7 Habits of a highly effective teen: Habit #1 Be Proactive 7 Habits of a highly effective teen: Habit #1 Be Proactive

Habit #1 Be PROACTIVE the day’s lesson plan 1.Introduce Proactive and Reactive Language 2.Battle of the Sexes 3.Acrostic Poem 4.Positive Promises 5.Scenarios – Proactive vs. Reactive.

What does this quote mean? “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” -Aristotle

Three types of People People who make things happen People who watch things happen People who wonder…what happened

Four Human Tools 1.Self-Awareness 2.Conscience 3.Imagination 4.Willpower How will these tools help you be more proactive?

Proactive People are a different breed… Proactive People:  A A A Are not easily offended  T T T Take responsibility for their choices  T T T Think before they act  B B B Bounce back when something bad happens  A A A Always finds a way to make it happen  F F F Focus on things they can do something about, and don’t worry about things they can’t

Proactive Language  I’ll do it  I can do better than that  Let’s look at all our options  I choose to  There’s gotta be a way  I’m not going to let your bad mood rub off on me.

Reactive People… a common breed? Reactive People:  Are easily offended  Focuses on the negative  Blow off responsibilities  Blame others  React at the spur of the moment the moment  Get angry and say things they later regret  Get “beat down” when something bad happens

Reactive Language  I’ll try  That’s just the way I am  There’s nothing I can do  I have to??  I can’t  You ruined my day!

1.Separate in groups of boys and girls -Boys are Proactive words -Girls are Reactive words 2.Give the dry erase marker to one representative in your group. 3.When I say go, the 1 st representative writes down a word for their team on the board. 4.Once you write down one word, hand off the marker to another teammate. 5. Get as many words as you can before the time is up!

Acrostic Poem PROACTIVE REACTIVE

P LAY HARD R ESPECT YOUR FAMILY, YOUR SCHOOL O FFER TO HELP TO SOMEONE WHO NEEDS IT A CCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS C LEAN UP AFTER YOURSELF T AKE ACTION I NVITE A FRIEND TO A SCHOOL DANCE V ISIT A SICK FRIEND E NVISION A GOAL AND MEET IT P LAY HARD R ESPECT YOUR FAMILY, YOUR SCHOOL O FFER TO HELP TO SOMEONE WHO NEEDS IT A CCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS C LEAN UP AFTER YOURSELF T AKE ACTION I NVITE A FRIEND TO A SCHOOL DANCE V ISIT A SICK FRIEND E NVISION A GOAL AND MEET IT R ESTING WHEN YOU SHOULD BE WORKING E XPECT YOUR PARENTS TO BAIL YOU OUT A VOID CHALLENGES C UT OTHERS DOWN WHEN YOU FEEL THREATENED T ALK…TALK…TALK I NSIST THAT YOU ARE RIGHT, EVEN WHEN YOU ARE NOT V ENT ABOUT PROBLEMS THAT YOU DON’T INTEND TO SOLVE E XCUSES…EXCUSES…EXCUSES R ESTING WHEN YOU SHOULD BE WORKING E XPECT YOUR PARENTS TO BAIL YOU OUT A VOID CHALLENGES C UT OTHERS DOWN WHEN YOU FEEL THREATENED T ALK…TALK…TALK I NSIST THAT YOU ARE RIGHT, EVEN WHEN YOU ARE NOT V ENT ABOUT PROBLEMS THAT YOU DON’T INTEND TO SOLVE E XCUSES…EXCUSES…EXCUSES

Positive Promise  Make a positive promise to yourself  Something that you can keep within the next 48hrs  Write down your promise in your spiral notebook  Come back to class and discuss how well you accomplished your goal with a partner.  Was it realistic?  Were you able to keep your promise?

Scenarios: Proactive vs. Reactive I need 3 volunteers who aren’t afraid to act.I need 3 volunteers who aren’t afraid to act. You will be given a script for 2 scenariosYou will be given a script for 2 scenarios One is for showing reactive peopleOne is for showing reactive people Two is for showing proactive peopleTwo is for showing proactive people