EFFECTIVENESS

Self Awareness. Viktor Frankl. Responsibility. *Response-ability* Reactive V/S proactive. Language. Circle of Concern/Circle of Influence.

Ensuring correct destination/goals. The principle of “All things are created twice” Personal leadership. Rescripting and formulating your own mission statement. Life support factors. Security, guidance, wisdom and power. Centers in our life.

PRINCIPLE CENTER

Habit 3: First Things First

Time management: – Generation 1: notes and checklists – Generation 2: calendars and appointment books – Generation 3: idea of prioritization – Generation 4: don’t manage time. Manage yourself. Persevere and enhance relationships and accomplish results. Principle centered and conscience directed. You must learn to say NO.

Becoming a quadrant 2 self manager: – Identifying own roles – Selecting goals – Scheduling – Daily adapting – Living it Delegation can help you in spending more time in quadrant 2. Take help of others. Do not do everything yourself. Stewardship vs. Gofer Delegation

Emotional Bank Account – Level of trust in a relationship. – Understand individual – Attending to the little things – Keeping commitments – Clarifying Expectations – Showing personal integrity: no duplicity – Apologizing sincerely in case of withdrawal from account Primary law of love and life: give yourself to one individual rather than trying to please the masses.

There are 6 paradigms of human interaction: – Win-lose – Lose-win – Lose-lose – Win – Win-win – Win-Win or no deal

Five Dimensions of Win-Win – Character – Relationships – Agreements – Win-Win Management Training – Processes

Five forms of listening: – Ignoring – Pretending – Selective listening – Attentive listening – Empathic listening

Diagnose before you prescribe Avoid autobiographical responses – Evaluating – Probing – asking questions from own frame of reference – Advising – giving counsel based on own experience – Interpreting – trying to figure out the person’s motives and behavior based on our motives and behavior.

After understanding the other, make sure you are understood. Ethos, Pathos and Logos. Communicate one on one with people close to you.

What is synergy? The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.

Openness and communication can lead to significant improvement and phenomenal results =18 or 16 0r 8000 Synergistic Communication Opening yourself to new possibilities, new alternatives, new options. Synergy in Business

THIRD ALTERNATIVE Negative Synergy The key to interpersonal synergy is intrapersonal synergy. Intrapersonal synergy gives us the internal security to handle the risks of being open and vulnerable. Insecure people clone others and mold them over into their own thinking.

The essence of synergy Realizing that all people see the world, not as it is, but as they are. Recognize perceptual limits and our bounded rationality. Value the differences because those differences add to one’s knowledge and to our understanding of reality.

Sociologist Kurt Lewin Driving forces Restraining forces The driving forces encourage upward movement and the restraining forces discourages it.

The habit that makes all the other habits possible. It's preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have – you. Investing in one’s own self

Renewing the four dimensions of our nature physical, spiritual, mental, and social/emotional.

Caring effectively for our physical body Eating the right kinds of foods, getting sufficient rest and relaxation, and exercising on a regular basis. This will preserve and enhance our capacity to work and adapt and enjoy.

Provides leadership in your life Focus the sources that inspire and uplift through meditation, prayer, listening to an unknown voice. Spiritual renewal takes an investment of time It renews us, refreshes us

It is extremely valuable to train the mind to stand apart and examine the world and its realities. There's no better way to inform and expand your mind on a regular basis than to get into the habit of reading especially reading good literature.

The physical, spiritual, and mental dimensions are closely related to Habits 1, 2, and 3 whereas the social/emotional dimension focuses on Habits 4, 5, and 6 Emphasis on the principles of interpersonal leadership, communication, and creative cooperation-Public victory

Balance in Renewal Self-renewal process must include balanced renewal in all four dimensions of our nature. To neglect any one area negatively impacts the rest. Synergy in Renewal