Building Healthy Lifelong Relationships

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Why Do People Date? Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 4

Why Date? Socialization Recreation Mate Selection Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 5

Socialization How does dating provide social skills? 6

Purpose of Dating Socialization Developing appropriate social skills o Learn how to get along with others o Recognize the impact your words and actions have on others o Learn about yourself o Learn how to give and take in relationships Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 7

Recreation How does dating provide recreational activities? 8

Purpose of Dating Recreation –Have fun and enjoy the companionship of others –Try new and different activities Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 9

Mate Selection How does dating help you with selecting a mate? 10

Purpose of Dating Mate Selection –Helps you prepare for healthy relationships –Lets you see others in different settings –Helps you learn about others’ personalities and characteristics Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 11

Types of Dating What are different types of dating situations? Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 12

Types of Dating Group Dating Pair Dating Steady Dating Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 13

Group Dating Also known as “hanging out”. Activities are planned by both boys and girls such as: –going to the movies, the mall, or any other local hangout Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 14

Group Dating Easy way to begin dating. You can begin talking to different people without the pressure Gives you the opportunity to learn about many other types of people Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 15

Pair Dating Also known as casual dating No long-term commitment involved Provides a chance to grow socially, and no one feels disloyal or jealous May lead to a more serious relationship Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 16

Steady Dating Also known as “going out” Two people agree to date exclusively Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 17

Steady Dating Provides security –You will have security that you will have a date when you need one. –You will know what to expect from the other person when you go somewhere. Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 18

QUESTIONS? Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 19

Road to a Healthy Relationship Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 20

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What are realistic expectations? 22

Realistic Expectations No one’s life is perfect and happy all the time. Problems will arise, and what is important is how well you and your partner handle difficult situations together. Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 23

Little Girl's Point of View of Marriage (click on link) 24

What is an Engagement?

Sense of Humor Laughing with - but not at - your partner is a healthy component to a relationship. Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 26

Components of a Healthy Relationship

Good Communication What are the four ingredients to successful communication? Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 28

Good Communication Four Ingredients to Successful Communication Empathy Keeping in touch Sharing your ups and downs Listening Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 29

Problem Solving and Communication

Appreciation Appreciation is shown through compliments, praise and thoughtfulness. A simple “thank you” or a hug are ways to show appreciation. Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 31

Trust Trust is….. Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 32

Trust Trust makes for a secure foundation. To establish trust, one does not use or need power or force to hold the marriage together. Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 33

What Is Love? (click on link) Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 34

Healthy Relationships Station Activities Realistic Expectations Good Communication Sense of Humor Trust Appreciation 35

Five Station Activities 36 Groups will consist of 3-5 members. Complete each activity. All station activities will be turned in at the end of each day.

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References and Resources Images Microsoft Clip Art: Used with permission from Microsoft. Textbooks Harter, Ph.D., M., & Ryder, V. (2004). Contemporary living. (9th ed.). Tinley Park, Illinois: The Goodheart-Willcox Company. Inc. Johnson, L. (2010). Strengthening family & self. (6th ed.). Tinley Park, Illinois: The Goodheart-Willcox Company. Inc. Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved. 38

References and Resources YouTube(tm): 5 Year Old Needs a Job Before Getting Married What is Love? Do marriage vows seem to mean as much today as they used to? If you've heard anything about the increase in divorce rates, you may wonder. Bill & Glad are ignoring the trends. More than ever the vows they made 50 years ago are being tested. In sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, the promise they are keeping is a true example of what love is Copyright © Texas Education Agency, All rights reserved.