SESSION 4 Understanding behaviour 4.1

Understanding behaviour All behaviour has a goal SESSION PLAN Boundaries House rules Routines Understanding behaviour All behaviour has a goal 4.2

UNDERSTANDING BEHAVIOUR ALL parents struggle with children’s behaviour. This is more so if their child has special needs. Having realistic expectations. Why children behave the way they do. 4.3

BOUNDARIES Parents may feel their child with special needs already has enough to cope with, so it’s kinder to let them behave how they like. Is this a good policy? 4.4

THE NEED FOR BOUNDARIES When children know what is expected of them they feel: Loved Safe Secure 4.5

What rules do you have or would like to have in your home? HOUSE RULES What rules do you have or would like to have in your home? 4.6

REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS How realistic are your house rules for your special needs child? How will this affect the other children? Do you need to relax or adapt any? 4.7

ROUTINES What routines does your family have? Routines give children a sense of security. They make life easier for parents. 4.8

BREAK 4.9

UNDERSTANDING BEHAVIOUR What is this child trying to communicate? 4.10a and 4.10b

UNDERSTANDING BEHAVIOUR What is this child trying to communicate? 4.11a and 4.11b

CHILDREN ‘ACT OUT’ THEIR NEEDS AND FEELINGS 4.12

ALL BEHAVIOUR HAS A GOAL 4.13

ABC OF UNDERSTANDING BEHAVIOUR A – Action What happened before behaviour occurred? B – Behaviour What exactly did the child do? C – Consequence What happened next? 4.14

WHAT WAS THE POSSIBLE GOAL BEHIND THE BEHAVIOUR? 4.15 Who wins?

WHAT WAS THE POSSIBLE GOAL BEHIND THE BEHAVIOUR? 4.16

BEHAVIOUR DETECTIVE A. What happened just before the behaviour? B. What exactly did your child do? C. What happened next? What was their possible goal or need? 4.17

REFLECTION Today we have looked at: Last week’s focus for the week Boundaries House rules Routines Understanding behaviour All behaviour has a goal 4.18

FOCUS FOR THE WEEK Play detective this week – focus on one behaviour you want to tackle. With the whole family – agree a few house rules to follow this week. Encourage each other when you succeed. 4.19

We will be looking at managing behaviour. NEXT WEEK We will be looking at managing behaviour. 4.20