Bell Work- Page 105 What does a “healthy relationship” mean to you? Describe the characteristics you are looking for in a friend, boyfriend/girlfriend and acquaintances. How do these characteristics compare? How are they similar and/or different? Page 101- Finish Stigma Reflection

Healthy Relationships 2018

Essential Question- page 105: What are the characteristics of a healthy relationship? What must all relationships have in order to be considered “healthy”?

Ground Rules Respect each other’s point of view, even if it is different from yours. Raise your hand. Your thoughts are important and we don’t want to miss anyone’s ideas by having several people talk at once. Confidentiality. Do not use names or other identifying information when speaking about unhealthy relationships involving friends or family members. The stories shared in the room stays in the room, but share all the educational information learned. No put downs. It is ok to pass

Re-Locate Find a partner We are going to The Commons! One person is partner A The other is partner B We are going to The Commons! 15 minutes or so Expectations: Stay with the class Participate in the activities

Small Group Discussion about Healthy Relationships Form two circles- one large and one small Partner A- outside Partner B- inside Partner B Partner A

Small Group Discussion about Healthy Relationships 3. I will read a topic question and you will have 45 seconds to discuss the topic with the person you are facing. 4. At the end of 45 seconds, partner A will rotate right to face the next partner B person, and I will read the next topic question.

Discussion Questions Who are people in your life that make you feel good about being yourself? Why? What are the characteristics or qualities you look for in a friend? Does it matter if the friend is a guy or a girl? Why/Why not? Should you look for the same qualities in a boyfriend or girlfriend as in a friend? Can you choose how you want to be treated in a dating relationship?

Discussion Questions (Continued) How do you want your teachers and coaches to treat you- is respect given or is it earned? How do you think you should treat your teachers and coaches- is respect a given or is it earned? How do you want to be treated by your parents? Do you get along with your parents? Why or why not? If your best friend were bossy, cruel, or aggressive toward you, you’d probably find a new best friend. But some people think it’s OK to tolerate such behavior from a partner. Why?

Health Walk! We will walk as a class to the library and back to the classroom. The first lap is required, 2nd lap is optional No sitting in the commons- students must walk on health walks Students have a 10-15 minute limit- if they are not back to class on time, they will be marked absent for the day.

I’m 17- page 107 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0OkOQhXhsIE &sns=em 1. What stood out to you in the video? Why? 2. When have you felt belittled to someone because of your age? 3. Have there been other times when you have felt belittled for another reason? Explain.

Types of Relationships- page 105 Parents Boyfriends/Girlfriends Friends Teachers Coaches Other parents/adults Co-workers You can be in a healthy relationship with anyone in your life – family, friends, teachers, coaches, co-workers, and dating (boyfriend or girlfriend).

8 Characteristics of Healthy Relationships Respect – Being accepted and allowed to be who you are. Safety – Feeling safe both emotionally and physically. Support – Caring for you and want what is best for you. Individuality – Feeling like you can be yourself; after all, being an individual is what makes you, you! Fairness and Equality – Having an equal say in your relationships. Acceptance –Friends or girlfriend/boyfriend accepting you for whom you really are. Honesty and Trust – Honesty builds trust. You can’t have a healthy relationship without trust Communication – Talking face-to-face (not just by text) about your feelings.

Let ‘Em Go- page 107 Label your tree. What are relationships that you have that you could categorize as: Leaves, Branches and Roots. https://www.youtube.com/ watch?v=WJ-aWRVm9uQ

Unhealthy Relationships- page 105 Write down 3: Using threats:  Making and/or carrying out threats of hurting you; threatening to leave you, threatening to commit suicide Using intimidation:  Making you afraid by using looks, actions, gestures; smashing things; destroying your property; abusing pets; displaying weapons. Using emotional abuse:  Putting you down; calling you names; playing mind games; humiliating you; making you feel guilty; making you think you're crazy; making you feel bad about yourself. Using isolation:  Controlling what you do, who you see and talk to, what you read, where you go; limiting your outside involvement; using jealousy to justify actions. Denying:  Making light of the abuse and not taking your concerns about it seriously Abusing authority:  Treating you like a servant; making all big decisions; acting like the "master of the castle"; being the one to define roles in the relationship. Using economic abuse:  Preventing you from getting or keeping a job; making you ask for money; giving you an allowance; taking your money.

How to Help a Friend How would you help a friend that is in an unhealthy relationship? Tell them what you have seen, heard or felt and that you are worried for them- be sure to use “I” statements. For example, “I feel worried about you because I saw your boyfriend make fun of you.” Listen and don’t judge your friends Encourage them to talk to an adult they trust

Diversity among Relationships In relationships, people can have a variety of different characteristics. Write down 3: Age Disability National origin Race Marital Status Sexual Orientation Gender

Tolerance for Diversity Tolerance- the ability or willingness to be kind to someone, even if their lifestyle or choices they make are different than yours. It is important to treat EVERYONE with respect, regardless of their differences.

Relationship Reflection- page 107 Make a list of characteristics that make a good relationship and a bad relationship.

Partner Work! Find a partner and read the provided article.

Partner Work! Next, with your partner, read the following scenario and answer the provided questions on a scratch piece of paper.

Partner Work! Next, with your partner, read the following scenario and answer the provided questions on a scratch piece of paper.

Class Discussion Mrs. Stadelman will randomly call on groups to share their responses to the provided questions. Volunteers are always welcome to respond.

If You Knew Game Instructions On the provided notecard, write down 3 things about yourself that someone who knows you really well would know. Note: ONLY write down information that you are comfortable with everyone knowing and make sure they are school appropriate.

Healthy Relationships Assignment- Page 106 Instructions: Create a poster, song lyrics or a newspaper article about healthy relationships. You must fill one blank white sheet of paper with content. Include information from your notes. The definition of tolerance Advice for how to help a friend who may be in an unhealthy relationship Characteristics of healthy relationships Include at least 1 drawing Add color!