1. Stephen Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
Presented by:
Monica van der Weele
MvdW

2. Objectives to share the lessons that one may learn from this book
to generate an acute awareness of the character ethic
to equip my friends with a concrete “road-map” for further self-exploration of the book’s principles on a day to day basis

3. BREAK Outline Introduction
Paradigms, Principles, Habits & Effectiveness
Private Victory min.
BREAK
Public Victory
Renewal
Discussion /Feedback min.

4. Introduction The author’s motivations
a personal experience concerning his son
expectancy theory:
how perceptions are formed
how they govern the way we see
& how the way we see governs the way we behave
in-depth study of success literature over the past 200 years

5. Introduction The Personality Ethic
dominant approach in the past 50 years
social image consciousness
two paths:
human and public relations techniques
positive metal attitude approach
inspiring & valid maxims
some clearly manipulative & even deceptive techniques

6. Introduction The Character Ethic
150 years pre World War I
idea that there are basic principles of effective living
enduring happiness and success by integrating these into our basic characters
foundational and catalytic

7. Introduction Primary & Secondary Greatness
the Personality Ethic is of secondary importance
natural systems based on the law of harvest!
the “7 habits” are basic - they are primary - representing the internalization of correct principles upon which enduring happiness and success are based.
“what you are shouts so loudly in my ears I cannot hear what you say”
- Emerson

8. Paradigms The way we see
commonly used to mean: a model, theory, perception, assumption - or frame of reference
a map - but the map is not the territory!
Awareness of our own paradigms:
our paradigms, whether correct or incorrect, are the source of our attitudes and behaviors – and determine our relationships with others

9. Paradigms Paradigm Shift
Thomas Kuhn: The Structure of Scientific Revolutions
instantaneous as well as gradual
the learning curve is determined by one’s basic character!
Being is Seeing. Seeing is Being.

10. Principles The Principle-Centered Paradigm
the Character Ethic is based on the fundamental idea that there are principles that govern human effectiveness
principles are natural laws that cannot be broken
constitute the “objective territory” (not just the map)
not esoteric, not mysterious, not “religious”
self-evident and easily validated by any individual
Deep within our conscience and common sense

11. Principles Growth and Change
a process: “a thousand mile journey begins with the first step”
the Personality Ethic amounts to “borrowing strength”
Inside-Out: private victories before public victories!
the way we see the problem is the problem

12. Habits An Overview
Our character, basically, is a composite of our habits
deeply rooted, often unconscious
consistent and cohesive
express our character
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not and act, but a habit.”
- Aristotle

13. Habits Definition what to do and why how want to do
the intersection of:
takes all 3 for a habit!
iterative spiral: seeing & being
what to do
and why
want
to do
how

14. The 7 Habits The Maturity Continuum
Interdependence WE
5. Seek first to
understand...
Public
Victory
6. Synergize
4. Think Win-Win I
7. Sharpen the saw
Independence
2. Begin with the
end in mind
3. Put first
things first
Private
Victory
1. Be Proactive
Dependence
YOU

15. The 7 Habits Effectiveness
for all assets: physical, financial and human

16. Habit 1-BE PROACTIVE Overview
self-awareness
a unique human capability
the reason why we can break our habits
3 social/deterministic maps:
genetic determination
psychic determination
environmental determination
1. Be Proactive
Private
Victory
Stimulus
Response

17. Habit 1-BE PROACTIVE Between Stimulus and Response
Freedom to
Choose
Self-
Awareness
Imagination
Conscience
Independent
Will

18. Habit 1-BE PROACTIVE “Proactivity” Defined
response-ability
= the ability to subordinate a an impulse to a value
3 central values identified by Victor Frankl:
The ATTITUDINAL
The CREATIVE
The EXPERIENTIAL

19. Habit 1-BE PROACTIVE Circle of Concern /Circle of Influence
Maintaining a proactive focus:
Circle of
Influence

20. Habit 1-BE PROACTIVE Direct, Indirect and No Control
solved by
changing our
methods of
influence
The problems we face are threefold:
Indirect
Control
Possible
involving
other
people’s
behavior
= Public
Victories
(habits 4,5,6)
involving
our
behavior
Direct
Control
Possible
solved by
working on
our habits
solved by
changing the
way we see... No
Control
Possible
our past
& situational
realities
= Private
Victories
(habits 1,2,3)

21. Habit 1-BE PROACTIVE At the Heart of the Circle of Influence
Our ability to
make
and keep
commitments
& promises
Circle of
Influence

22. Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Overview
the most fundamental application: visualization of your death & the graveside perspectives from family, friends, work colleagues and the community
underlying principle: all things are created twice - mental (1st creation) and physical (2nd creation)
default verses design
personal leadership verses Management (what and how)
imagination and conscience
Private
Victory
2. Begin with the
end in mind

23. Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Highest Leverage PC Work
whatever is at the center of our lives will be the source of our:
4. WISDOM
- SENSE OF WORTH
- IDENTITY
- EMOTIONAL ANCHORAGE
CENTER
1. SECURITY
- YOUR SENSE OF BALANCE
- UNDERSTANDING THE WHOLE
- SOURCE OF DIRECTION IN LIFE
- INTERNAL FRAME OF REFERENCE
- STANDARDS AND PRINCIPLES
3. POWER
2. GUIDANCE
- FACULTY TO ACT
- STRENGTH & POTENCY TO ACCOMPLISH SOMETHING

24. Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Alternative Centers
spouse centeredness
family centeredness
money centeredness
work centeredness
possessions centeredness
pleasure centeredness
friend/enemy centeredness
church centeredness
self centeredness

25. Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND A Principle Center (1)
Security
principles do not change (only our understanding of them does)
principles do not react to anything
principles are larger than circumstances
Wisdom and Guidance
principles supply the correct maps
Personal Power
unrestricted by the attitudes, behaviors and actions of others
Only limitation: the natural consequences of the principles themselves - a universal law.

26. Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND A Principle Center (2)
The principle center puts all other centers into perspective
spouse
family
PRINCIPLES
friend/enemy
money
etc.
self
work
church
possessions
pleasure

27. Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Using a Mission Statement
through conscience (of our own uniqueness) we detect our missions in life by working within our circle of influence
it will take time and should be reviewed regularly
the process is as important as the product
use your whole brain:
using imagination to visualize and affirm (right brain activity)
capturing these images and plotting them (left: roles and goals)
- personal
- positive
- present tense
- emotional
- visualized
AFFIRMATIONS

28. Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST Overview
The practical fulfillment of habits 1 and 2 (i.e.the 2nd creation)
exercising independent will to become principle centered through day-to-day effective self-management
“Manage form the LEFT” (versus lead from the RIGHT)
a measure of the value we place on ourselves!
ensuring that your habits are a function of your values - not the mood and/or circumstances of the moment
management amounts to discipline in the area of life and time management
3. Put first
things first
Private
Victory

29. Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST Four Generations of Time Management
Notes and
Checklists
+ Calendars
and
Appointment
Books
+ Calendars &
Appointment
Books
+ prioritization
Satisfaction
is a function of
expectations
& time!
1. recognition
of demands
2. attempt to
look ahead
3. Setting of
goals and
short / long
term planning
current
efficiency
focused
approach
(things & time)
Emerging
effectiveness
approach
(relationships &
results)

30. Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST Quadrant II Activities
important I.
crises
pressing problems
deadline driven projects
II.
prevention, PC activities
relationship building
recognizing opportunities
planning, recreation
require more
initiative &
proactivity!
not important
III.
interruptions (some calls)
some mails & reports
some meetings
popular activities
IV.
Trivia, busy work
some mail
some phone calls
time wasters
urgent
not urgent

31. Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST Quadrant I Results
important I.
stress
burnout
crisis management
always putting out fires
problem minded people
deadline driven producers
you are
overcome by
“waves” of
activity!
urgent

32. Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST Quadrant III Results
not
important
III.
Short term focus
crises management
chameleon character reputation
feel victimized and out of control
inability to set goals and make plans
shallow or broken relationships
you are work-
in terms of
other people’s
expectations
and priorities!
urgent

33. Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST Into the Danger Zone
not
important
III. & IV.
total irresponsibility!
Fired from jobs
depend on others for basics
effective people
stay out of here!
urgent or not,
they aren’t
important!
Urgent / not urgent

34. Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST Quadrant II Results
important I.
The
of effective
personal
management!
Feeding
opportunities
& starving
problems!
P/PC balance!
II.
vision, perspective
balance
discipline
control
few crises
Not urgent

35. Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST Learn to Say NO
NB: you are always saying NO to something!
Quadrants III and IV must make way for Quadrant II
a center of correct principles and a focus on our personal mission empowers us with the wisdom to take these yes/no decisions effectively
NO.

36. Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST Moving to Quadrant II
A Quadrant II Organizer Tool will meet the following six criteria:
COHERENCE
PORTABILITY
BALANCE
FLEXIBILITY
QUADRANT II FOCUS
PEOPLE DIMENSION

37. Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST Becoming a QII Self-Manager
Long-Term Organizing:
WEEKLY Organizing:
Mission
Statement
Roles
Goals
Schedule
Delegate
Weekly
Roles
Weekly
Goals
Plans

38. Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST Delegation: Increasing P & PC
we delegate to TIME (efficiency) or PEOPLE (effectiveness)
temptation to delegate to time
delegating to people empowers both parties
Producer:
Manager:
input
output
output
input

39. Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST Delegation: Gofer verses Stewardship
stewardship focuses on RESULTS rather than METHODS
5 aspects must be mutually understood:
DESIRED RESULTS
CONSEQUENCES
GUIDELINES
RESOURCES
ACCOUNTABILITY

40. Public Victory Introduction
self-mastery precedes good relationships
the emotional bank account paradigm - 6 major deposits:
understand the individual
attend to little things
keep commitments
clarify expectations
show personal integrity
apologize sincerely
Public
Victory
4. Think Win-Win
5. Seek first to
understand...
6. Synergize

41. Habit 4 - THINK WIN/WIN Overview
not a technique - but a total philosophy of human interaction
one of six paradigms of interaction:
win / win (a better way)
win / lose (authoritarian approach)
lose / win (loser / peacemaker at all costs)
lose / lose (enemy centeredness)
win (other parties irrelevant)
win / win or no deal
It depends...
Public
Victory
4. Think Win-Win

42. Habit 4 - THINK WIN/WIN 5 Dimensions
(1)
win/win
character
(2)
win/win
relationships
(3)
win/win
agreements
Supporting systems (4) and processes (5)
the emotional bank account
Performance & Partnership
(focus on results not methods)
w/w
l/w
l/l
w/l
consideration ->
courage >
Integrity
Maturity
Abundance Mentality

43. Habit 5: Seek first to understand… Overview
within your circle influence
four basic forms of communication: speak, read, write and listen
character and communication
a profound paradigm shift:
emotional bank account deposits
understanding of the center
when you listen, you learn
ignoring
pretending
selective
listening
attentive
listening
empathic
listening
Public
Victory
5. Seek first to
understand...

44. Habit 5: Seek first to understand… 4 Autobiographical Responses
1. we evaluate
by either agreeing
or disagreeing
2. we probe
from our own
frame of reference
3. we interpret
based on our own
motives and behavior
Generally:
4. we advise
based on our
own experiences
communication
is logical/open
asking questions
and give counsel
communication
is emotional
reverting to
empathic listening

45. Habit 5: Seek first to understand… AND then to be understood
part of win/win!!
ethos
pathos
logos 1. 2. 3.

46. Habit 6: SYNERGIZE Overview
the whole is greater then the sum of the parts
the relationship between the parts is significant
WE LIVE IN AN INTERDEPENDENT REALITY
Public
Victory
6. Synergize

47. Habit 6: SYNERGIZE Definition
when faced with our greatest challenges… with:
we create NEW ALTERNATIVES - something that wasn’t there before!
the creativity can be terrifying as the outcome is unsure...
4 unique human
endowments
self-awareness
imagination
conscience
independent will
the true
motive of
WIN / WIN
skill of
empathic
listening

48. Habit 6: SYNERGIZE Levels of Communication
Defensive (win/lose or lose/win)
Respectful (compromise)
Synergistic (win//win)
high
TRUST
low
low
high
COOPERATION

49. Habit 6: SYNERGIZE The Middle Way
compromise
a higher way!

50. Habit 6: SYNERGIZE Intrapersonal and interpersonal Synergy
The essence of synergy
is to value the differences!
to move beyond our own
perceptual limitations
to increase our own awareness
to affirm others L R

51. Habit 6: SYNERGIZE The Growth & Change Force Field
restraining forces 4 5 6
current level
of performance
driving forces

52. Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw Overview
PERSONAL PC !
7. Sharpen the saw
Sometimes when I consider
what tremendous consequences
come from little things…
I am tempted to think…
there are no
little things.
Bruce
Barton
Principles of
Balanced
Self-Renewal

53. Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw 4 Dimensions of Renewal
PHYSICAL
Exercise, Nutrition,
Stress Management
MENTAL
Reading, Visualizing,
Planning, Writing
SOCIAL /
EMOTIONAL
Service, Empathy,
Synergy, Intrinsic Security
SPIRITUAL
Value Clarification &
Commitment, Study &
Meditation

54. Conclusion