Definition, and ways to develop positive self esteem in children.

Self Esteem Collection of beliefs or feelings that we have about ourselves. This is how we define ourselves which influences our motivations, attitudes and behaviors.

Self Esteem is based on: SOCIAL ACCEPTANCE OR WORTH: the extent to which people value and like themselves as well as perceive that they are valued by others.

Self Esteem is also based on: COMPETENCY The belief that one is able to accomplish tasks and achieve one’s goals.

Self Esteem is also based on: CONTROL: The degree to which individuals feel that they can influence outcomes and events in the world.

Self Efficacy The personal judgment about one’s ability to produce an effect or to learn a concept or a skill.

Self Concept The combination of perceptions that a person has about himself. The sense of being a distinct individual who possesses a blend of attributes, values, and behaviors that are unique.

Guides to Developing Positive Self Esteem Prepare a safe environment with durable toys and equipment and allow children to freely explore.

Avoid the use of general statements like “be careful” and “good job” Avoid the use of general statements like “be careful” and “good job”. Be descriptive in praise and encouragement. Refer to the Praise and Encouragement handout

Focus on what they can do rather than on what they can’t do Focus on what they can do rather than on what they can’t do. Be careful when talking about ourselves also, we tend to say negative things about ourselves when we make a mistake.

Treat all children equally and avoid comparisons. Be careful here, consider what we are saying when we say that we like how someone is sitting at circle to encourage other children to sit like them. Think about this as it is controversial.

Recognize each child’s elation when accomplishing a task and cheer the child’s successes and prosocial behavior.

Identify each child by name to aid in self concept learning Identify each child by name to aid in self concept learning. Be very careful of what you say about their family of origin in front of the child.

Help the children form friendships by planning schedules, space use, groupings, and activities that are designed to help them learn to work together and form friendships. Do not tolerate nastiness toward children by others.

Assist the children in learning to respect and value diversity. Have a classroom where it is safe to be whomever you are.

Study family makeup to understand children’s experiences better. Be as nonjudgmental as possible.

Help parents to learn, enjoy and feel competent in their parenting roles. Offer encouragement to parents as well as the children. “Brag” on the children in front of the parents, as long as no one would get embarrassed.