Teaching the Discovering the Real Me Series Student Textbook & Teacher’s Manual 10

Discovering the Real Me Student Textbook 10: Building Successful Relationships Ages 15 to 16 years 17 topics dealing with contemporary situations facing teens Questions for reflection and discussion Active exercises Reflection exercises

Topics Covered Relationship building Resolving conflicts Love and friendship Communication skills Purity Preparing for marriage

Teacher’s Manual 10 Gives advice and instruction to the teacher about how to conduct the lessons Introductory section 1. Balanced education 2. Teaching methods 3. Course requirements & expectations 4. Ice breakers Two lesson plans for each chapter

Goals of Character Education To know the good – head To care about the good – heart To do the good – hands

Each Chapter Has Cognitive, Affective & Behavioral Goals Educating the Head, Heart & Hands

Sample Chapter 5: “Respect in Relationships” Definition of respect—to treat someone or something as being valuable Learning to respect others  Established first in the family  Learning manners and sharing  Seeing things from another’s viewpoint Listening—a great way to show respect

“Respect in Relationships”: Cognitive Objectives Students will understand the importance of respect in all human interactions

“Respect in Relationships”: Affective Objectives Students will feel respect for others and appreciate being treated with respect

“Respect in Relationships”: Behavioral Objectives Students will: Learn listening skills List respectful, respected people Role-play respect Distinguish respectful and disrespectful behavior in given situations

“Respect in Relationships”– Discussion Students think about two situations where they disagree with someone older. One older person is respectful, the other is not. Later students find out the older person was right. In each case students are asked:  How do you feel?  How easy would it be to go to the other person and admit you were wrong? Students learn that when people disagree respectfully, it is easier to come together again around the truth

“Respect in Relationships”– Reflection Exercise “When we fail to show respect, problems occur” Do you agree? What kinds of problems can arise?

Sample Chapter 11: “Resolving Conflict and Forgiveness”

Main Points We live in a world full of conflicts Result of selfishness and insensitivity The only way to resolve conflict is through forgiveness  Resist the temptation to judge  Be compassionate  Imagine the possibility of reconciliation

“Resolving Conflict and Forgiveness”: Cognitive Objectives Students will understand the importance of forgiveness

“Resolving Conflict and Forgiveness”: Affective Objectives Students will feel forgiveness towards those who have wronged them in some way

“Resolving Conflict and Forgiveness”: Behavioral Objectives Students will describe ways to bring about forgiveness and give examples They will list 5 good things about a person they have not been able to forgive

“Resolving Conflict and Forgiveness”–Discussion “An element of goodness may be found even in our worst enemy…there is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us.” Do students agree? Martin Luther King, Jr.

“Resolving Conflict and Forgiveness”– Exercise Name 5 good things about someone you are having a hard time forgiving It may be hard at first Do you feel a little less negative toward that person now?

Life Concerns of Teens Desire for independence and freedom Dealing with peer pressure Learning how to relate and communicate Trying to understand what love is Coping with their sexual feelings Looking towards adulthood and marriage

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