Positive Parenting 0 – 7 years

Health Commission of Australia has found in 2004: 56 children under 4 on anti‐depressants 728 children aged between 5‐9 on anti‐depressants 4,689 aged between 10‐14 on anti‐depressants Nationally prescriptions for people under 19 topped more than 250,000

Some Facts for Kids 3 % of all 3 year olds have severe tantrums 10 % of all parents of children 2-5 years ask for help with behavior problems Anti-social behavior accounts for 30-40% of referrals to child mental health services

What has disappeared? Gentle touch and games Fairy tales Being “present” not just in the room Playing real hands on games Games in the car Human conversation with real people Simple toys that don’t cost money Less parent direction

Terrifying Truth I am the decisive element in the life of a child. I create so many souls like me. I have tremendous power to make a child’s life joyous or miserable. I can be an agent of change. Pakistan can become a better or worse place because of me. My Mission Correlates with that of the PROPHETS.

What tends to be your goals or desires in parenting? Goals: _____________________ Desires: ____________________

What are your greatest struggles in parenting?! Answers: ___________________________

يَـٰٓأَيُّہَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ قُوٓاْ أَنفُسَكُمۡ وَأَهۡلِيكُمۡ نَارً۬ا At-Tahreem, 6

How important do you think it is to teach your children character building? (Pre-test)

How do you teach your children character building? – Pre-test

How often do you talk about character?

Social And Emotional Building Blocks Showing Respect to Others Being Considerate Having good social and communication skills Having healthy self esteem Becoming a good problem solver Become responsibly independent

Longer term consequences of not intervening early Poor relationships with others Low resilience Poor qualifications and work history Low frustration tolerance Easily upset and see “threat” everywhere Greater involvement in antisocial behaviour and drug misuse Families who feel let down, upset, angry or powerless.

10 Characteristics of Great Parents 1.Mindful parent (vision for their children) 2.Authoritative parenting style 3.Understand child temperament 4.Involved in child’s life 5.Think Win-Win with their children (rules) 6.Co-parent well 7.Consistent 8.Avoid harsh discipline 9.Explain decisions 10.Respect

Traits of Authoritative Parents Clear limits and boundaries Be firm but flexible Good communication Do many fun things together Let child be an individual

Principles of Discipline Have a few clear rules Speak simply Be “blasé” Be the boss Be warmly involved Give only one warning Don’t get into power struggles Set expectations and outcomes prior to events/challenges

Positive Parenting Parent with a plan Parent in freedom, not fear Parent with affection, but not softness Parent with authority, but not coercion Parent by being an awesome person

There is a mass of research to demonstrate that the more touch a child gets in childhood, the calmer and less fearful he is likely to be in adulthood....

Link child to Allah Ta’ala Raise according to Quran and Sunnah Be right role model Provide Islamic environment Paint right picture of Allah Ta’ala Stories of Rasulillah (SAW) and Sahabah Ultimate Authority is Allah Ta’ala وَإِذۡ قَالَ لُقۡمَـٰنُ لِٱبۡنِهِۦ وَهُوَ يَعِظُهُ ۥ يَـٰبُنَىَّ لَا تُشۡرِكۡ بِٱللَّهِ‌ۖ إِنَّ ٱلشِّرۡكَ لَظُلۡمٌ عَظِيمٌ۬

Early Childhood MedicalBehaviorDisciplineTarbiyaSpecific Issues Eating habitsSibling Rivalry Rule settingChoosing schools IllnessDeveloping Skills ReasoningFears Preventative Measures ReadingPositive strokes WritingCommunication Simple Chores

Activity In groups of three or four prepare a case study or story that you faced and now fit it with the parenting style.

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