5 Parenting: A Learning Process Parenting: caring for children and helping them grow and developParents ShouldHave reasonable expectationsDevelop parenting skillsThe Stages of ParenthoodImage making (pregnancy)Nurturing (Becoming attached Birth-2)Authority (Determine rules 2-5)Interpretive (Deciding on values 5-13)Interdependent (Adolescence; establish boundaries)Departure (Child leaves home, empty feeling)
7 The Changes that Parenthood Brings New responsibilities and role conflictChanges in lifestyle (sometimes suddenly)Emotional adjustments (stop being selfish)Changes in relationshipsEmploymentIrreversibility
8 Making Decisions About Parenthood Emotional MaturityDesire for parenthoodA child cannot create miracles; saving of marriage, low self-esteem, attention issues, etc.Health ConsiderationsFinancial Concerns (can you afford a child)
10 Simple Truths“To Love a Child is Spelled T-I-M-E”
11 MOTHERHOOD Intensive Mothering Ideology What mothers ought to provide: Full-time attentionSelf-sacrificing devotionExpert guidedLabor-intensive involvement with the childChild’s needs are more pressing than those of mothersWHAT MOTHER COULD LIVE UP TO THIS EVEN IF SHE STAYED AT HOME. WHAT IF SHE WORKED?
12 FATHERHOOD Anxiety about abilities, baby, money. Witnessing birth is a positive bonding experience with child.“Nurturing father” is able to participate in all parenting practices – child benefits.Fatherhood is changing fast.
13 WHAT IT TAKES TO BE A FATHER Some Facts:½ of all children will spend part of their childhood in a father absent home.32% of all children are born to unmarried women. Among African American it is 68%.Children raised in two-parent families rarely experience poverty.Data has linked growing up without a father to:Under achievement in schoolMental illnessDrug abuseYouth suicideDelinquencyCrime