2: What Parenthood Means 3-1: What Is Parenting? 3-2: Guiding Children’s Behavior

2-2 Objectives Describe the changes that parenthood brings. List considerations couples should look at before deciding to become parents. Using a process to build management skills

“Children Are Watching” Video Clip http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t3WioZcjbys What message is the video trying to convey?

Parenthood Brings About Changes Parenthood – the state of being a parent, which begins when one has a child by birth or adoption A child brings dramatic and long-lasting changes.

It is LIFE-LONG commitment!! New Responsibilities Raising a child is more than a day-to-day assignment… It is LIFE-LONG commitment!! A child needs - - - - Financial care LOVE Support Physical care Guidance

New Responsibilities You have to consider the child’s needs first. First time parents can feel overwhelmed. Family Friends Community Resources

Changes in Lifestyle Caring for a young child takes a huge amount of time and energy. Parents have limits placed on their personal freedom. Couples are better able to adjust to these changes in life if they prepare for them.

Emotional Adjustments Parents feel conflicting emotions such as: Fear of not being a good parent Frustration at the loss of personal freedom and the addition of new responsibilities. Worry over money matters Jealousy of the baby and the attention Depression due to exhaustion or to the physical changes of pregnancy and birth.

Changes in Relationships Some parents feel overwhelmed by negative emotions and begin to bicker or fight with one another. The key to getting past troubled spots is for the couple to have good communication.

Changes in Relationships Grandparents feel love and joy of their own and want to spend time with the baby. New parents may feel that the grandparent’s advice is really a criticism and resent it. The grand parents my feel hurt if their suggestions are rejected.

Changes in Work Working women may quit work or cut back on their hours to care for their child. Workers who often put in overtime or weekends may be less willing to put in extra hours. Companies have policies to help working parents. On-site child-care facilities Flexible hour

The Rewards of Parenthood Parents feel happiness, pride, and love. Parents can see the world with new eyes. Enrich an already healthy marriage Parents experience a great sense of accomplishment.

Making Decisions About Parenthood People who are thinking about parenthood should have a clear picture of what parenthood is. They also need to take a realistic look at themselves to see if they are ready for parenthood.

Emotional Maturity Emotional maturity – being responsible enough to consistently put someone else’s needs before you own Being secure enough to devote your full attention Prospective parents should take an honest look at their maturity

Desire for Parenthood Our marriage is in trouble. Maybe having a baby will solve our problems. I want to give a baby my care and love. I feel good about myself and believe that parenthood will be rewarding. Our parents want grandchildren. A baby is someone who will love me and belong to me.

Financial Concerns Raising a child is VERY expensive!! Couples should take a careful look at the cost involved over the years ahead. p.a.p.a. What Price is It?

Management Skills Becoming a good manager is a matter of following five steps: Set Goals Decide what is important for you and then make them into objectives for you to achieve. Identify Resources Figure out your resources to achieve your goal. Make a Plan Decide how you will use your resources to meet that goal.

Management Skills Put the plan in action. Once you have a plan, start working toward your goal. Reevaluate from time to time. Do you need more resources or different ones? Did you achieve your goal more easily than you expected?

3-1 Objectives: Explain how knowledge of child development is linked to reasonable expectations. Distinguish among different parenting styles. Identify ways to improve parenting skills. Describe how to nurture children.

Parenting: A Learning Process Parenting – caring for children and helping them develop Demands Good Judgment: Requires knowing when to help and when to back off Parents need to avoid pushing children to try activities they are not yet ready for. They have to avoid holding children back out of fear they may fail. The skills that parents need change as the child grows.

Having Reasonable Expectations An essential first step in effective parenting. Caregivers need to be sure to match their expectations to the particular child. Caregivers need to respect the differences between children. Act your age!!

Finding a Comfortable Parenting Style: Authoritarian – based on the idea that children should obey their parents without question. Democratic – children have more input into the rules and limits Permissive – parents give children a wide range of freedom.

Getting Help Ways to Build Parenting Skills Reading books and magazine articles about parenting Gaining experience with children Asking advice from family members and friends Observing other parents and children

The Tasks of Parenting 3 Basic Tasks Meet the child’s basic needs Nurture Guide children to show appropriate behavior

Meeting Children’s Needs Provide food, clothing and shelter Watch over their safety and health Begin teaching them language Foster intellectual growth by taking an active role in their schooling Teach them to get along with others Provide opportunities for them to love and be loved.

Nurturing Giving a child opportunities for encouragement and enrichment. Parents are children’s first teachers. Parents need to give children the freedom they need in order to learn. Adults should remove as many barriers as possible that prevent children from exploring the world on their own. Deprivation – lack if an enriching environment

Provide love and support Nurturing Provide love and support Some parents become overprotective and overattentive.

Communicating Positively Use words that the child can understand, but avoid talking down. Be clear. Think in terms of the child’s point of view. Be positive and polite. Give praise and love. Limit the directions to those that are essential. Talk about what’s meaningful to the child.